Luo Huiqun, vice chairman of the National Association of Counseling Psychiatrists and counselor at the Counseling Center of Mackay Hospital, reminds you that you should start by understanding your children and let them know who you can talk to. Open and transparent discussion and guidance, understanding your child’s needs, not being afraid to discuss while also learning how to protect yourself online.

The recent disappearance of a 14-year-old Kaohsiung girl has shocked the whole Taiwan. Problems with online dating have emerged one after another. Many parents are worried that their children will fall into the trap of online dating. How should they communicate with their children about online dating issues? Luo Huiqun, vice chairman of the National Association of Counseling Psychologists and counselor at the Counseling Center of Mackay Hospital, reminds you that you should start by understanding the child and let the child know who you can talk to. Through open and transparent discussions and guidance, Understand your children's needs, not be afraid to discuss them and also learn how to protect yourself online.

The dialogue starts with understanding before the parent-child relationship can be closer

"Never prohibit your children from making friends online!" Luo Huiqun pointed out that many parents think that making friends online is not good and often stand up to their children. On the opposite end of the spectrum, suppressing your children's online friendships may lead to further distance between you and your children. If you don’t want to understand him and only want to monitor him, it will only lead to resentment and breakdown of the parent-child relationship. You might as well try to understand the ecology of the modern Internet, as well as the children’s usage habits and related channels, otherwise take anti-blocking measures. , cutting off all connections with the outside world, being isolated, and being forced to give up the things you love, you may very well end up on the road to death.

Discuss friendship issues transparently without suppression or criticism

Luo Huiqun emphasized the importance of rational dialogue and understanding of children. This may be difficult for parents and is inevitable. You will fall into the mode of "you are doing something wrong", but if you want to have a good relationship, you must first start with "self-education as a parent" and "self-awareness", and realize that the future is an online world, and children You also need to learn how to protect yourself online and expand your online abilities. You can communicate rationally, openly, and transparently, letting your children know that you are someone they can talk to, and replace negative obstruction and suppression with positive measures.

Danger signals hidden in emotional unexploded bombs

However, in the recent case of Kaohsiung girl’s abduction and disappearance, how did parents discover the abnormality in their children? Luo Huiqun reminded that if they find that their children only talk to people on the Internet, When speaking, you may need to be vigilant when not speaking to people in the real world. Don't suppress, scold, confiscate, or cut off the Internet first. First, understand what he is doing? What software to use? The main concerns are "What's wrong with you, kid?" and "Are you having some difficulties and need your parents to help you?" Especially at this age, the interpersonal needs and satisfaction come from family and school. When a child encounters grievances at home or at school, there is no one at home. When explaining the method, my emotions were not properly expressed and I could only seek solace on the Internet, and the dangerous signals were quietly buried.

Seek professional consultation and treatment for communication difficulties

"What parents can do is let their children know that they can come to their parents no matter what difficulties they encounter." Luo Huiqun said that of course parents must also adjust. When your child comes to you, don't just push him away. In addition, if you don’t take a stance of opposition and let your children fall into the feeling of doing something wrong or bad, they can only hide and be able to discuss anything on the Internet more openly, openly and transparently, for example: "Encountering abusive people on the Internet "What should I do?" or "How should I judge when a stranger sends me a message?" This way, your children can understand that these online dating issues can be discussed with their parents and provide guidance, and there is no need to hide and get along with fake accounts. If this is the case, it won't matter whether you have your child's cell phone password or not, because he knows you can discuss it. However, if you have serious difficulties, you can seek "family therapy" from a professional psychological counselor to improve your relationship. Join and pay attention to your health every day! LINE＠ ID: @ Subscribe to the Healthy Love Live video and audio channel to read health knowledge more easily: /supply/article/47367 Keywords: Association of Counseling Psychologists, Mackay Hospital, Counseling Center, Luo Huiqun, Internet Dating, Kaohsiung Girls Disappearance case