Our reporter Li Haixia "Teacher Yan, play with us for a while."

"Old Yan, do you remember names today?"

Last Sunday happened to be Father's Day. In Gaoloujin Village, Zhangjiawan Town, Tongzhou District, a private charity named "House of Light Love", Teacher Yan Ling spent another day with the children as usual. The children call him relaxed, some call him a teacher, and some call him "Lao Yan" directly.

It was afternoon 10 when the children turned off the lights and went home. "There are more than a dozen children here who have called me dad." Teacher Yan explained to the reporter why he stayed here after graduating from college.

When many people rush about for houses, cars and tickets on the expressway and are anxious about it every day, some young people choose another kind of youth, working for more than ten hours every day, without bonuses and insurance, and only getting the basic living expenses of 1000 yuan per month, and they can still say with a smile, "You get more than you pay." Yan Ling is such a young man.

"Lao Yan" is 29 this year

When I was unmarried, my students called me Xiaoyan. When I got married, they called me Laoyan. I think this is intimacy and trust.

Guang 'ai Home specializes in taking in homeless children, orphans and disabled children and destitute children from all over the country. At present, 105 children live and study here for free. Yanling has been teaching here since she graduated from university in 2007. She has been teaching P.E. and Mathematics in Grade One and Grade Two of the whole school, and is also the head teacher of two classes. Usually, she takes her children out for exercise at 6: 30 in the morning to catch up with the weekend, so this item is exempted.

This teacher, Yan Ling, who was called Dad by a dozen children and "Lao Yan" by many children, is only 29 years old this year. White T-shirt, jeans, sneakers and slim figure make him look more like a big boy.

On weekends, more volunteers come to school and dj dance music. Some people are puzzled to hear that both boys and girls call Miss Yan "Lao Yan", and feel that children don't respect teachers. But Yan Ling doesn't think so. He thinks this is trust, intimacy, and the performance of treating him as a "big brother".

"It's different from other schools here. Our teachers and children live together in class, which can be said to be eating and living together. I would like to play with them. They are willing to talk to me about problems in their studies and life, just like family members. Before I was married, they all called me Xiaoyan. When I get married and have children, they will call me Lao Yan. "

"Old Yan, I'm making a web page now, and I'll finish it in an hour." When the reporter and Yan Ling walked into the classroom, a child in a wheelchair saw him and shouted at him excitedly with a happy smile on his face. "Are you? ! You are really awesome. " Yanling is also very excited.

"Our children are very smart, and I especially admire them." When it comes to children, Yan Ling always adds the word "ours". In his view, God is fair. When God closes one door for you, he will open another door for you. These children have extraordinary wisdom without the care of their parents. Teacher Yan said that the teacher who taught dance in the Children's Palace once told him that the learning speed and comprehension ability of "our children" were five times that of ordinary children. He has also witnessed that some children can cut the hair of other students after cutting their hair twice; At the party, a child can perform six or seven programs decently.

"I often think that it is a pity that such a good seedling has not been cultivated." This is also one of the driving forces for him to persist. "These little guys are full of energy. It's not difficult to spend a day or two with them. In the following years, I spent more than ten hours with them every day. I really can't do it without spiritual support. "

At first, it was curiosity and sympathy.

A child suddenly called me dad, and I knew I couldn't leave.

I worked as a teacher in Guang 'ai Home for 4 years, where I married Mr. Hu and had a lovely son. Almost all my family are here. However, Yan Ling told reporters frankly that the life he dreamed of before was not like this. When he was a college student in the School of Physical Education of Yangzhou University, he never wanted to be a teacher. Because when a teacher earns too little money, he plans to do business with a few friends to earn money after graduation, and then buy a house and a car ... but by chance, he took the initiative to snuff out his lofty "rich dream".

In March 2007, after graduation, Yan Ling came to Beijing to see her friends and look for a job. While surfing the Internet, she happened to see a volunteer introduce a man named Shi Qinghua. When his wife and son were badly burned by the fire and had no money for treatment, they were trapped in the street. When they were discouraged, some strange friends helped him and made him feel grateful to the society. Therefore, she established a caring school to receive street children. There is a shortage of teachers there now. With a hint of curiosity and sympathy, Yanling came.

One day, after playing crazy with the children, without any warning, a child suddenly called him "Dad". "At that time, I was only 24 years old and I didn't graduate from college. I never thought that someone would call me dad, and then I saw the innocent eyes of the child. As soon as my nose is sour, my tears will fall. " Yan Ling told reporters that in his memory, he never cried since middle school. He thought he was a strong man, but he was often moved to tears when he came to Guang 'ai School.

A month later, because she was going back to school to finish her graduation thesis, Yan Ling had to quietly say goodbye to the children during their nap. At that time, he did not really want to come back. But after they left, when they talked on the phone with President Shi and other teachers, they all said, "Come back soon. Children always ask, where did Miss Yan go? Why haven't you come back ... "

"Some things are like this. When you don't know, it's okay to say it, but when you know that your child needs you, you start to feel uneasy. " Because of this anxiety, coupled with the faint concern in my heart, Yanling came back, and stayed here for 4 years, and still settled here.

Four or five months without pay

When I was in college, I spent more than 3000 yuan a month, but I only spent 10 last month. It was the same meal.

In Guang 'ai School, the work is hard and the income is low, and it is often impossible to send it out for four or five months. But in the conversation, what Teacher Yan said most was: "I feel that what I get far exceeds what I pay."

Teacher Yan's "income" is certainly not material. Teacher Yan told reporters that sometimes, when he is still eating, there are children waiting beside him, and he wants to help him wash the dishes after he finishes eating. "The children are particularly simple. If you are really good to him, he will repay you wholeheartedly and try to make you happy. They will give you something they can't bear to eat. Such small things often happen, which makes me very moved. " Teacher Yan also said that when he was in college, he spent about 3000 yuan a month. When he is happy, he goes to restaurants to eat and often buys clothes. But it's saved now. It only took 10 last month, or because the volunteers missed the meal and spent money on it. Speaking of this, Mr. Yan's face is not a trace of unwillingness and injustice, on the contrary, it is calm and satisfied.

Many things left him not only moved. May 2008 10, it was his wedding with Mr. Hu. The wedding was particularly simple and warm, and it was also published in the newspaper that day. At that time, President Shi got married and all his children gave gifts. He thought it was a card or something. Unexpectedly, the gift given by the child turned out to be a "wedding ring", that is, it was bent into a very small ring with a particularly thin wire and decorated, fearing that the wire would grind its hands, and it was carefully wrapped with a beautiful thin thread. At first glance, it took a lot of effort and thought. The children did it and did it well.

Speaking of her "dream of a rich man", Teacher Yan now feels quite naive. "People's greed is endless. There are ten thousand, twenty thousand, one million and ten million. If you take this as your goal, you will never be satisfied and happy. Fortunately, I came to Guang 'ai School and learned to love and give. Now, you have to give me a chance to help others. I am so happy. " Teacher Yan said with a smile. No matter what he does in the future, he will take helping others as his goal in life.

"By the way, after I went to Guangai School, there was no young bald head that was difficult to treat. In the past, one third of my hair was white, and I began to dye my hair in my junior year. But after I arrived at Guang 'ai School, I don't know what happened, and my white hair was almost gone, which was quite amazing. Is this also the harvest of' paying'? " Teacher Yan joked with reporters.

The reporter noticed that there are many books in Mr. Yan's office, besides the books related to teaching and education, such as Complete Interpretation of Middle School Textbooks and Delimitation of Children, there is also a biography of Mother Teresa, in which there is a sentence, "The good things you have done will be forgotten tomorrow. In any case, you must do good. " Teacher Yan Ling turned a corner on this page.

Wenheshe

Children are very sensitive. Love for them must be unconditional, but not blind.

"Dad is not so easy."

After waiting for a long time, Yan Ling deeply realized that "dad" is not so easy to be. Some children who have just entered school have been wandering around the society for some time and are free and loose. They think fighting and stealing are commonplace. Some children have even been to the police station for more than a dozen times and always deliberately provoke you. It is common for female teachers to be angry and cry. When he first came here, he was often angered by gambling, but later, he learned the trick of "conquering" children, which is the word that people often say-"love".

There used to be a boy named Wang Jie (a pseudonym) in the school. His father has been in prison and likes to drink. I often beat him when I'm free. When I arrived at Guang 'ai School, I was already a teenager and often hit people. There are almost no children who have not been beaten by him, and there are no female teachers who are not angry with him. Even male teachers, he doesn't care. Such a child, he said, is useless; Hit him, he pointed to the scar on his head and said, "Did you hit him harder than my dad?"

"At that time, President Shi and I often talked with him. Later, I found that he had no feelings for anyone, but he had feelings for his cousin, because my cousin was very kind to him and put half his mind on him. He came to Guang 'ai School, which was also sent by his cousin. We told him about my cousin's hope for him. He was stubborn and a child cried and obeyed. " This made Teacher Yan deeply realize that the power of love is so great that it can melt all stubborn stones.

Therefore, Teacher Yan is doubly kind to him. Wang Jie likes playing basketball and plays with him whenever he has time. If you have nice clothes, give them to him first; There is delicious food, I miss him ... President Shi, other teachers and volunteers are the same, which makes him feel that he lives in an atmosphere full of love. When a person's heart is full of love, the hatred in his heart is gone, and everything is easy. Later, Wang Jie became very sensible, polite and helpful, and found a job he liked with his talent of singing and dancing. But at first, he said to himself, "My future is prison."

Teacher Yan stressed to reporters that these children are very sensitive, and it must be unconditional to love them, but they should not be blind. A volunteer came to Guang 'ai School and saw Wang Jie mending the basket. She squatted beside him and tried to help him repair it. At this moment, Teacher Yan came up to her and said, "Why are you helping him with this? Don't help him. He broke it himself. Let him solve it himself and let him know that he is responsible for what he has done. " Volunteers were surprised, because an adult may not understand that "strictness is love", let alone such a sensitive child. She feels that there is deeper love and mutual trust between teachers and students.

"Love is not condescending pity. Our education is to teach children self-esteem and self-improvement. President Shi often tells children that we can't rely on our own background to make others sympathize with us and help us; But through our own efforts, let others respect us and help us. "

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