When you get up the courage to approach a girl, you may get the girl's "dirty eyes". This is normal. When everyone was disheartened, more than one man was rejected. If you are depressed, worried, hurt your health, or become cautious from now on, you are simply stupid. It is important to know how to laugh at yourself after hitting a wall. You should think calmly about the reasons for your failure, perhaps because you approached the girl in an inappropriate way, or because you chose the wrong time, or because your heart is not sincere enough ... (3)- Praise her frankly and appropriately-
The difficulty lies in the first contact, the woman has a reaction, and then it will be easy. If a girl says something to you, it means that she doesn't hate you. At this time, you can talk frankly about your first impression of her and praise her appropriately, such as "You are so beautiful and charming", "This skirt suits you very well", "You are cheerful and I feel very happy with you" and so on. Hearing these words, she may be shy, but she is still very happy. It should be noted that your words should be artistic, both frank and artistic, such as paying special attention to proper limit. Excessive praise of the other party will make people uncomfortable; If you are hypocritical and full of benevolence and morality, you will make the other person's interest dull, and saying some low-level words will make her feel disgusted. (4)- Respect yourself, don't be too concerned-
If you are lucky enough to meet a beautiful and lovely girl, you are seduced by her and you are fascinated by her. You can try your best to get close to her, let her know you and fall in love with you, but don't be self-defeating. But don't be too careful. If you try to please her like a pug, you may be self-defeating Most honest girls don't like spineless men. Then you will be fascinated by her and try your best to please her. Although you are so infatuated, the girl ignores you. You are like a bowl of boiled water, which makes people see the end at a glance. There is no interest at all, so the girl has to say goodbye to you forever. (5)- To be frugal, profligacy may not win people's hearts-
Some men are generous to girls. When shopping, he will buy her this and that, and when he enters the hotel, he will always have "seven dishes and eight bowls"; Even if you meet a beggar, you will pay a lot of money in front of the girl. It seems that only in this way can he show his manhood. As everyone knows, while spending a lot of money, his image in the girl's heart has gradually shrunk. Because most girls will have some associations when they see this move; She will think about how you want to live and what kind of person you want to be in the future. Your actions will undoubtedly scare her away, and even if you don't exclude Xu, your actions will win the favor of individual girls. But as far as most girls are concerned, they hate profligate men the most. Therefore, even if you are rich, don't spend money like water, and don't leave a swollen face for girls. (6)- Be gentle, this is the only way to win your heart-
There is a small piece of ice in the girl's heart, which is small but not easy to melt and hard as ice. If you want to melt the ice, you must first release her guard with gentle words. If you look dirty XL and your attitude is not elegant, there is no hope. The ice is not only hard and cold, but also bigger than before! Girls love gentle and considerate men because they have absorbed countless experiences and lessons from colleagues, relatives and friends around them. They have heard enough and seen enough, so they can't help but take a warning. Unless you treat her with sincerity and gentleness, she won't repay you with the same kindness. Therefore, whether you are just approaching a girl or your relationship has made some progress, you need to be extremely gentle. As long as you show tenderness, thoughtfulness and kindness everywhere and give people a sense of trust, girls will naturally have a good impression on you. Of course, this gentleness, thoughtfulness and kindness must not be hypocritical, but must be from the heart. If tenderness is just a means, it is all wet. (7)-Create a special occasion so that you two can do some activities together-for example, you can pick a very common thing first, then continue to do it, such as having breakfast together and talking about the trivia of the day, then lengthen the time of these activities and slowly taste its taste. In this way, it will help your relationship and make you feel more worthwhile. (8)- occasionally send something to your relatives that won't take long-
Of course, you'd better send something that the other person likes. Maybe some people think it's too wasteful to spend money on flowers or flip a coin to sing, but it's not. This is a gift that you two should have. So when you want to do something for each other, you might as well spend some money on this kind of thing.
In addition, when buying gifts, you don't have to buy some practical gifts for each other, and occasionally you can show that you don't pay much attention to practical functions. In this way, it can help you realize the value of love itself-even if the gift doesn't bring us any practical value. (9)- Try to do something you like with each other-
Picnics, outings, movies ... whatever ... try to remember what you enjoyed with him before you go. Don't say you won't. It is best for two people to meet in a well-lit atmosphere and share each other's happiness and sense of accomplishment. Even if the party time is short, you might as well study how you behave and how comfortable you are when you get along happily. And in the same mood, * * * to do more things. (10)- Express your love sincerely and simply-
When expressing love, be honest and let the other person realize that you are telling the truth. The following ways of showing love are popular: (1) Say "I like you very much" naturally.
(2) Look her in the eye and say, "I like you."
(3) Say bluntly: "I love you!"
(4) "Let's live together!"
(5) "Would you like to walk the road of life with me?"
(6) "I hope to be with you forever." (1 1)- Choose a good place to show your love-
The following are good places to express your love:
(1) When listening to emotional music in the car
(2) A place where you can see the sea.
(3) Where there is no one around.
(4) In more romantic places, such as cafes.
(5) On the way back from fun (12)-The language of love can be a love movie-
The more you listen to the sentence that makes your teeth float, the more practical it is, the more delicious it is, and women will start to think that you may be telling the truth. So, you don't need to convince her with theory, you just need to stimulate her feelings. Here are some love stories in love movies. Try them if necessary: "This is a very important beginning, don't you think?"
"Do you know that you have fallen in love with me?"
"I realize now that I feel so happy with the woman I love."
"The next time I introduce you to my friend, can I say that you are my woman?"
"I have a question recently. I miss you no matter what songs I listen to. " (13)- Men with successful careers are easily favored by women-
For a man, how can he succeed in dealing with women?
Perhaps, netizens will think that "please" female colleagues is enough, which has nothing to do with work; However, which girl wants to love a "nobody" who has made no achievements in her work? (14)- More contact with women will make people mature-
Love is like a touchstone. When you compete with your opponent, you can know each other through love, and you can also know yourself through love. A few years ago, there was a play called "We Don't Know Love at First Love", which was very popular. Later, it was changed into a movie to tell a truth that first love is often blind. Because people in first love are too naive psychologically, the object of first love is often not a rational choice, but an emotion or even an inexplicable psychological agitation. One or both parties jump into the ocean of love and are carried away by love. At this time, people have love, but they don't know love. Entering marriage with the unreliable impulse of first love, if both parties do not strengthen psychological construction after marriage and promote the mutual cognitive psychology of both parties to mature, marriage will often be in crisis. Therefore, a person really knows each other, and also knows that it often takes many times to achieve in love. After tossing and turning in my feelings for several times, I understand the "helplessness of the outside world" and what kind of person I am, and I also know what kind of person I need. (15)- If you want to be stable in love, you'd better be "suitable"-
For contemporary young people, talking about marriage and love seems outdated and inappropriate, but it has its scientific side, that is, it helps to stabilize marriage.
We want to say that the family is right. It is not that we are too poor to love the rich, but that the two parties who are married and listening have similar backgrounds such as family, society, culture, education and life customs, and there will be less friction and misunderstanding when communicating with each other.
It doesn't mean that a marriage that "the door is not right" is necessarily bad. However, both sides of marriage should have strong psychological endurance, and both sides or one side should have great changes. For example, if a rich girl marries a poor man, one of the two parties will sacrifice a lot of things, and it is impossible for both parties to remain calm for a long time.
It is in this sense that when looking for a marriage partner, we should pay attention to "dragon with dragon, phoenix with phoenix". However, nothing is static, and there is no absolute truth in the world. Happy marriage is not uncommon, which is determined by men's and women's views on marriage, subjective and objective environment and people's quality. (16)- Don't expect to marry a woman with both talents and looks-
Don't be too hard on the so-called "talented and beautiful" woman, it's just a term in this world.
Unless she is gifted, a beautiful woman seldom has talent at the same time. Beautiful women often refuse to make efforts in the cultivation of knowledge because of dependence. On the contrary, an unattractive woman cannot be relied on because she lacks "capital" that can be used in life. This is a natural thing. You can't have your cake and eat it. What about spiritual beauty? Still beautiful? When a man wants to choose a woman, he should decide in advance. (17)- Don't sell-
If you have many good female friends, it is understandable, but if you really love one of them, please don't date other girls. "Running around" is not only frivolous, hypocritical and insincere, but also shows that you are not single-minded and hunt everywhere, like a dissolute son. As long as a girl with a little brain knows your little trick, she will leave immediately and ignore you, no matter how smart and talented you are. Therefore, don't "step on several boats", otherwise, it will only turn over and fall into the water in the end. (18)- Don't waste time complaining after lovelorn-
Complaining about others will make you disheartened and depressed. Of course, it is inevitable that you will bear a grudge when you encounter such a thing for the first time, but you should get rid of her as soon as possible, not hate her. If we meet again by chance, we should be generous, or we will surrender to each other. Because whether you say a good word or scold, it objectively shows your psychological weakness and failure. You don't need to spend your energy on this, but you should sort out your feelings as soon as possible and find another object that is more suitable for you. (19)- Don't ask her to come back to you-
Begging for mercy is a lovely idea, even if it is not a fantasy, it is stupid and naive. You must abandon this idea, control yourself and work hard. (20)- There is no need to reminisce about past love affairs-
You should try to avoid going to places where you two love each other and reduce social activities that can remind you of the past. In the above-mentioned occasions, we should also stop unnecessary affection, restore normal reason, and eliminate the traces of past love as soon as possible. This should be achieved by reason. Don't dwell on past memories (21)-Don't rush to find another lover to really fill our emptiness-
It is best to get to know new friends of the opposite sex slowly. Because your mental trauma has not healed, you should first concentrate on some interesting hobbies and divert your attention. You shouldn't fall in love with other girlfriends until your mood returns to normal. (22)- Don't give up on yourself-
Don't feel like a useless person just because you are lovelorn. I didn't know you were still a lovely young man, and you also had your own loveliness. Why should we be negative and inferior? However, you should learn a lesson. If you make friends with the opposite sex in the future, you should be very careful not to show your enthusiasm too early. You should cherish your feelings and never abuse them again. Men look down on girlfriends who give him feelings easily; Women, on the other hand, hate the emotional "glass of water" (23)-there is no need to live in seclusion and not see anyone-
When you are in love, you naturally don't have many opportunities to associate with other friends, especially friends of the opposite sex. Now, you have no burden, you should go out and associate with them. One can make you forget that unpleasant thing, and one can give you a chance to find a more suitable person among many people. (24)- Never break your heart-
Why not tell your friends about the past over and over again? It won't comfort your broken heart and it won't do you any good. Let bygones be bygones. No one can help you get back on your feet, you can only rely on yourself! You still have valuable enthusiasm, you still have a bright future, and you still have many relatives and friends. Why do you have to break your heart for a lifetime? Don't be paranoid, don't walk into a dead end, take out the vitality of your young people, throw yourself into a fiery life and find a new world of love in the ocean of life. As long as the tree of life lasts, it will eventually bear rich fruits of love.