"A Brief Discussion on the Path of Happy Life (About Goal/Direction/Ideal/Pursuit)"

Introduction: The picture is the framework of the full text. It is easier to understand if you look at the picture first. It turns out that happiness It's so easy to implement! This article is a practical guide. I hope it can help you strengthen your understanding of happiness and answer the question "How can you achieve a happy life?"

A happy life consists of inner happiness and outer happiness

What is the purpose of our lives? Most people’s answer: Live happily!

How to live happily? Both sides, inner and outer happiness, have the greatest happiness at the same time, and the two complement each other. Inner happiness: a state of peace that can be maintained at all times without external interference, achieved through self-awareness. External happiness: happiness that is influenced by the outside world and comes from the satisfaction of needs, achieved by satisfying one's own needs.

External happiness is easy for us to feel, but inner happiness is easily ignored. Under the condition that external happiness is satisfied to a certain extent, we should pursue inner happiness appropriately. We may usually feel happy because of the following things, such as eating a big meal, receiving many year-end bonuses from the company, traveling with parents, relatives and friends, singing karaoke and watching movies, etc. These are all external happiness. We usually see a small number of people who seem to have nothing happened, but they always look peaceful and happy. Even if something bad does happen, it will not have much impact on them. , these people belong to the category of inner happiness. More than ninety percent of the time we live is mundane. For people who only understand external happiness, we don’t know whether we are happy most of the time. Just like many office workers, entrepreneurs, freelancers, government workers, etc., it is difficult for us to clearly answer the question of how others live their lives. We are happy most of the time and are numb most of the time, which leads some of us to look for excitement (eating, drinking, gambling, foot massage, etc.) to obtain external happiness when there is nothing to do. For those who understand the inner doorway to happiness, they can basically feel the sound of their bodies all the time, can fully feel their own joys, sorrows, and joys and accept them. They live in a peaceful state where they feel good about themselves. Combining outer happiness with inner happiness is a great way for us to achieve greater happiness.

Achieving inner happiness

Achieving inner happiness requires enlightenment through self-cultivation, and finally fully integrating it into life and truly living in the present. Specific methods of practice include: meditation, meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, running, etc. Recommended books: "Meeting the Unknown Self", "Tibetan Book of Life and Death", "The Power of Now", etc.

Obtaining external happiness

Achieving external happiness requires the satisfaction of one's own needs.

Our own needs

We must first ask ourselves: What are my needs? What do I want?

For this question, we assume this scenario to answer: If you suddenly become old and are about to pass away, what regrets will you have? Do you have any memories or things that are worth remembering, unforgettable, and beautiful to think about? You can do this, find a place without outside interference, stay alone for a few hours, take a pen and write down the answers you can think of on paper, 10, 20, 100, 200, etc., and put those answers that can make you happy. Write down the answers that made you tearful, ecstatic, and touched you.

Everyone’s answers may be different, but surveys show that most people have the following needs: career, physical (food, clothing, sex, etc.), health (diet, exercise, etc.), emotional (family affection) , friendship, love, etc.), experiences (interests, hobbies, travel, entertainment, food, etc.), etc.; things that most people think are worth remembering: happy processes, unforgettable and valuable experiences, deep friendships, etc. (Please refer to "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Theory")

Career needs

If you find the right career direction, more than half of your career needs will be satisfied.

The correct career direction can give us great happiness in meeting our career needs!

Clear career direction

The correct career direction should be based on whether it can satisfy your ambitions! Next, we will discuss the determination of the direction of career needs. Physical, health, emotional, and experiential needs will not be discussed in detail for the time being. (The satisfaction of physical, health, emotional, and experience needs is affected to a certain extent by money. For the poor (who need to support their families by themselves), the direction of career may have something to do with money, but money is not the main factor; Rich people don’t need to consider money when choosing a career. The pursuit of ambition is always the best criterion for our choice!)

The following is a summary of several career direction choices in reality to see which one is the best! The choice you make now, think about why you chose it.

1. Talent direction. The choice of very few. If you have a talent for something, then this should be your first choice (thanks to your parents for the education). This way you can give full play to your talents and maximize your personal value and social contribution.

2. Pursue direction. The choice of the few. Choose the job you want to do based on your own ambitions and pursuits, without being limited by other factors. If you achieve it, it will be enough to comfort you for a lifetime. If you fail to achieve it, you will have no regrets in this life. This is suitable for people with a clear outlook on life and values, often based on broad insights and deep awareness.

3. Interests and hobbies. The choice of the few. What has made you happiest in the past? What kind of information do you like to follow most? What events will trigger your intense concern? What is your favorite type of book to read? etc. Through the answers to these questions, you can clarify your interests and hobbies, and choose your career direction based on them. The premise is that the direction of this hobby can meet your ambition and pursuit. There are different sizes of careers. If it cannot be achieved, the direction of your ambition and pursuit will prevail, and the hobby will be used as a spare time pastime. For example, you like playing guitar, but your guitar career cannot satisfy your ambition to save the country and the people.

4. Entrepreneurship direction. The choice of the few. There are two types, one is oriented towards the pursuit of ambition and the other is oriented towards money. The first type is worthy of admiration and is ambitious to pursue, but it is necessary to be prepared in the early stage. It is necessary to master certain management and economic knowledge. It is necessary to exercise your abilities. Starting a business is to go to the battlefield. It is not suitable as a practitioner. It will waste your time. time with others. The second one should be clearly pursued as soon as possible, embark on your own career path, and don't be a slave to money.

5. Ability direction. The choice of the majority. Choosing industries and careers based on the knowledge, skills and abilities you currently have is in line with the choice of most of us. The premise is that this direction can achieve the level of your pursuit, otherwise the pursuit direction should prevail. "Why Lu Xun abandoned medicine and followed literature" can help us understand this truth.

6. Money direction. The choice of ordinary people. Being money-oriented, go to whichever industry or position offers the most money. For those who are forced by the pressure of life, this is acceptable as a temporary choice, but they should be pursued clearly as soon as possible, and they cannot always be a slave to money. Just like many people nowadays are rushing to high-tech and spend money to attend training courses for certain skills, without considering whether they like the job and whether it is the best training for them or whether they can realize their ideals and ambitions.

7. Others: waiting for your addition!

In reality, due to various reasons, most of us choose the fifth and sixth options. It doesn’t matter which one you choose, but we should persevere in clarifying our life ambitions and pursuits, and then make more correct career direction choices. This requires a process. People who don’t pursue and don’t work hard to find may not be able to find them in their lifetime. arrive.

Have you found it yet?

Clear career pursuit

How to clarify your pursuit? Establish an ideal that is enough to comfort you throughout your life? (The ideal in life should be set as high as possible, at least enough for us to work hard for decades, otherwise what’s the point of reaching it all at once!)

Let’s answer the question first, what do you want to be? person? Who do you admire? For example, the boss of your company department, the general manager of the company, the founder of the company, a certain technical master and industry expert, a certain investor, a certain entrepreneur, a certain politician, a certain thinker, a certain writer, a certain educator, a certain philosopher, a certain An artist, a philanthropist, a celebrity, etc. Your answer?

If you have a clear pursuit, then you must be on the road to happiness. We will continue to discuss how to take this road in another article.

What should you do if you don’t have a clear pursuit? It seems anxious, but it doesn't matter, as long as we realize and start to embark on the path we are determined to pursue, first choose a path according to our own situation and then continue to make adjustments (from this perspective, "a job with some free time" is quite Okay), people at work will adjust as they go. Most of us young people have no clear pursuit. Pursuit is a reflection of our outlook on life and values, and most of us have not established our own sound outlook on life and values. Our outlook on life and values ??depend on our personal knowledge, experience and awareness. A highly aware person with rich knowledge and experience has a relatively clear outlook on life and values. Therefore, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a clear pursuit. This is normal, but if you are confused, you should work hard to determine the pursuit goal. Specifically, it can be as follows: make plans, study more, read more, communicate and learn more with experienced people, gain more insights, experience more different things, continuously strengthen your understanding of yourself and the world, and establish a clear outlook on life. and values, and then clarify your life pursuit goals! Hurry up and abandon the things that are of little significance to you (games, novels, TV series, debauchery, gambling, etc.) and embark on a life path of pursuing your goals and gaining more happiness!

Summary

1. While pursuing external happiness, don’t forget to pursue inner happiness.

2. Establish a career direction based on pursuit.

Have you found your own happiness through the above? Do you know how to achieve your own happiness? If not, you can watch it again, haha~~