Method 1: Be yourself.
1, be yourself. At the same time, try to be confident. If you try to change your personality to attract girls, slowly, you will feel that your true personality can't attract others, and then you will become more and more depressed. Changing your personality may help improve your social skills, but girls who don't appreciate you don't deserve your attention at all.
2. Relax. If you feel nervous and anxious, some trivial mistakes in conversation will make you feel embarrassed more easily. Only by keeping calm can you fully enjoy the fun of getting along with girls. Be careful not to pin all your hopes on the same girl. If the result of the relationship is not satisfactory, it will only make you more miserable. Don't let previous failures hinder your chance to find your "real name".
Method 2: Be polite.
1, show your manners. Girls like modest and polite boys. Try not to make some actions that are generally considered rude, such as swearing or making jokes or comments with sexism/racism. Saying things that might offend people is not a good way to make friends. Wen Ya can make you more popular with girls. Good for all girls. Treating girls who don't like you very much and like you indiscriminately can give you a better overall evaluation. This doesn't mean you have to flirt with all the girls, just don't ignore or even look down on those girls who are not interested in you. Don't tell her how attractive other girls are; Doing so will not only cause unhappiness, but also lower her self-esteem. Generally speaking, you shouldn't talk about your ex-girlfriend or other girls who love you; Doing so will only destroy your relationship with her.
Method 3: concentrate
1, the process of talking to girls should be focused. Keep eye contact and don't be distracted. Listen carefully to what she says, from which you can get to know her better and discover our common interests.
Care about her feelings. If she looks a little sad, don't ignore it or even ignore her emotions. When she is unhappy, sincerely expressing your sympathy can build mutual trust, thus effectively establishing friendship and winning her favor.
Make her happy. Harmless jokes can make serious conversations more relaxed and enjoyable, enhance mutual understanding and not cause embarrassment. Humor is one of the most attractive qualities of a boy, which can eliminate her preconceptions about you. But remember, being funny is not suitable for every occasion, and not every girl suffers.
Make her feel special. After making a good first impression, if you want to develop a serious relationship with her, you should work harder, be more considerate and show your love for her. Praise her sincerely, flirt with her, and then find the right opportunity to ask her to meet.
Method 4: Understand etiquette.
1, according to the relationship, distinguish the scope of physical contact.
2. Ordinary acquaintances-For girls who meet for the first time, it is more reasonable to shake hands with her at the same time when introducing themselves. You can also touch her hand or arm inadvertently.
3. Ordinary friends or potential dates-you can try stroking her hair or poking her waist and asking her if she is itchy. These behaviors are generally considered as flirting. If she resists these behaviors, you'd better apologize to her to prevent similar behaviors from happening again.
4, good friends-very familiar friends of the opposite sex, even if not male and female friends, can also come to a close hug. But care about her thoughts about hugs; Forced hugs will only make her feel uncomfortable.
5. Boyfriend/Girlfriend-When you get closer to each other and walk on the road together, you can hold her hand and put your arm around her shoulder or waist. You can kiss her with her permission.
6. Note: Before hugging or kissing (or other physical contact) her, you must first ask her permission, but you don't have to ask her permission. Pay attention to her body language, and make sure that she is not afraid, or has obvious actions of rejecting you. Don't give her an unexpected hug or kiss unless you know clearly that she doesn't mind. If she pushes you away, don't force it! ! !
Tip: Be proactive if you can. It would be strange for her to take the initiative to date a boy.
Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. In fact, many girls will think such a boy is cuter, especially if you know how to save yourself with humor.
If she feels cold, ask her "Is it cold?" She usually says "well, a little" and then you should continue to ask "why don't I give you my coat?" No matter how she answers, she will accept your initiative to put on her coat.
Don't disgust her (such as farting, burping, etc.) ).
When dealing with shy girls, we should pay more attention to how to break the "hard ice" of physical contact. If you know she is shy, take your time, take your time, take your time.
Occasionally a little flirt, observe her reaction. She likes it, accepts it, or is a little embarrassed and a little contradictory. These are all signals to remind you what to do next-but remember, she just says no, don't.
Observe her body language. If she often shifts her weight and avoids eye contact, she may feel uncomfortable. The reasons for discomfort may be the sensitive topic of conversation and the close physical distance between the two sides. We should respect her feelings, analyze the specific reasons, change the topic in time, and distance ourselves appropriately when necessary.
Be brave in flirting with her and use relaxed and natural body language.
Self-confidence is very important, but don't be arrogant! Otherwise, she will think you are too pretentious.
You can make fun of her appropriately, but don't involve her appearance. If you are not sure whether she can understand your joke, try something else. Seize the opportunity to joke, don't look too clumsy, or you are joking with yourself.
Don't text her to see her. Her best friend may read the text message, and the atmosphere will become very strange. Also, texting on a date will make girls feel that you are not "man" enough to date. There are usually only two situations for texting dating, either you are issued a "good friend card" or you are already on her "weird list".
If you haven't established a relationship with her, don't be jealous of her flirting with other boys. You haven't even started dating her, so she naturally doesn't think flirting with others is betrayal. At the same time, remember that just because she flirts with others doesn't mean you won't have a chance. Jealousy will make it harder for this relationship to warm up.
Girls want you to take further action first, but don't be obscene. Smile at her, be cheerful and friendly, or Doby her. If you think you should express yourself more frankly, you can express your heartfelt praise to her. For example, you can compliment her on her beautiful eyes or charming smile. However, if you want to imply that you don't want to stop flirting, you can only praise her. Choose some of her own compliments; This will make her feel beautiful, unique and appreciated by you.
Make friends with her friends.
If you have a sister of similar age, you can communicate with her more and learn how to talk and associate with other girls.
If you are introverted, don't worry. Even if the communication process is not smooth, you can still talk to your friends who support you.
Warning not to share details of your relationship with others at will. You should only talk to friends you trust who won't "tell the news" to others. If you think that dating the opposite sex is just entertainment between you and your friends, you will only ruin your chances of developing a deeper and more lasting relationship with her.
Don't speak ill of her friends, and don't belittle things she likes, such as her taste in music.
Avoid evasiveness and inconsistency between words and deeds, otherwise she will be confused and wonder whether you like her or not. Step by step, at the same time give her a hint, let her understand your heart.
There's nothing wrong with making her feel special for a long-term relationship. But always flattering her will only do more harm than good, especially in the first few weeks of dating, which will make her label you as a "friend who wants to attract my attention" instead of a "potential partner who can associate".
If you feel sexually excited, please try to hide it. But don't make it too obvious and don't want to attract unnecessary attention.
Don't push too hard, she'll notice.
Pay special attention to the evaluation of her appearance. Don't call her ugly. Try to use precise words, such as "hot" and "sexy". Even if you express your evaluation of dressing in a playful tone, she will become nervous and don't know if you are implying her or talking about others.
Don't be shy. If you are too shy, she will think that you don't like her and then lose interest in you.
Saying dirty words or dirty jokes will only make most girls feel sick and their impression of you plummet. Maybe you want to liven up the atmosphere, but these disgusting words are really annoying and won't interest her.
Many girls like you to stare at her, not at her breasts. Although some girls may like this "special" gaze, it is always right to keep your eyes on her face. Don't make eyes at her.
If she doesn't like staring, don't stare at her all the time. She may find you annoying, so your relationship won't last long.
Touching her on purpose will only scare her, and she may not even be friends in the end.