Another year in a blink of an eye. Let's walk around, see the new changes in Hanzhong and feel the rapid development of China. Sitting in the car, I personally felt the achievements of highway maintenance and construction in the past year, and I felt a lot. Earth-shaking changes are taking place in China. Harmonious society, harmonious unit, harmonious city and harmony are attracting more nominations into our field of vision, infiltrating into our hearts, blending into our thoughts and influencing our gestures. But occasionally I hear discordant voices. Individuals can't live in harmony with others, establish good interpersonal relationships, communicate poorly with others, and even be hostile. As a result, it is difficult to carry out work, the relationship between people is tense, and work and life are difficult. Heart-to-heart conversation, listening to many specific things, the public said that the public is right, and the old woman said that the old woman is right. Everyone has many reasons and grievances, which makes my head a little confused and speechless for a while. I have been thinking repeatedly for several days, and there is no result. What should I do if I'm inside? The doubts in my heart, finally unable to let go, asked the old section chief. After listening to my report, the old section chief hit the nail on the head: selfishness is too heavy, personal consciousness is too strong, he didn't straighten his position, said inappropriate words to inappropriate people on inappropriate occasions, challenged authority, ignored the face of others, and finally fell into a vicious circle of interpersonal relationships, that's all. Think about it, it's true. If we can focus on public interests, less on personal gains and losses, and more on the collective interests of the unit, we should not care too much about personal face, take more responsibility and responsibility, less shirking and wrangling, more cooperation, less hostility, more understanding and tolerance, less suspicion and struggle, and our relationship should be more harmonious. The words of the old section chief made my eyes shine and my heart suddenly enlightened. Just think, as long as we have more sense of the overall situation, less haggle over every ounce, more collective consciousness, less personal grudges, more vision and more mind, we probably won't fall into such an embarrassing situation. I might as well study for ten years if I listen to you. That's what it means. Do not please, do not flatter, do not lie, can interpersonal relationships be done well? Professor Ceng Shiqiang gave a positive answer with his witty pictographic language. Ten keys to interpersonal relationship summarized by Professor Ceng Shiqiang: beautiful appearance. The inner quality of people is always the most important. Inner cultivation and personal quality are the foundation of a person. The saints are Brown and Huai Yu. Even the most ordinary clothes, people's temperament and self-cultivation will penetrate from the brow. You can't pretend. Self-cultivation, self-improvement and self-enrichment are the first elements of good interpersonal relationships. Two suits. Wearing the right clothes in the right place, not fancy clothes, is a metaphor for being easy-going and decent, not unconventional, not outdated, and not allowing people to stay away from you from the beginning. Interpersonal relationship is dealing with people. First of all, you should be able to blend in with the environment and make people accept you easily. Three glasses of wine. Drink in moderation, not too much. Metaphor is easy-going, has a certain social accomplishment, can get along well with people, have something to say at the scene, and be integrated with people. But we must grasp the concept of good degree, enough is enough, not too much. Four rounds of mahjong. Besides work, people need entertainment, not necessarily poker, mahjong, table tennis, chess, basketball and other hobbies, as long as they are not addicted to it and don't play with things. Having fun, having your own hobbies, being able to participate in interactive social games and deepening friendship and intimate relationship with people in entertainment are good supplements and adjustments. Five parties make friends. In the southeast, northwest and central China, under certain principles, friends from all directions can communicate, but they don't care too much about their status and interests. Making friends can broaden your horizons, broaden your knowledge, learn from others, and be comprehensive, which is more or less inspiring and helpful. Six out of Qishan. You should learn from Zhu Gekongming's indomitable spirit and know that you can't do it. As long as there is one percent hope, we must make 100 percent efforts. It is not easy to say impossible, and it is not easy to give up. Just talking may not get things done well, so ask fewer questions. Do what you should do, not afraid of setbacks, perseverance, and not seeking results. Seven skills to beat a horse. Flattery should be like not patting, master the sense of proportion and mystery, don't flatter naked, and have the taste of flattery. There is always some truth in what others say, not a matter of principle. It is not good to contradict face to face. People are all face-saving, and they would rather remind them afterwards than wait for a while directly, regardless of the scene at that time. Taking care of face in front of others and giving sincere advice after others are true friends. Don't brag too much about yourself, exaggerate your contribution and expand your ability. It's no use bragging about your own merits. Boasting each other is conducive to the promotion of * * *. Give others some face, give others some credit, everyone has face and everyone has credit. Harmonious relationship, to win the respect of others, should start from respecting others. Nine points of hard work. When others help us, we should work hard, live up to our expectations and be worthy of their help and support. Conscientious, conscientious, is the duty of being a man. People who are slick and untrue, such as rootless trees and passive water, will soon be seen through and cannot really win the respect and friendship of others. Very patient. Patience is more important than effort. Everything is done well and hard, but I have a bad temper and can only give up all my efforts. A kind heart is not easy to be known, and a bad temper is felt by everyone. Shame must be repaired. Those who are angry with you, difficult to obey, and difficult for you are all your nobles. There should be gratitude in my heart. A little explosion and a strong heart indicate that others are likely to hit the key and hit the joints. If you think about this problem clearly, you can naturally bear it. Patience is not repression, patience is transformation. Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. Turning difficult obedience into our driving force is the greatest help to us. Mr. Ceng Shiqiang's words deserve our deep thought, analysis, practice and mastery. The above ten items should be implemented in our daily work and life, so that interpersonal relationships will be easy and harmonious.