If we observe carefully, those popular people, whether adults or children, often have the following characteristics: good at listening, good at expressing themselves, correctly capturing other people's emotions, having a wide range of interests and hobbies, and being willing to help others. , happy to share.
1. Children who are good at listening, expressing themselves, and correctly capturing the emotions of others can minimize misunderstandings and friction. Xiao Doudou, the protagonist of "Little Doudou by the Window", was considered an eccentric, inattentive and unruly child in his original school. She would keep lifting the top of her desk, shouting at the passers-by outside the window during class, and drawing outside the paper when drawing... Moreover, when the teacher pointed it out, she did not mean to Change.
When Xiao Doudou came to Ba Academy on the first day, Principal Xiao Lin said to her, "Okay, just say a few words to the teacher! Say everything you want to say." Xiao Doudou After confirming what I could say, I kept talking for 4 hours. During this process, Principal Xiao Lin just nodded and smiled from time to time, or asked "What else?" To Xiao Doudou's mother's surprise, Xiao Doudou's life in Ba Academy was very smooth this time. Will be late. I was still very active in school, but I learned the rules and listened to the teachers and principal.
This is the power of listening. The principal listened patiently to Xiaodoudou's speech. Xiaodoudou felt that she was valued and had a good impression of the principal and the school. Then she had a good impression of the school teachers and was willing to communicate with them. Principal Xiaolin is a very good listener, which is one of the reasons why he can gain the trust of students. On the other hand, if children can learn this method from Principal Xiaolin, they can also gain the trust of others and have a good start in social interaction.
To improve children’s social skills, parents should pay attention to these three points
In addition to listening, if children can express themselves accurately and correctly perceive the emotions of others, they will reduce conflicts with others. Misunderstandings and friction in interactions. Interactions between children are simple. For example, if a child wants to join someone else's game, he will directly ask: "Can I play with you?" or "Your game is really fun, I want to play too." The effect will be better. If he is not good at expressing, he will just stick together and not be able to open his mouth. If the "leader" of this group of children is not very patient, saying "what are you doing" and pushing a few times, this socialization attempt may end in failure.
Perception of other people’s emotions is also an essential ability in social interaction. To put it bluntly, there is an "eye price". After the exam, the classmates did not do well and were unhappy. If they show off with a 100-point test paper, the other party will definitely be unhappy and may even quarrel. This kind of thing is very common in elementary schools. After all, they are all children. They tend to be self-centered and don't think much about other people's feelings. This age is normal. However, parents should pay attention to guiding their children's emotions and slowly improve their ability to observe other people's emotions. This is very beneficial for children to get along with others when they grow up.
2. Children with a wide range of interests can easily find similar topics and gain appreciation when getting along with other children. Teacher Zhuo Li, who has been the principal of Shijia Primary School in Beijing for 20 years, said that in an open class, the teacher mentioned the "Yungang Grottoes" and asked students to express their opinions. At that time, most children did not know much about the Yungang Grottoes, and there was silence in the classroom. A girl named Qiao Jue raised her hand and introduced the Yungang Grottoes in detail.
It turned out that Qiao Jue’s parents had just taken her to the Yungang Grottoes in Datong, Shanxi Province during the previous vacation. After returning from the visit, she deliberately sorted out the relevant knowledge, so she remembered it very clearly. After Qiao Jue finished speaking, a burst of applause burst out spontaneously in the classroom, and the children looked at her with admiration. In the words of teacher Zhuo Li, hobbies are part of a child's "power". Imagine a child chatting with other children. No matter what topics he likes to watch, what cartoons he likes to watch, or what interesting games he likes in the amusement park, he can understand and speak, and sometimes he can put forward his own suggestions and opinions. This kid must be very popular.
3. Children who are willing to help others and share with others are more likely to gain friendship. This is easy to understand.
Everyone loves someone who is willing to lend a helping hand and is selfless and generous. However, parents should remind their children that friendship is two-sided. If they meet someone who wants something but is unwilling to pay, they should stay away from him. If you associate with such a person, you are likely to get hurt. Knowing what kind of children are popular, what can parents do to help their children become such people?
1. You can invite other friends and parents to play at home, or go out to play together. No matter how many dating tips we cover, in the end it all takes practice. In this regard, even if parents teach their children more knowledge, it is not as effective as playing with them for half a day. Therefore, parents should create more opportunities for their children to contact other children. On weekends, invite their children's classmates and parents to go home to play, or make an appointment. Go to a park, museum or playground to give your child the opportunity to experience cooperation, competition, disputes, concessions and persistence among peers... Slowly, he will naturally understand how to perform best in a group, respect others, and protect others. own rights and interests, and know what kind of people can give and what kind of people can't.
2. Cultivate children’s diverse interests. As mentioned before, having a wide range of interests and hobbies has many advantages in making friends, so parents should do their best to create conditions and cultivate their children's interests in all aspects. This kind of interest cultivation is not limited to letting children attend interest classes, reading with children, taking children to parks, traveling to scenic spots, etc. This is a good idea. Every year during the 24th solar term, Li takes his daughter Li Yan to the Ming Tombs Reservoir for natural observation, observing and recording the local climate, water temperature, flora and fauna, and making specimens. Li and Li Yan continued this kind of observation for several years, with a total of nearly 200 sexual intercourses. In fact, such an activity does not cost much, it requires more time and energy. If every parent can have this intention, I believe it will not be difficult to cultivate children's interests and talents in certain areas.
3. Parents should set an example for their children when making friends. Having said all this, it is also important for parents to set an example for their children in making friends. In the documentary "Post-2000", there is a girl named Yiyi who always likes one person and rarely plays with other children. She reads picture books and plays games by herself. The principal, Teacher Li Yuer, tried to persuade her to play with other children, but was firmly rejected one after another. Facing the camera, Yiyi's mother said: "My father and I are people who prefer to be alone, so Yiyi's behavior is normal for us."
When the camera crew followed the first year of junior high school , she doesn’t look as withdrawn as she did when she was a child. Although sometimes she still reads quietly by herself, she also has some friends at school. When she was young, she volunteered in kindergarten and did not reject the group atmosphere like she did when she was a child. In fact, you can understand the comparison one by one when you see her mother. One after another, my mother did not fully agree with the director's opinion at the time, but still let each one stay in the kindergarten until graduation. This shows that my mother is a person who can not only stick to herself but also accept other different opinions. Her calmness gave her the courage to explore and make friends. We live in a society where every child needs to interact with people from birth. As he grows, his social skills become increasingly important. Every parent has the responsibility to help their children learn this course, so as to help their children stand better in society and grow up happily.