There are many teenage friends who often worry about trivial matters until they become blushing and thick-necked. This lack of tolerance is not only detrimental to harmonious coexistence among classmates, but also detrimental to normal interpersonal interactions.
To learn to tolerate others, you must first have an optimistic attitude. A pessimistic person always thinks of the bad side of things easily, and is depressed and depressed, so he will always be dissatisfied or angry with others. Although some people are usually optimistic, they become pessimistic once they encounter something. This is not true optimism. True optimism is to be able to give yourself encouragement and hope at any time, and to believe in yourself.
Of course, if you want to gain tolerance, you cannot do without the establishment of the perspective of winning and empathy. ***Yingguan is simply like what is said in an advertising slogan: "Hello everyone, that's what is really good." This is a denial of the view of excessive competition and a true collectivism. We need to be tolerant of our classmates and our opponents in competition. President Lincoln was once known for his tolerance towards his competitors, but later he finally aroused the dissatisfaction of the congressmen. The congressman said: "You should not try to make friends with those people, but should eliminate them." Lincoln smiled and replied: "When they become mine Friends, aren't you destroying my enemies?" President Lincoln's words hit the mark. If we are more tolerant, our open opponents may be our potential friends.
Perspective perspective requires us to think differently and change roles. The essence of empathy is to put yourself in the shoes of others, that is, think about what others think, and understanding comes first. If there is friction in the interaction between classmates, you should exchange the position of yourself and the other person, stand on the other person's position, and consider the problem from the other person's way of thinking or perspective. In this way, when you originally want to get angry, you will calm down through empathy; when you feel that the other person is unreasonable, through empathy, you will truly understand how he feels here and now. . By putting yourself in someone else’s shoes, you will also become tolerant.
In fact, tolerating others means tolerating ourselves. Being more tolerant of others will give us more space in our lives. People live in society and cannot exist in isolation. They have to deal with many people, including family, friends, classmates, colleagues and strangers. We must always integrate into the big family of society in order to feel happy and live a more valuable life. If people want to realize their own value and live more meaningfully, they must constantly get along with the people around them. The best way to get along with others is to treat them well and constantly adapt to their changes. This is also tolerant. Main performance.
1. To be kind to the people around you, you must be tolerant. It is inevitable that people will make a mistake or do something wrong due to a sudden change of thought. Be kind to him, be tolerant to him, and allow him to correct his mistakes. He will be grateful, repay you if he has the opportunity, and be more devoted to you.
2. To be kind to the people around you, you must care about their needs and try your best to help them get them met.
3. Be kind to the people around you, make them happy mentally, and prevent domestic violence and the like. Usually use words of praise and affirmation more often, discover the shining points of the other party, and affirm them, which is somewhat of the spirit of Ah Q.
Fourth, making friends should proceed from the shallower to the deeper, have a correct understanding of the intimacy of the relationship between the two parties, and have a process of understanding and screening friends. Some people are indistinguishable from each other when they meet, but later find out that they have different opinions and get entangled, which makes them unhappy. Therefore, it is better to keep distance and be polite to each other than to be nice at first and then turn against each other later.