First, the reasons for puppy love among middle school students.
11111Middle school students' puppy love is caused by many factors, including their own subjective factors, negative influences from society, family, school and other factors, and it is the result of a combination of subjective and objective factors.
1, precocious puberty is the internal physiological reason of middle school students' puppy love, and physiological factors have a significant impact on middle school students' thoughts, feelings and behaviors. A remarkable feature of contemporary teenagers' sexual maturity is precocity. Since the reform and opening up, people's living standards have generally improved, the diet and nutritional structure have undergone great changes, and the time of sexual maturity has advanced. According to relevant surveys, 57.93% of junior high school girls (about 12 years old) in China have experienced "whim", while among junior high school boys (about 13 years old), "whim". The maturity of sexual function strengthens their demand for sex, and their love for the opposite sex may lead to puppy love at any time under the right conditions.
11112, psychological weaning and the need to communicate with the opposite sex are the psychological reasons for puppy love. With the advent of adolescence, sex has matured. Middle school students' thoughts, personalities and emotions have changed rapidly and entered the "second weaning period". During this period, they are eager for friendship and hope to make friends to pour out their troubles and puzzles. But because their psychology is half naive and half mature, and their sense of right and wrong is not strong, they can't tell what friendship is and what love is. Among them, those with weak will and vague understanding may develop into puppy love.
The pollution of sexual information is the external social reason of middle school students' puppy love. In recent years, movies, television, audio-visual works and literary works have neglected the social education function and simply pursued economic benefits to meet the requirements of low taste. The comprehensive images of vision, hearing and feeling of both sexes have increased, and the intensity of stimulation has increased. Such as kissing, hugging and nudity, can be seen at any time, and the naturalistic erotic descriptions of sexual activities in some books and periodicals are also frivolous. With the increase of sexual stimulation, the sexual instinct of teenagers has been strengthened objectively. In addition, adolescent middle school students are very sensitive to sexual information, showing excessive excitement and being influenced by emotions to trigger strong sexual impulses. These undoubtedly played a strong role in encouraging the Seeds of Love and the puppy love of middle school students.
11114, improper family and school education and mistakes are the objective reasons for middle school students' puppy love. The factors from family mainly include: parents are eager to see their children become talents, only care about their scores, and ignore their physical and psychological changes; Take a rude and authoritarian attitude towards children's management education, interfere with children's communication, and make children have rebellious psychology; The education of children is laissez-faire and lacks necessary guidance; As a result, children and parents lack good communication and exchange, their deep-seated needs can not be met at home, and they have to seek comfort from friends of the opposite sex outside the family. The main factors from the school are: the school pays more attention to wisdom than morality, unilaterally pursues the enrollment rate, arbitrarily cuts the activity courses, the campus culture is monotonous, and the campus life is boring, so that the excess energy of middle school students cannot be released normally. Insufficient and conservative understanding of sex education makes sex education unable to be carried out normally in most schools, and middle school students are eager to know and desire sex problems. Then, movies, television, newspapers and magazines and other descriptions of sexual scenes will fill this gap.
Second, the countermeasures of middle school students' puppy love.
1111although puppy love conforms to the law of middle school students' physical and mental development, it is not an inevitable product of sexual maturity. Because all human actions are dominated and controlled by certain thoughts and will, education is not "inaction" on this issue. Therefore, we should strengthen the study of puppy love among middle school students, grasp the law and seek countermeasures.
11111.Strengthen adolescent education for middle school students. Middle school students' stage is a very important period in life. Because their psychological maturity lags behind their physical maturity, they will encounter a lot of confusion and incomprehension. They think that when they grow up, they have a "sense of adulthood" but rely on their parents everywhere; They want to talk to their parents when they have problems, but it is not convenient to talk about them. Therefore, Cheng needs to educate them in adolescence.
1111adolescent education should take sex education as the core content, and should also include ethics education and legal education. Sex education should pay attention to the combination of sex education with ideological and moral education, health education and personality education, and make students familiar with some sexual physiology and psychological knowledge through sex education. Therefore, they can correctly treat the sudden onset and nocturnal emission with their own physical development, prevent bad habits and premature awakening of sexual psychology, help them alleviate various experiences related to sexual maturity and avoid panic, anxiety and shyness caused by bleeding and nocturnal emission. Sexual moral education is to improve students' ability to distinguish right from wrong, beauty and ugliness, and to admire evil, and to cultivate self-control ability of moral will. Let them know that people and animals are different. The main difference is that people can control their instinctive desires, while animals are naturally expressed. Because people have outlook on life and morality. Through education, they understand that the spirited horse of adolescence should be controlled by the reins of morality and reason.
11111Sex education should master the principles of timeliness and moderation, and sex education should not become a purely biological and naturalistic sexual enlightenment, otherwise it will bring the temptation of violating the original intention. Can't achieve the purpose of education.
11112. Encourage and guide middle school students to communicate in different ways. 1 Adolescent students' heterosexual communication is the most concerned issue in adolescent education. Some schools and teachers have artificially established the "38th parallel" between boys and girls, for fear that heterosexual communication will lead to an increase in puppy love. This practice is often counterproductive, and the more it is banned, the more it is banned. Because "avoiding what is absolutely natural means strengthening, and strengthening interest in it in the most pathological form, because the power of desire is directly proportional to the severity of the ban." (Roblin Russo). In fact, it takes several years or even more than ten years for middle school students to germinate and have a "sex" mentality, and then they can fall in love and establish a marriage and family. In this period of "delayed satisfaction", friendship can be an important compensation, but heterosexual communication will not only sprout the feelings of first love, but also lead to puppy love. It can also purify and sublimate the feelings of first love. In which direction, it often depends on the guidance of educators. Therefore, as an educator, we should not only create a relaxed, free and healthy living environment for middle school students, but also give them positive and appropriate guidance. We should educate boys to respect girls, pay attention to discretion in actions, and also educate girls to respect themselves, respect themselves and love themselves. Let them understand: (1) the difference between friendship and love. Friendship is not equal to love. Friendship can occur between the same sex and the opposite sex. And love will only be for the opposite sex, friendship is for everyone, and love that does not exclude others is single and exclusive. Friendship is open and can be shared with others. Love is hidden and selfish. Let them know the difference between them, which will help them correctly distinguish the emotional meaning of themselves and others and keep a certain vigilance. (2) Avoid unnecessary physical contact and pay attention to your external performance. Adolescent students are in the embryonic stage of love. Under abnormal circumstances, contact between different parts of the body will produce a strange feeling. It makes people dream. (3) Seek the wide and avoid the single. In the communication with the opposite sex, try to get along alone, communicate widely with students of the opposite sex, establish a wide range of friends, participate in more group activities, and maintain good relations with many friends in group activities.
111113, carry out activities, broaden interest, and let adolescent students move. It is a good thing that adolescent students are energetic, intellectually developed and have a wide range of interests. However, due to the lack of ability to distinguish right from wrong, they are easy to fall into low-grade tastes, become interested in sex prematurely, and fall in love early. Educators should guide their consciousness and interests to cognitive, sports and social interests in time. First of all, we should guide them to devote their vigorous energy to studying hard and determined to serve the motherland and become useful talents. Secondly, carry out the second classroom activities, carry out a variety of scientific, technological, cultural and sports activities, and absorb their attention into healthy and beneficial activities, so that their spirit can be entrusted and their exuberant energy can be released. This will help to prevent puppy love, but also transfer the feelings of puppy love and correct the behavior of puppy love in time.
11114, seize the signs and prevent delays. Puppy love among middle school students is mostly conducted in secret. But before anything happens, there are signs and clues. Therefore, teachers should carefully observe the physiological and psychological changes of students, find the signs in time, and do a good job in individual education. According to typical investigation materials, the information sent by students who have puppy love behavior is: suddenly pursuing fashion excessively and paying attention to dressing up; Students who are active and like to associate with teachers suddenly become silent, unwilling to contact teachers, especially class teachers, and often go to the movies or playgrounds without telling their parents and the opposite sex; Suddenly someone wrote, and the sender didn't leave an address. He likes watching movies, TV plays and love novels with love plots. If teachers encounter the above situation, they should make a correct diagnosis according to the historical and realistic psychological state of students' personality development. Once puppy love is discovered, students should follow the principles of respect, understanding, care and trust, and be rational and sensible. Convince people by reasoning, guide students to reflect on themselves, understand the harm of puppy love, and consciously correct puppy love behavior.
111115. Strive to create an educational environment conducive to the growth of middle school students. Personal educational influence is the result of the comprehensive function of family, school and society. Therefore, achieving the best cooperation among schools, families and society is an effective way to educate middle school students about puppy love. First of all, we should improve the social environment and purify the social atmosphere. All walks of life should shoulder the heavy responsibility of educating the next generation. Film, television and publishing departments should give consideration to both economic and social benefits; Cultural departments should strengthen the investigation and punishment of audio-visual and books and periodicals to prevent the proliferation of pornographic audio-visual and books and periodicals; The political and legal departments of public security should resolutely investigate and deal with criminals who sell and disseminate obscene books, periodicals and audio-visual products. Streets, neighborhood committees and village committees should strengthen holiday education for students. Secondly, to give full play to the advantages and functions of family education, parents should correct their educational concepts and care about their children's all-round development. We should have a correct understanding of children's puppy love behavior, make it clear that puppy love is the key to children's physical development, and encourage and guide children's communication. Good at transferring children's curiosity about sex to healthy and beneficial aspects. Open a new world for them. Secondly, school education should play a leading role. First, we should educate students to correctly identify external information, improve their ability to appreciate literary and artistic works and improve their immunity. Secondly, closely contact and guide parents, strive for and mobilize the cooperation of positive factors in all aspects of society, form educational synergy and improve educational effectiveness.