In my life, I tend to do this now. Friends who don't like go alone, there is no need to help others. Many people are always annoying. Maybe it's because of the increase of age. Lively and lonely, and finally choosing the latter is a sign of a person's maturity.
The book "One Hundred Years of Solitude" explains loneliness in this way: with the passage of time, she stayed in an innocent childhood, rejected all kinds of worldly wisdom more and more, became indifferent to all malice and suspicion, and lived happily in her simple real world.
I like this sentence. I think it is the most correct answer for a person who likes to be alone.
To tell you the truth, I am in this state now. I never bother others, and I don't like others to bother me. I wake up during the day, have a cup of coffee and eat some biscuits to go to work. When you are tired, pack your things and go home. After dinner, my dog is walking and chatting downstairs. I said it would listen.
A person, this feeling is not as lonely as others say, but very comfortable. This is the lifestyle I want.
Some people will say that you are introverted or mentally ill. Actually, I'm not. I am optimistic. In other words, even if a woman is an old aunt, she will fall in love with me after playing with me for a long time. Not bragging. It's true. Where I am, there must be laughter and positive energy, which can make them happy every day. But I don't like to dig deep into other people's hearts, and I don't like people asking me questions. It may have something to do with my experience.
Ten years ago, I had many friends, men and women. No matter who has a birthday or is lovelorn, I am generous. When MP4 first went on the market, I could spend 1800 a month to buy a big screen for my friends, not to mention eating and singing. I basically paid for them and never asked them for anything. At that time, I thought it was really cool to have friends. I thought we would be friends for life. When I am old, I also fantasize about group travel to support the elderly. Later, because of unexpected changes, I was down and out. The so-called friends disappeared without a trace overnight, and even borrowing 500 yuan from their best friends for temporary relief was rejected. Not only that, my once very good friend not only refused to help me, but also arranged slander and poked his heart with every word.
People may only grow up in despair to see everything clearly. I woke up, or an epiphany. The feeling of despair makes me anxious. Since then, the word friend has been a derogatory term in my heart, a word that makes me feel disgusting. I never mentioned it.
Although they tried to get close to me after I got up, they were driven away by my indifference. They began to arrange for me to say that I was rich and arrogant, and I didn't recognize people. I didn't argue, I didn't explain, and I didn't need to explain to anyone, because they didn't deserve my explanation.
Since then, I am the only one left in my world. I like this feeling very much, and I don't care who is happy or not. I keep a dog for three days, and it will remember me all my life, and it will follow me all day wherever I go. I have raised a group of people for more than ten years, but I can't get a heart. This is the naked reality of human nature, so I would rather give all the good things to my dog than sympathize with anyone!
There is no rule to accompany everything. I like being alone. I'm not withdrawn or unsociable. It's just that I think I should leave some space for myself. I'm comfortable alone. I don't care about others. Junior high school likes a person, but my friends will think that I am snubbing her. Some people really can't stand loneliness. My personality is different. Moreover, for a long time, a person will form his own system, and when to do and what to do are very clear, like a state of balance, of course, I don't want to be broken. If someone forces you to go in, you will feel uncomfortable, or as if your territory has been spied on. Moreover, after a long time, a person will become calmer and easier to accept when facing many things, learn a lot of things and skills, become more independent and grow up quickly, but this is also like a shortcoming, because everything is clear, so sometimes it is quite boring. If it is not morbid, it is also a morbid chain reaction of social extension. A person lives in his own world and escapes from reality.
This is my present state, especially closed. I am introverted, but before I went to college, everyone had no bad intentions and interests, so I have many friends, both boys and girls, who usually eat and chat together. As soon as I go to college, I have greater motivation to get scholarships every year. I don't want to anger anyone, but I don't want to touch the heart of a poor student. She wanted to get a scholarship and interest, so she began to speak ill of me behind my back and fuck me. From then on, I began to feel that introverts are actually quite passive, passively letting others bully them, but they are not afraid to fight, just feel that they don't want to be as knowledgeable as that person. After graduating from college, I feel passive about my introverted personality. Slowly, I don't want to make more friends. Then, now after marriage, there are only two friends. But I have a family and a lover, and I don't feel so lonely.
Those who come to me have a purpose. No one will be nice to you for no reason. One day, five people came to me. Some asked me to introduce her to a film director. Some people want to make movies. Some people want me to write lyrics for them. Some people want me to feel tired at the end of the day. It's better to drink coffee, eat snacks and read novels alone. I also have very good friends, who stay together and say nothing. I feel good. I don't have to feed myself. I went down, and then one day I felt very uncomfortable, so I went to see her. I didn't say anything. I hugged her, but she didn't speak, so I thought that most of my friends would help me not always eat, drink and have fun together, but make a phone call and get to the point. It's not awkward for two people not to talk together. I always thought it was the only time I played with one person, and no one would always play with you. Going out is either cheating or pit.
Used to being at home.
There are too many things to do at home.
Read novels and comics.
Listen to music and draw pictures
Too few people are sincere to you.
People are unpredictable.
There are too many people who do one thing face to face and one thing behind their backs.
Someone set a trap for you.
It's too tiring to get along like this
But you can't shut yourself off, can you?
I will selectively cherish those who are sincere to me.
in fact
It is best to be alone.
stranger
You can never imagine how difficult it is for each other.
Don't like people very much
There are not many friends, just be sincere.
More and more people like to be alone, without making friends and contacting others. This is because in real life, some colleagues, friends or relatives, driven by economic interests, have gradually lost their authenticity and become selfish, mercenary, dishonest and cheating. In the process of communication with some people, true feelings are false, and kindness is bullied. These people who have suffered different degrees of mental injury and legitimate interests are gradually disheartened. In order to avoid injury and mental torture, I have to choose an escape way, so I choose a person, not to make friends, not to contact others.
If we must think that it is a disease, then I prefer to believe that it is a social disease. A normal person who doesn't need affection and friendship can't get affection and friendship through hard work, so he can only choose to be hurt less. It is understandable to choose the lesser of the two evils, and there is nothing wrong with this personal attitude and behavior.
More and more people like to be alone, probably because being alone can relax their body and mind! I am also a person who likes to be alone. My personality may be different from others. I don't like playing with others on my own initiative. Generally speaking, if someone comes to play with me, I have to see if two people get along. If not, I would rather be alone. When I am alone, I am free to do what I like. Usually work overtime every day, and it is rare to have a holiday. During the holiday, I just want to do what I want to do quietly, and I don't want to disturb others, and I don't want others to disturb my peace.
Another reason may be that this society is becoming more and more realistic now! No matter at work or in life, I feel that I can't find a real friend to talk to. At work, I found that many colleagues put interests first, and there was no good feeling among colleagues. Smiling on the surface, I don't know what is hidden behind them. In this impetuous society, many people live with masks. I'm not with my relatives and friends as before. In recent years, I have been particularly anxious to compare with others. Chatting together is just to show off or show off. As for me, I have nothing to show off. I'm just an ordinary person who can't be ordinary anymore. It seems that everything I want is hard to get, and I don't work hard enough. Maybe I feel a little inferior! I don't like to get in touch with accomplished relatives and friends, and I don't know what to talk to them. Therefore, no matter what people have experienced, they like to be alone more and more. Only when they are alone is it truest.
Speaking of this problem, I want to express my opinion.
First of all, with the acceleration of social rhythm and the enhancement of people's utilitarian heart, it is really too difficult to get a real friend. You want to exchange your heart for your heart and get pure friendship, but what is waiting for you is often a trap that others have already dug. Your rhetoric may be malicious in others' hearts ... after a long time, you will lose patience, confidence and courage, and in the long run, you will get used to loneliness!
Secondly, with the general trend of social networking, people have long been accustomed to spending a lot of social time, communication and conversation on the Internet, preferring to interact with strangers rather than contact with people around them. When making friends online becomes a habit, in fact, our social skills are declining. Internet has promoted social progress, but undeniably, it has also brought negative troubles!
The above views are only my personal superficial views, and I hope to discuss them with you here!
Tell me my opinion.
Madame roland once said: The more people you meet, the more you will find that you like dogs.
I saw a video of an old man somewhere. When he was young, he couldn't stand being framed and bullied by some people in the village. He sailed alone to a desert island to survive, accompanied by a rhubarb dog, and made a living by fishing. After the local government found out, it took him back to the village many times, and he secretly ran back to the island. Asked why, he said he was afraid of being bullied and would rather die alone on the island.
The real society is a vanity fair, large and small. People fight to the death for fame and fortune all day. Those with a low level of education, regardless of their faces, directly tear and scold, blush and have a thick neck, and fight for a high or low level. Those with a high level of education are talking and laughing on the surface, sweet words, sowing dissension behind their backs, gossiping and blaming you. Many times, it's not that you did anything wrong or offended anyone, but that you were framed for no reason. This may be because your existence poses a threat to others. Maybe you are better than others in some way and you are envied, envied and hated. Maybe you did something unintentional, but it caused others to misunderstand. In short, if you want to live a relaxed and clean life in this society, it is more difficult than going to heaven. Therefore, many people choose to avoid contact with others after being hit by reality, not so much because they like to be alone, but because they are helpless. Can't afford to hide. But choosing to be alone does not mean surrender and failure, but avoiding obstacles and taking detours. Life is short, away from right and wrong, away from the struggle with unknown results, and put your precious life and limited energy into arming yourself and enhancing your value. One day your career breakthrough and success will prove that loneliness has won you a wonderful life. As for making friends, it depends on how you get along and use your value. If you mix well, people will approach you and be willing to make friends with you. Although there are many hypocritical and artificial elements in it, it is difficult to make any friends if you mix badly. A weak country has no diplomacy.
In fact, most people are willing to communicate with others at first. We get together, exchange things we need, help and love each other, be happy, the world is peaceful, and the world is cold and hot, but the reality is not satisfactory. Instead of being hurt and sad in the fight, it is better to choose to be alone, have less troubles and live more comfortably and meaningfully. As for getting sick, who cares? Is there a better way before we mix up into five people and six people?
I don't know why, but I just feel this way. Stay at home, don't want to go out, and don't contact friends much. Occasionally, I don't know how often I send a WeChat to ask, and the rest is gone. Sometimes I don't know what to think, but I don't want to move. Is it too much trouble?
I thought: actually, it's not like this. This is not a disease. With the growth of people's age, there will be many problems such as family and career, and there will be many things to get married, especially having children. It's not that I don't want to go out to play with friends, but there are many things to consider, and friends may not be free. After all, at this age, everyone has to pay for their own home, right?
I don't forget it, I only contact occasionally, and I don't want to disturb you. I still have a good impression when I meet you.