Is it normal for men and women to live together in love?
Generally speaking, when two couples get along to a certain stage, they will have the idea of living together, on the one hand, to take care of each other; On the one hand, it is for the convenience of life. But should we live together before marriage during love? Actually, this question depends on what you think. If you are ready to move in together, move in together. If you're not ready to move in together and feel that being together will dislike each other, be ready to break up. Personally, I still think that if you are in love, let's live together first, otherwise you will find that two people are in constant conflict and war after marriage. Some time ago, my girlfriend decided to work and live in my city. At that time, she told me if she wanted to live together. I said it would be convenient to be together:
(1) I can take care of her conveniently, and we can take care of each other;
(2) After dinner, you can take a walk and do what you like, without considering that there are only a few short hours every day, which is not much different from other places. ...
(3) The rent saved can be used for other things, such as eating something delicious and saving it for travel expenses.
What if you ask two people who are not used to living together for a long time? At present, many families are only children. Who is not spoiled? Habits are not formed in a day or two. Think about your parents. After living together for so many years, they have long been used to each other's existence, so if they are not used to it, get along slowly and understand each other.
Matters needing attention in love and cohabitation between men and women
1, money
For two people living together, it means eating and sleeping together in the future, so money is a very realistic problem. All expenses of a family need to be borne by one person. Smart women know that men should bear all these expenses. Although the expenses necessary for you to live together may not be affordable for this young man who has just entered the society, it is an attitude problem, because no one can guarantee that you will never get married.
2. Privacy
You should know that you are just living together, not getting married. In addition, even if you get married, you can have your own space and friends. Cohabitation is a very intimate act, but both parties should respect each other's privacy. If you are controlled by him and have no freedom in life, be careful. You know, there is always a corner in people's hearts that is unwilling to open to anyone. If you are controlled like this for a long time, everyone will collapse and want to escape.
3. housework
There are many married women who don't do housework even after marriage, let alone your relationship. If you are the only one who has been washing and cooking for him and taking charge of everything, will you feel more like a nanny than the person he wants to marry? So you have to be clear about the distribution of things at home, so even if you get married, it's a good idea.
4. Love
Between cohabitation, MM should check whether your other half really loves you, or find someone to completely solve the problem of love. And don't think that you love this person and tie him up with sex, then you are all wet, because at first you thought that you couldn't leave each other because of novelty, but after a long time, there are more times. For a man who loves novelty, the retreat of excitement is even more boring. At that time, you will find how stupid it is to live with him!
Why do men and women choose unmarried cohabitation in modern society?
First, according to the wishes of two people
In modern society, men and women are basically unmarried in love, because both sides are willing to live together according to their own wishes, which is more convenient to be together. Both men and women feel that they are adults and have the right to choose love freely. Since two people love each other, they don't want their parents to care too much. Therefore, women feel that living with their parents has access control time, so women spend little time with men, but women are not used to it, so women will move out to live with men because they spend more time together.
Second, I don't mind living together without marriage
In modern society, men and women are basically unmarried in love, because they don't mind this. Men and women feel that they can live together even if they don't get married, because their thoughts are not so conservative. And cohabitation is more convenient for two people to live alone, life is happier, and men and women naturally come together.
Third, I want to be bored with each other.
In modern society, men and women in love are basically unmarried because women want to be bored with men. If men don't agree to live together, women will feel sad or have to live together, because women care about living together with men. So she can cook for men and spend more time with them.
Fourth, open your mind.
In modern society, men and women are basically unmarried in love, because they are open-minded and feel that their parents are adults and have no right to interfere with their freedom, and there is nothing wrong with cohabitation. And two people love each other, and both men and women have the right to decide whether to live with each other. In fact, all these fully illustrate a common phenomenon in this era. Strict family education is also one aspect, but it can't compare with the trend of this era. Therefore, if two people have no opinions in this respect, they will naturally live together.
Five, want to form a home with each other.
In modern society, men and women in love are basically unmarried, because they all want to form a family with each other, feel that living with each other is more free than living with their parents, or for other reasons, anyway, they all rush to get married, and it doesn't matter in the morning and evening, which can make each other more comfortable and happier, so men and women naturally come together.
6. It is suitable for sharing a house.
In modern society, men and women in love are basically unmarried, because they think it is more appropriate to live together in a rented house. After all, they are already in love. For example, men have to go to work and rent a house to live in, and women think so, so it is better to take care of each other together, so two people will meet and live together in this respect. So why the love between men and women in society is basically "unmarried cohabitation" is actually inseparable from the progress of modern society and people's ideas, and also depends on personal choice and self-restraint ability.
The girl's psychology in cohabitation before marriage
1, out of curiosity
Not everyone is willing to break through the traditional culture. Because of this, in the love stage, some people will be willing to leave their first love on their wedding night. However, friends are so happy to discuss the opposite sex together. At this time, curiosity will overcome traditional ideas, and some precocious people will be tempted to be curious about the opposite sex. Under the trend of curiosity, they also formed the idea of trying before, thus producing the result of trying before.
2. Poor self-control
In the face of feelings, many people's IQ will be greatly reduced. Especially after 90, they are more keen on making friends online. After meeting online for a while, we will meet in reality. After meeting, it seems that I haven't seen my old friends for many days, and I have no sense of shame. To this end, I started my first hand-holding and first kiss in my life. I thought I could stop kissing, but people's greed finally overcame strong self-control, thus giving a precious first time in an impulsive state. No matter male or female, once you lose your precious first time, it will lead to the next second and third time. In this state, it is likely to develop into cohabitation before marriage.
In order to satisfy her boyfriend.
There have also been women who have encountered such a situation, and their boyfriends threatened to try: either try or break up. Faced with such threats, some rational women will choose to break up decisively without thinking, but some women are reluctant to part with their emotional investment in these years, thus choosing injustice. That kind of forced premarital trial marriage rarely leads to marriage, because these men don't know how to respect women, and more often, they love themselves more. Such a selfish, narrow-minded and anxious man either doesn't love you or can't give you real happiness. Therefore, the premarital test should be the acquiescence of both men and women in a voluntary state, and should not be the product of coercion. Otherwise, the refusal to fail is behind the loss of virginity and being dumped.
4. To repay my boyfriend.
Although they also understand that women's chastity is very important and should not be given easily, they can't hold the line of defense under the constant encouragement of their boyfriends' admiration and love. Some of them died because their boyfriends cared about themselves and helped them a lot in their study and life, or because their boyfriends solved many problems for their subordinates. I often feel uneasy and grateful. When his boyfriend asked for sex, he was worried that refusing would hurt his heart, so he thanked him for his kindness by satisfying his boyfriend's sexual request. This situation accounts for 18.3% in the survey.
5. I want to upgrade my love
Many young women regard "sex" as a measure of love and think that only sex can maintain and develop love. Some people think that breastfeeding and premarital sex are the procedural requirements of love, and the only way is to happen in advance, so that the relationship can be affirmed as soon as possible, the love can be upgraded and deepened, and the cohesion of both sides can be strengthened. Under the arrangement of this concept of love, they gave their all too quickly.
6. The influx of western cultural thoughts is impacting the traditional sexual morality.
With the popularity of the Internet, the world has truly become a global village, and everyone can become a news disseminator. To this end, the way different countries treat feelings will form exchanges. Gradually, people who are eager for sexual freedom begin to implement the sexual concept of western countries on themselves, especially men in love, who have long been eyeing women. To this end, they followed suit and started the so-called cohabitation life based on marriage. It is true that those men and women who live together and get married smoothly will not have much resentment against cohabitation before marriage, but those women who cannot hold hands in marriage for various reasons after cohabitation before marriage must be very sorry, especially those who have experienced abortion or induced labor.
7. Test each other's health and avoid embarrassment after marriage.
Carrying on the family line is a top priority in marriage, and the increase of infertility has led many people to choose premarital tests. In fact, infertility was not a hot term a few years ago, that is to say, the real killer of infertility is trying to live together before marriage, which stems from the tragedy that many women have fertility, but they met someone before marriage and were unprepared during cohabitation, leading to frequent abortion or induced labor, which led to infertility. To this end, if you want to know each other's health, you don't need to do it yourself, but go to a regular hospital for a systematic examination, which is clear at a glance. Only in this way can we avoid the tragedy that a woman is unexpectedly pregnant but abandoned by her boyfriend, and never create a tragedy for herself because of reckless love.