The poet Wu Guijun wrote this sentence in "Like Someone": "It starts with appearance, falls into talent, and is loyal to character." ?

There is an old saying that goes well: ?Be a good person before you do something. ?

A person with good character can even make up for his lack of ability and be liked by everyone.

Whether you are looking for a marriage partner or making good friends, the first thing you will do is observe the other person’s character. Only if the other person’s character passes the test can further contact be possible.

So, character is the most important essence of a person.

People with bad character generally have these three behaviors. When you meet such people, you must not make close friends.

Caressing

Be more sincere and care less when dealing with others. If you care too much with your friends, you will lose a lot.

Although you get a lot of benefits on the surface, you are actually consuming the blessings you have accumulated.

I remember that when we were young, we were often together. But as we grew up, I found that she was becoming more and more carefree. What chilled me even more was that she would fight against me for trivial matters. Noisy and noisy. ?

When I saw her letter, I said, there is no need for you to think about this.

Since that happened in the past, what you need to do is let it go instead of thinking too much.

When dealing with this kind of person, it is difficult for you to change her character. Instead of doing this, it is better to stop the loss in time.

As the saying goes, "People's hearts are unpredictable." A person who behaves like this will only cause you harm.

Moreover, even if you don’t do one thing right or in line with her wishes, she will retaliate against you.

In psychology, a person who cares too much only cares about themselves and does not care about others.

Good relationships are often based on sincerity and dedication.

A true friend will give to you, help you, and give you warmth on your way forward.

Believe what they say

Have you ever met such a person?

Always look for someone to borrow money and promise to pay it back within a specified time. money.

As soon as the time came, I couldn’t explain it for various reasons. Some reasons were understandable, but some reasons were really incomprehensible and unforgivable.

He broke his promise again and again. In the end, even if he was really in trouble, he was unwilling to lend him any more money when he thought that he would break his promise.

Yes, this is how people who do not keep their word destroy our trust.

Confucius said: "If a person has no faith, he does not know what is right." ?

If a person loses his credibility, not only will he not be able to accomplish anything, he will also hurt others.

Integrity is the cornerstone of all relationships.

When integrity exists, friendship remains; when integrity is lost, friendship disappears.

Those who do not keep their word will consume your trust; those who keep their word are worthy of your trust and more worthy of being treated well by those around them.

As Feng Yuxiang said: If you treat people with integrity, they will not bully you; if you treat things with integrity, you will achieve everything. ?

Huang Meng and Hu Yi have been colleagues for more than a year.

The relationship between the two has always been good and they can talk easily, so when Huang Meng asked Hu Yi to borrow money, Hu Yi trusted Huang Meng and directly transferred the money to Huang Meng via WeChat.

Because Huang Meng said that the money would be returned to Hu Yi in two months, Hu Yi did not urge Huang Meng to pay back the money.

Seeing that two months were coming, Huang Meng proposed to resign, and Hu Yi still believed that Huang Meng would return the money to her.

But two months later, Huang Meng did not return the money to Hu Yi.

Hu Yi sent several WeChat messages to Huang Meng, but Huang Meng did not reply. Hu Yi was even blocked in Moments, which made Hu Yi very angry.

Finally, it was not until half a year passed that Huang Meng returned the money to her.

Later, Huang Meng asked to borrow money from Hu Yi again. Due to Huang Meng's previous breach of trust, this time, Hu Yi decisively rejected Huang Meng's request.

Because of trust, you will lend money, but if you don’t repay the borrowed money, then this person has betrayed your trust in him.

From this performance, it can be seen that Huang Meng has a very poor character and is not worthy of close friendship.

In this society full of interests, trust is very precious.

It is meaningful if given to the right person; given to the wrong person, it will be consumed.

There is mutuality between people.

No one’s trust is cheap. For those who don’t know how to cherish it, don’t lend it.

On the road of life, people like her who consume trust must stay away in time to stop losses in time.

Not grateful

There is an old saying: Give me a peach and repay you with a plum. ?

People should know how to repay kindness and not be ungrateful. If others are kind to you and are kind to you, you should also learn to repay others.

Only in the exchange of love between you and me can our friendship continue.

But in life, there are always people around us who are ungrateful.

They never realize that other people’s contributions are a kind of kindness, but they think that others’ contributions are taken for granted.

A few days ago, Xiao Le posted a circle of friends about traveling abroad.

After seeing it, one of her friends contacted her and asked her to help buy some things.

Xiao Le is a little entangled, because he has bought things for this friend several times before, but he has not returned the money to himself. This time the things are more valuable. If he does not give them back this time, it will be a loss. That's big.

But he was afraid that his friend would be sad, so Xiaole had no choice but to agree.

After returning to China, Xiao Le gave the things to her friend, but the next day, the friend returned the dismantled things to her, saying that they were not easy to use and she didn’t want them anymore.

Xiao Le was very aggrieved. She obviously wanted it for herself, but she bought it for her, but in the end she didn’t even say a word of gratitude. Now she said she didn’t want it, so she didn’t want it.

Seeing that she insisted on not wanting it, Xiao Le had to step back and ask her friend to pay her back the money she had spent on the things she had bought.

The friend said disgustedly: "I'll give it to you later for just a few dollars. How stingy." ?

In the end, Xiao Le borne the expense himself, and after paying off the debt, his friend actually deleted Xiao Le.

In fact, there are many such things in our lives.

Obviously you have put in a lot, but they can’t see it. As long as you don’t do what they want, they will deny all your previous efforts.

People who are ungrateful will always only emphasize others' rejections, but forget others' contributions.

Not only will they not remember your kindness, but they will also consume your kindness and enthusiasm.

There is a saying: Gratitude is the least of virtues, but ungratefulness is the worst of conduct. ?

The character of people who are not grateful is not much better.

Walking with people who are ungrateful is like carrying a burden. Only by staying away can you travel lightly.

Zeng Guofan once said: Choosing friends is the most important thing in life. The success or failure of your life depends on whether your friends are virtuous or not, so don't be careless. ?

The kind of person you choose to be with will determine the kind of life you will have, so be cautious.

The rest of our lives are very long, so we should choose people with good character to have deep friendships, so that we can live up to our efforts.

As for those who will only consume us, we must stay away from them in time so that we can move forward happily on the road of life.