I don’t feel that I can’t make close friends in high school, nor do I feel that I can’t make close friends after entering college, nor do I feel that I don’t have many close friends when I enter the society.

“Why did you go to college? "It's not easy to make close friends in high school." The key point of this question is not time, but the content. "Making close friends" is not easy in the first place. Going to high school only makes you understand better "what a close friend is." And the competitive environment allows you to automatically eliminate most people who do not meet the definition of close friends before you make friends.

Friends seek common ground while reserving differences. They are established after our values ????have matured. You and I have our own lives, but at critical moments, I will come to help you through fire and water, rather than eliminate them. All differences become like twins, or there is strong external pressure to force everyone to ignore the differences.

Why can I make so many friends in elementary school? Because children can be friends if they like to eat spicy strips together. Why is it easy to make friends in junior high school? Because everyone has three points and one line, classrooms, cafeterias and dormitories, in addition to eating and sleeping every day, they study. There is no impact of diversity. The environment forces everyone to become the same, so it seems that anyone can "talk" with you. Anyway, you can Can't talk about anything else.

But when I got to high school, the hard education system classified everyone. I remember that I was admitted to a key high school, and many of them were paid for. With comparison, the great man said: Life is tiring. A small part comes from survival, and a large part comes from comparison. People pay more attention to each other, have different hobbies and pursuits, and have obvious differences in values. If you make friends at this time, you will definitely be able to talk, because the outside world Stimulation filters out most of the “fake close friends”.

After you get to work, you will be busy with less time and have some interest relationships. The friends you can still keep at this time will not only be good friends to talk to, but may also be beneficial: they can bring you Your spiritual pleasure, encouragement or excitement, material support and reminder, etc.

Everyone is getting older and knows more and more. Correspondingly, the requirements for making friends are becoming more and more strict. In this way, the friends left after filtering can work hard and make progress together. Rather than greeting a lot of people, if you look carefully, they are of no use (this is not just material, but also spiritual).

You bring all your friends from middle school over for a chat to see if you are still close friends. After leaving the original environment of serious homogeneity, the differences between you have become bigger and bigger. The feelings that were caused by pressure in the past don't seem to be that strong, especially if you give it a try at the class reunion after two years. Most students of the opposite sex are thinking about how to pick you up or have sex with you, and many students of the same sex are thinking about how to compare each other. Even if we don't fall into these two categories, we can talk less and less, and we can't understand each other less and less.

Finally, I hope you can keep a normal mind. We are here to go to school. It is best if we can make close friends. It is normal if we cannot make friends.