"Queue" likes it, "Gai Lou" worships the teacher, "shows off" the sunbather, and WeChat merchants purchase it. ...
QQ and WeChat parent-teacher conferences, which were originally used as platforms for teachers to issue notices and communicate with parents, have quietly deteriorated, with hundreds of messages every day, making many parents and teachers shout "I can't eat".
What is the meaning of parents? How to guide the specification? The reporter conducted an investigation into this.
"A word is inconsistent" parents were "kicked out" by teachers in the WeChat group.
A recent article entitled "Being kicked out of WeChat parents today" made me very angry. What should I do? "The post caused a heated discussion on the Internet. The parent said that he was "kicked out" by the class teacher because he questioned the teacher's acceptance of gifts and unfairly arranged his short son in the last row of the classroom all the year round. Coincidentally, in September this year, a parent in Ningbo, Zhejiang Province was "kicked out" by the group owner because he opposed the parents' responsibility for class decoration.
In this regard, netizens' opinions are divided into three factions:
"Parents are rational" thinks that unfair treatment is very common in schools, and parents being "kicked" is a sign of teachers' guilty conscience;
"Teachers are rational" puts forward that parents' comments affect class harmony and teachers' prestige, so why teachers can't "worry";
"One school, one policy" holds that parents have become a small society, and parents and teachers need self-discipline.
Parents groups established on social platforms such as QQ and WeChat were originally designed to facilitate teachers to inform students about the school and issue homework notices.
A Chinese teacher surnamed Lin from Du Fu Caotang Primary School in Chengdu, Sichuan told reporters that QQ group is the official group of the class, which is mainly used to send homework, documents and notices. WeChat group was built by parents and can chat freely.
However, this information exchange platform sometimes appears deviation in actual operation. Some parents sunbathe in the group for attention; Some parents show the teacher's praise screen excessively; Some teachers correct their homework and announce their results in the group at any time, which makes parents "stressed". Some teachers also complain about their parents, saying that some parents "@" themselves regardless of time and details and feel that they are working at any time.
As a result, whether the parent group should be built or not has also formed a heated discussion on the Internet. A middle school teacher thinks that there is no need to build a parent group. "There was no WeChat group before, and there was no QQ group. Isn't that how we teach our children? Don't you teach well, too Now this kind of communication platform may not improve students' grades, but it gives parents the opportunity to be lazy. "
Parents who insist that it is necessary to build a group say that the group of parents helps to keep abreast of their children's learning. Therefore, between construction and non-construction, it is inevitable that parents will "grow wildly" and encounter various problems and disputes.
A primary school teacher said: "I think it is really inappropriate for this colleague to' kick parents out of the group'. Topics related to teachers' behavior evaluation and children's grades are really not suitable for talking in groups, but some parents just want to speak casually. In this case, we usually communicate by phone in private, and kicking parents out of the group will only aggravate the contradiction between home and school. "
Parents discuss no restricted area.
It's hard not to turn your face.
"Queuing" praises, "Gai Lou" Xie, Ji Zan, WeChat merchants purchasing ... Many parents said that some parents really changed their taste.
Ge Yu, a citizen of Huai 'an, Jiangsu Province, said that every time I open the parent group, there are more than 500 unread messages, of which only 1 is a notice, and the remaining 499 are replies such as "OK, the teacher has received it", "The teacher has disturbed me" and "Thank you very much".
Cui Xuan, a citizen of Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, said that the teacher's hard work is understandable, but there is no "nutrition" if there are too many such expressions, which not only makes other parents feel pressure, but also makes it easier to miss important notice information. In order to reduce receiving too much invalid information, some parents also try to establish new groups, such as parents with and without teachers, family committees with and without teachers, and so on.
But these highly similar groups exist at the same time, so parents should be careful every time they send something in the group, for fear that the wrong order will bring unnecessary trouble. Some parents summed it up as follows: parents with teachers should speak appropriately and reflect the level of family education; After the teacher sends out the notice, he should reply in time, reflecting his enthusiastic participation in school affairs.
It is really disturbing for parents to become vanity fair, but what makes many parents fear and teachers collapse is the discussion of topics without restricted areas. When interviewed, some parents and teachers think that students' school performance, exam transcripts, grade rankings, classroom teaching methods, teachers' behaviors and styles are all related to privacy and are sensitive. Point-to-point communication is best, not suitable for group discussion.
"It is certainly wrong for the teacher to' kick people', but whether this parent's child is sitting in the corner of the last row of the classroom because of the interests of other parents still needs investigation. The parent openly discussed the matter in the group. Under the eyes of the public, the teacher was also forced to the corner, and it was difficult to collapse. " A netizen analyzed.
Some parents hope that teachers can praise their children more and criticize them less, and try to avoid publishing scores. Some teachers expressed their grievances: "Sometimes the group sends a notice, and parents ask the children directly in the group, and we answer directly. And we also hope to gain the trust and support of parents and better manage the class. "
Normative guidance
Reward the "positive energy" of parents.
The reporter found that many interviewees hope to properly regulate the management of parents. A primary school Chinese teacher said that she set three rules for the class group: don't talk about things unrelated to children's study in the group; Parents do not need to reply "received" except for particularly important notices; Parents can't quarrel collectively. "Since then, the group has been much quieter, and parents have specially called to thank them."
Ji Dahai, an academic member of China Education Association, believes that it is an inevitable choice of the times to strengthen communication between home and school by means of modern information. When using WeChat group and QQ group, we should stick to the bottom line principle, parents should be civilized in their words and deeds, teachers should abide by teachers' morality and discipline in their words and deeds, so as to make the group clean and tidy and create an equal, democratic and harmonious network communication space.