Contemporary people, especially young people, have different understandings of friends, which leads to many troubles, which are actually caused by some misunderstandings in friends' communication.
1. Friends all over the world. Now some people always think that the whole world is a friend and everywhere is a friend. In fact, most of them are because of interest or work. Some people who meet and contact are not friends, but it is more appropriate to say that they know each other. In fact, we can't understand each other, let alone have a deep friendship. After all, our friendship takes time to accumulate. Usually there may be nothing. When you are at a low point or need help, you will find that the so-called friends are all over the world, and there are no friends at all. These people are afraid to avoid it, and eventually you will find that you may not even have a friend. In this case, you should not only make more friends, but also find out the key development that you really get along well with and share the same interests among many acquaintances before you can become real friends.
Regarding the depth of friends, we often say that fair-weather friends are not friends. Some people do things tactfully, which makes people feel comfortable and likes flattery. Many people just call you brother in this situation, but they don't treat you as a friend in their hearts. We should have a clear understanding of such people. Don't indulge in this state without knowing it, but know your own weaknesses and their purpose. Take your own situation as the most important consideration, and don't get stuck in the quagmire of their compliments. Once this happens, you should understand that some people can only be superficial, don't be intimate, and blame themselves for being blind.
A friend's position is to consider your immediate interests, not to build an arch fire. With the increase of experience, there is no frivolous indifference when I was young, no impulse to go out and fight with others when they are angry, and I understand the philosophy of life better. Certainly not rampant and sustainable. Considering the consequences more is the embodiment of maturity and wisdom. A true friend gives opinions and attitudes according to your situation and position, not to make you regret for a while, but to choose the best way under reasonable circumstances to protect your safety and maximize your interests. In the end, when we have to face it, we can advance and retreat with one heart and one mind.
Friendship is not a test, but a cultivation. Few of our friends can really go to the end, but in the long life, we will find that there are really not many friends, and there are fewer often together. For those of us who get along with friends, what we should do is to maintain it as much as possible, not to test and destroy it. Friendship is actually very strong and fragile. Sometimes it's just a few words that poke the other person's pain. Maybe friends who have been friends for decades are strangers from now on. Friendship will grow into a tree like flowers and plants, and gradually become fearless of external wind and rain erosion.
5. The foundation of friends is trust. Friends may just know each other in a variety of ways, because of work, because of study, or all kinds of things, but making friends is different from others. The most important thing is that we need to trust each other. With trust, we can open our hearts to each other, exchange ideas and share with each other when we encounter loss and joy. Otherwise, we may be jealous or make things worse. Trust is also a good criterion for you to grade your friends.
6. The so-called one and a half friends. We will definitely have one or two girlfriends, and we need these two girlfriends. Nine times out of ten things in life are unsatisfactory, and accidents are everywhere. In our only child era, it is unthinkable to rely on brothers and sisters. In this post-friendship, the meaning of making friends has different meanings. We need a friend who we can truly trust wholeheartedly, who can give you care about the people you have to care about when you need help most. Of course, such friends need opportunities, and it doesn't matter if they don't. After all, bosom friends are hard to find.
7. Cherish friends who are worth making, and be careful to sail for thousands of years. Friendship also needs care. When we get along, the depth of friendship needs to be accumulated. In understanding again and again, we know each other's temper and personality better. Don't touch each other's difficulties and shortcomings easily, but also look at each other's difficulties and advantages more objectively. The so-called friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and that between villains is as sweet as honey. Friends don't come for it. You can only feel the warmth when you are in storm warning.
8. To make friends, we should distinguish the circle of friends. Treating each other as equals is the way for friends to get along. Among the people we usually know, many times we are universal. People are always treated equally, and so should friends. We should try to treat almost all our friends fairly except our best friends. After all, no one wants you to be partial to each other more than I do. You come and I go, that's the way to get along. Don't covet the so-called pay as much as you want. After all, everyone's situation is different and the environment is different. Sometimes we need more understanding and tolerance. Don't blame each other for a moment's incomprehension. As for getting along, it's best not to be too bad, otherwise too many misunderstandings will definitely bring a lot of unhappiness.
The above is what I understand from some friends. Now I never deliberately try to enhance or test friendship, because I know that good friends are not the kind of friendship that can only be linked by drinking and having fun every day, nor the kind of dew friendship that is completely forgotten because of too many things.
What I want to say to contemporary young people is to cherish those who have helped you, cherish those who really think of you, and stay away from those dirty people. True friends can stand the test of time and are really precious. Young people can make more friends, but they should also know more about themselves. Young people are not afraid to take more detours, because there is no so-called straight road. Everything we encounter in life is our opportunity. Facing the sunshine, we will get the light. If you go to darkness, you will inevitably get darkness. Life is simpler, and we will gain simple and pure friendship.