The first step: "Be thick-skinned, take the initiative to attack and control the discretion."
If you are a thin-skinned, blx person, it takes more than five hours to send a message to the other party. Please stop. If you are a person who has been brainwashed by online chicken soup and has always adhered to the principle that "women must not take the initiative", please stop here. Chasing men to send messages on their own initiative to do normal communication between friends is a completely normal way of communication.
What is catching up? Show love, seek attention and lose yourself every day. When the relationship is far from strong, you say some stupid things without discretion, such as "I miss you", "How did I seduce you" and "I bought you a lot of delicious food, so I gave it to you at your house", and then we had sex the first time we met. This is the way to catch up. What is girl initiative? Share some things about yourself normally, so that the other person can have a concrete understanding of your life and thoughts.
It's like meeting a new friend, such as "I had some luck today", "I just went to the gym and met a very funny thing" and "I spent the afternoon reading this book". And with curiosity, I asked him something related to him and learned about his life, such as "So do you like watching Kenji Mizoguchi's movies best?" "How was your review?" "How long have you been working out today?". Why did you catch up? Don't even have friends of the opposite sex?
It is girls' initiative to get to know each other with the mentality of making friends. Girls who know how to communicate and control emotional energy will establish this communication very smoothly and harmoniously, which will make men feel very comfortable and psychologically dependent over time. So the most important thing is that you should be thick-skinned. You should ask curious questions and share interesting things.
Many people ask, how should I start? Just ask him questions directly, or talk about yourself. It's as simple as that. However, we should also grasp proper limit and sense of rhythm. Chatting rhythm: If you go for the purpose of making friends, it is no problem to chat every day, even if you only say a few words occasionally and play a game.
If your relationship itself does not have this attribute, you can't tell whether the other person is single or not. Please keep in touch every few days. Talk to him about specific things, which can be the intersection of work or the information interpreted by his circle of friends, and then get to know each other's emotional state from shallow to deep, and then turn the chat into daily life.
Take the initiative: under any circumstances, you must never talk from morning till night, because in the end, the man will definitely be exhausted and choose to quit. Every time you chat, it is best to have a short chat, just like eating less and eating more. When this topic is finished, let's stop here and we can continue to talk about new topics. Don't say 2 or 30 sentences back and forth on a topic without nutrition, wasting time and making yourself a chatterbox in the eyes of the other party.
You know, men hate women talking. If we feel that the other party is busy, or the meaning is a little weak, we must learn to give in appropriately. After all, the premise of all chats should be "Do not disturb", "respect each other's meaning" and "appropriate restrictions". You are not far from him, but you will never take up too much of his time.
After all, every adult has his own things to do, so if you like him, please take some time and energy to think of some good topics. Starting from his curiosity, starting from sharing his own life, and communicating with a friend's mind, you will find that this is actually not difficult.
Step 2: "There is a feeling that she is so beautiful."
What kind of girls do men generally like? A: A girl who makes him feel beautiful. The person who still makes people feel the hope and happiness of life after busy work and tired life is the driving force that most men pursue. Many feelings can't go on because the girl who once made men feel beautiful and cheerful gradually disappeared and became a dissatisfied housewife, a shrew and an idle person.
Therefore, in the process of contact with your favorite little brother, you must present your beautiful appearance. But beauty is not posturing, it is installed beside him every day. No, beauty is actually very simple, that is, your energy field is clean and positive. Positive energy must be easy to understand, that is, when you are in contact with him, you don't complain, you don't curse, you don't get angry, you are optimistic, you like to laugh, there are many interesting things, and wonderful ideas will come up from time to time.
Clean energy, I don't know if you can understand. Chat with short sentences, not wordy, not slow, have their own things to do, have their own logic, speak exquisitely, do not abuse expressions, do not involve messy things, have quiet moments, not idle girls who just want to chat. In fact, to put it simply, you don't usually appear, but every time you appear, you bring your own sunshine and sweet BGM, and you have something to talk about.
Step 3: The girl who likes to show off will win?
When you like him but he doesn't like you, what do you think is the reason? Of course it's stupid, because he doesn't know you and he doesn't know how good you are. You know, you don't live under the same roof with him, and you haven't been friends since you were a child. There are only several ways for him to know you now: circle of friends, meeting and chatting. Modest and low-key, please use it in the workplace and life. In a one-to-one relationship, please learn to put yourself in others' shoes and send as many positive messages as possible to each other.
Therefore, the more the other person knows your strengths, your social skills, your regular internal system, your good living habits and your excellent economic conditions, the more chance he will be attracted to you. Please learn to make yourself a lifeline in his boring life. Of course, the creation of a circle of friends is also essential, so I won't say much here.
The fourth step: "Properly persecute, you should be ruthless, and you should be cold when you are cold."
Being a gentle and beautiful person is actually only the foundation. Only by having proper principles can you make yourself more valuable. At the beginning of my contact with my partner, for a moment, I felt that his desire to chat with me was weak and he seemed to lose interest in me gradually. But I don't think I did anything wrong. I have put the chat frequency very low. So once he 1 hour didn't return my message, so I asked, "You're not interested in chatting, are you?" After a while, he said, "I'm working out."
I ignored him. Maybe he thought he had a bad tone just now, and then added, "I have to exercise every noon." I still ignored him. A few hours later, he sent another message: "I have a suggestion, let's have dinner together tonight", but I still ignored him. At 7 o'clock in the evening, he sent another message: "Hey, there is no one to accompany me to dinner. I have to go home for dinner."
Seeing this, I smiled in my heart and finished the exam. Then an hour later, I added, "I met a very unhappy thing this afternoon. I'll find you for dinner when I'm ready." He quickly replied, "OK". In fact, saying this is to tell everyone not to compromise blindly, but to have their own clear logic: if you are interested in me, we will continue, if you ignore me, I will ask you and test it. If it really doesn't work, I will withdraw.
If my partner didn't have this series of moves at that time, I probably wouldn't have persisted. And in the early days of getting along with the other half, I will probably confirm his feelings for me every once in a while. If it falls short of my expectations, I'm usually cruel. First throw the pot on his head, then black him once and cool him several times.
The advantage of this is that the rules are well done and the peace of mind in the future is basically guaranteed. When should it be cold? When he has a bad attitude and doesn't give you a satisfactory answer, we can all choose not to get angry and exile him directly.
Step 5: "Pursuing victory and winning quickly"
Sorry, this title is a bit exaggerated. But there is no way. If you delay for too long, sometimes it will not become a climate, and you will drag yourself into the spare tire. Try to control the time of pursuing victory within 1~2 months after you start chatting with him every day, especially after he gives you everything, such as inviting you to dinner, calling you to chat, basically replying, and taking the initiative to chat with you.
The way to pursue is verbal confirmation and physical contact. Of course, if some girls are not used to this, they still need to have a sense of ceremony. To get a boy to confess, they can wait until he does. If you are impatient, you can just say "I'm a little confused now" when you confirm verbally. The other party asked, "What are you confused about?" You say, "I don't know what we talk like this every day", and then you just wait and see.
If there is physical contact, such as when watching a movie, talk to him close to his ear, or pull his skirt, or walk very close. In fact, because of love, everyone will instinctively have some behaviors, which can be naturally revealed. Some girls' eyes can make men very excited, and they can also meet more and take part in some activities that may have physical contact, such as skating and secret rooms. But remember, dating must be more during the day, go to public places, and don't enter private space immediately.