After browsing a lot of answers, I found that almost all the girls said something similar to the following phenomenon: "I am 27 years old, with medium looks, high academic qualifications and a good job, but why is it so difficult to find a suitable boyfriend?"
In fact, the trouble of most girls is not that they can't find a boyfriend, but that they can't find a boyfriend who is "suitable" for them.
Why, now many girls have such troubles? In fact, the fundamental reason lies in the social circle and the essential reason of mate selection criteria for men and women.
Let me give you a concrete analysis. In fact, we can clearly understand that men and women can be divided into four grades: A, B, C and D according to comprehensive conditions such as appearance and economy.
And according to the current social mainstream tendency to find objects:
Boys tend to find people who are similar to or even inferior to themselves, because it is easier to control;
Moreover, girls generally want to find someone better than themselves, and they can also accept boys who are similar to themselves, because this will help ensure their quality of life.
So the combination of these eight kinds of people looking for objects is as follows:
Obviously, A, B, C and D women all have needs for A, B and C men. Therefore, just from this tendency to choose a spouse, it is difficult for girls to meet the demand in quantity, so the actual situation of women in the competition for choosing a spouse is fierce.
There is another difficulty: most people have fewer opportunities to contact the opposite sex who is taller than themselves in the life circle, so how to know the boys who are taller than themselves is another difficulty.
So, in fact, from this perspective, the fundamental reason why it is difficult for girls to find a partner lies in two major points:
One is that I don't know the boys who meet my yearning circle, and the other is that it is difficult to attract boys first among many girls.
So how are we going to solve these two problems and find my date?
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How can girls get in touch with the upper circles?
Coping strategy: broaden your horizons and aim at the target.
First of all, first of all, you must expand your social circle and expand your existing heterosexual resources as much as possible.
Because you have a larger base of the opposite sex, you can have a greater chance to screen the right person for you.
In what ways can you expand your heterosexual resources?
Starting from two directions: the first is to expand the resources of the opposite sex through multiple channels on our own. The second is to rely on others: using weak relationship groups to help you know more about the opposite sex.
What channels need to be expanded in daily life? The first is the channels of life, such as social activities, public welfare activities, study classes and so on.
The second is non-life channels: for example, social networks and casual chatting. Besides choosing the right channel, using the right skills is also the key to our success.
And use people with weak relationships to help you develop more heterosexual resources? In fact, it is to teach you to actively transform people you don't seem to contact often into your key network nodes, so that others can help others know more people.
These people may include your alumni from the same university, colleagues from the same industry and company, or respected elders around you.
In addition, you can also take the initiative to target some places where high-quality boys gather, mostly in these occasions, in order to increase the chances of meeting ideal high-quality men. For example, gyms near high-end office buildings, cafes in entrepreneurial areas and so on.
Just meeting these boys is just the first step for you to find the right boyfriend. The more crucial step is actually how to attract these high-quality boys.