Compared with family affection and love, friendship is freer. It has neither the blood ties of family affection nor the heavy responsibility of love. Therefore, friendship can better reflect a person's interpersonal relationships. So, what is young people’s understanding of friendship? Where are their friends from? What reasons would cause them to quit a friendship?
Most young people believe that it is easier to become friends with people they have spent time with; some of them believe that true friendship can only develop in reality. In this friendship, there are several very important keywords: support, companionship, mutual help, appreciation, fun, and care. In other words, a friend is someone you can talk to without any worries. Even if we can't contact each other every day because of our own lives, as long as we can help at critical moments, this friendship will last forever.
According to big data, many young people only have 1 to 5 close friends, and only a handful of people have more than 10 friends. Most of these friends are from companies or schools. Moreover, many friends of those born in the 1990s and 1995s are former classmates and colleagues. Even among those born after 2000 who grew up in the Internet age, less than 20% of them have real online friends. However, compared to those born in the 90s and 95s, those born in the 2000s are better at making good friends on dating apps. Of course, there are people who have no friends.
Disagreement in three views is the biggest reason why young people lose their friends. No matter how strong the friendship is at the beginning, if there is a disagreement in the communication, the friendship will break down immediately. This is the same for those born in the 90s, 95s and 00s. There are three other important reasons: speaking ill of friends behind their backs; constantly criticizing friends; and criticizing friends' lives. These reasons will make people feel that the relationship between the other party and you is that of a commander and a soldier. One is aloof and pointing fingers, while the other is doing everything wrong.
In addition, there is a large difference in the level of dedication between the two parties, and treating friends as emotional trash cans is also a reason why young people end their friendships. The former makes people feel that they are "friendship nannies" and have to take care of their friends in every possible way, even losing themselves. The latter makes people feel that they are "friendly NPCs" and can only be beaten and scolded without resistance. Over time, their emotions will be affected and they will face life negatively. In addition, there are also a very small number of people who feel that the other person's borrowing money from them, forgetting their birthday, etc. will cause them to withdraw from this friendship.