Question 1: How should we make friends? A true friend should be the one who finds you as soon as possible when you are hurt, and then stays by your side quietly without saying anything. When you finish crying, she will tell you to wipe away your tears and face it with strength.
A true friend will give you your space. She doesn’t need you to be like a blank sheet of paper in front of her. But she will work hard to understand you and reach deep into your heart. When you are willing to share your secrets with her, she will listen quietly and keep it secret for you.
A true friend will pour cold water on you mercilessly when you are proud and complacent; will cruelly pull you back to reality when you are addicted to beautiful fantasies; will cruelly pull you back to reality when you become successful and famous. At this time, I silently bless you.
True friends don’t need to hide anything in front of each other. When you are happy, you will laugh exaggeratedly; when you are sad, you will cry unabashedly; when you are wronged, you will angrily curse those people. Because you know that in front of each other, you don't need to be reserved, strong, or swallow your anger. You know that in front of each other, just be yourself.
If you have a close friend in life, you will die without regrets!
Yes, what is a true friend? Do you have any real friends nowadays? Are there any real friends in this society of bait fish and deceivers? Maybe you have, but it’s definitely not as true as what this passage says! Maybe what I say is a bit absolute! But it’s also very real. Who can you blame? This is what society is like now. Let no one trust anyone, and no one dare to trust anyone. Everyone has a sense of wanting to protect themselves. There is only emptiness and a lonely heart! Among classmates, everyone will compete with each other to see who has a better job and who has found a rich husband... Even if they have contact, they are just using each other. There is just intrigue among colleagues. So it is really difficult to have a true friend! Who doesn't want to have a true friend? I really want to find someone to hold me and cry when I feel hurt, and I want to find someone to share my happy things with. No need to hide, no need to be reserved, no need to be strong! I believe you are as eager to find a true friend as I am! When you are tired, drinking together and chatting are enough.
Can true friends be found? It’s so difficult! Otherwise, how could people say that if you have a close friend in life, you will die without regrets! ! ....
Question 2: How should we make friends correctly? Different people have different ideas. I think: friends are people who point you in the direction of your progress. Friends
A friend is a person who solves your difficulties. A friend is a person who is close to you. A friend is a person who cares about you. A friend is a person who gets along with you day and night.
People who talk nonsense about trivial shortcomings. Because no one is perfect! Not to mention your friend
is not a perfect person either!
Friends are golden, friends are Silver, friends are the sunshine, friends are the moon. Friends are the stars. Friends are the ones who light up the light for you when you are walking towards the dark shore. Friends will not give up because you are in a difficult period now. And those who are far away from you. Friends will not abandon you just because you are at the lowest point in your life.
A true friend will not follow what others say, nor will he leave you alone. A person who sprinkles a handful of salt on the injured wound. A friend will not stay away from you because of the villain's frame-up of you. Instead, at this time, he will lend a helping hand to care. You, the person who cares about you.
A true friend will not be ungrateful. He will not be betrayed by the wind. He will not flatter those who are useful and kick away those who are useless.
People. A true friend will not put aside friendship because of some selfish interests.
A true friend will not be selfish, he will help you when you need it The person who cares for you desperately will always be the most loyal to you. He will promise that your previous words and deeds will not be changed because of your temporary unhappiness. The person you forgot.
A true friend is moral. When you are in trouble, he will not put any pressure on you or make you breathless
It’s an outdated approach. A true friend will be rational and thoughtful. He will not see your troubles at this time, and he will not stand by and watch. He He will advise you behind your back, he will communicate with you in private, and he will never directly tell others what he thinks about you. In other words, he will save you face.
A true friend can help your friend, be the one who can control the wind and rain for your friend, be in a sunny mood for your friend, and will take care of you in every possible way.
I like to get along with friends, I like to make friends, I like to have heart-to-heart communication with my friends, I hope to have true heart-to-heart communication with my friends.
Everyone has their own way of doing things. If you ask others to do it, you can't force them to do it your way, not to mention that your parents don't ask for this, not to mention that you are an outsider. No one can impose his own methods on others
. Therefore, friendship and interactions with friends should not be imposed on others.
You have your own ideas about how to behave. Your ideas may not be accepted by others, so when interacting with friends, you cannot be the same.
You have your own methods, and I have my pursuits.
Making friends depends on Sincerity and sincerity, making friends depends on your own behavior. A true friend will not leave you just because you are in trouble
. He is not your true friend, even in your most difficult time. You don’t have to be upset when I leave you, because you can
Recognize what a true friend is. When it comes to interacting with friends, make more friends when your friends need you most
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Don't stand by and stay away from your friends. Such friends are real friends.
I like real friends and I like to make friends with real friends. This is what I always do. In principle, when you make friends at your most critical moment
, you will know what the most true friend is and what is the most true friendship.
Friendship is what a person needs. ,Friendship is what a person needs, friendship is what a person yearns for
, Friendship is indispensable in a person's life
We all long for friendship. We all cherish friendship.
Friends are sincere, friends are sincere. A life with friends is a happy life.
There is a bright moon and a clear breeze in my heart. Sit back and watch the changes. Eloquence is silver, silence is gold.
Life is inseparable from family affection, friendship and love! ...>>
Question 3: What should you pay attention to when making friends? How can I make friends? 1. Issues you should pay attention to when making friends
In addition to sincerity and tolerance, you should also pay attention to the following 10 issues:
1. Listen to your friends
As a friend, you have to learn to listen. When your friend encounters setbacks and troubles, he will look for someone to vent his emotions. As a friend, if you can listen to the other person's words sincerely and patiently, you will open an outlet for your friends to vent their emotions. When your friend is telling you, you not only listen patiently, but also insert one or two emotional words of comfort from time to time, or come up with ideas for your friend, and your friend's emotions will be lifted out of the swamp. , he will feel that having a friend like you is the real support. In this way, the feelings of friends will be deeper and the friendship will grow day by day. There was a woman who was extremely depressed because of her marriage, so she called her girlfriend to talk about her troubles. However, those days, the girlfriend was busy with work and could not take the time to listen to her friend: As a result, the woman ended up because of Unable to bear the emotional repression for a while, he committed suicide angrily. If you could have taken some time out of your busy schedule to listen to what your friend had to say and give you some comfort, your friend would not have reached a dead end.
2. Friends should also be classified into categories of closeness and distance
Although friends are the most friendly or reliable communication partners in the social circle, human nature is complex, and when communicating with friends, one must also think carefully and carefully to distinguish between closeness and distance. According to common sense, people who become friends usually have similar tastes and personalities, some have similar interests, some have similar cultural levels, some have noble personalities, have similar minds, etc. From the perspective of the reasons for communication, there are acquaintances who cut their throats, acquaintances who are irreversible, acquaintances in times of need, gentlemen's acquaintances, acquaintances who have forgotten their years, casual acquaintances, business acquaintances, family friends, old friends, etc. No matter what the reason is for you to be friends, after a period of dating, you should make a choice, whether you are close or distant. For example, some friends are sincere and innocent, so they can naturally have a sincere and deep friendship; but there are also friends who come to you for some utilitarian purpose. Once the benefits are not achieved or when you are poor and have no use value to them, they will leave. As long as you leave, you can't make friends like this deeply. What's more, it's better to keep a certain distance.
3. Asking for favors should be done in moderation. People naturally cannot do without favors when making friends.
However, one must not ask for more. You ask someone once and they help you. If you are not very knowledgeable and try to push your limits again and again, then your friends will be disgusted and resentful of people like you. In this way, the relationship between friends will become difficult. To continue. There are also people who do not consider the other person's ability to bear it, but engage in friendship coercion in order to satisfy their own needs. This is also behavior that offends their friends.
4. Be there when friends need it most
Faced with a mixed society and ever-changing nature, no one can guarantee that they will do everything right without asking for help, and no one can boast that they will not be in danger throughout their lives. Therefore, people always face difficulties when they encounter them. Desire to get help from others. Therefore, as a friend, when others need your help, you must be there in time and sincerely extend your hand to help your friend to tide over the difficulties. As long as you grasp this communication principle, your friendship with your friends will deepen day by day.
5． There must be "degree" in communication
There is a very philosophical saying in China called "things must be reversed when they reach their extremes". In life, anything that goes too far will lead to its opposite. The same is true for communication between friends. If the past is too close, cracks will easily appear. Only by grasping the right degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone has differences in culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential, and family situation. The size of this difference is sometimes directly proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent communication , the more dense it is, the bigger the pull will be.
Therefore, the interactions between friends, regardless of the number of times they get together, the distance, etc., must be maintained even when they are separated, so that they can achieve the artistic conception of "the feelings are still lingering, the love is still lingering", and only then can they be happy with the arrival of friends, and be happy with the presence of friends. Leaving and missing you.
6. Don't idealize your friends
There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although your friends have similar temperaments, similar interests, and congenial personalities to you, they are still living people, and they will always be somewhat different from you. They will always have shortcomings of one kind or another, and they will always have secrets that you don’t want others to know. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize them too much, and don't use "I" as a reference for all your friends' words and deeds. First of all, you must tolerate the shortcomings of your friends. Therefore, once you discover the shortcomings of your friends, you must hold the magnanimous attitude of "the general's forehead can run horses, and the prime minister's belly can support boats", tolerate the shortcomings of friends, and choose... .>>
Question 4: How should we, the post-90s generation, make friends? 1. Get close to friends who strictly observe the precepts. When you make friends who strictly observe the precepts, you can get close to them, because After getting close, you can be indifferent to all desires, and you can be indifferent to many desires.
2. You should get close to a friend with great wisdom. This person is very wise. Master here refers to wisdom, not intelligence, because getting close to a friend with great wisdom can help you get out of confusion. You should get close to a friend who is humble and can endure humiliation. If this friend is very humble, humble, and can endure humiliation, you can get close to him, because getting close to him will eliminate self-conceit, that is, pride and complacency.
3. Be close to friends who always hold letters. People who always hold letters. For example, friends often tell you not to say anything inappropriate and not listen to anything inappropriate. . . . They are all words. You can get close to this kind of friend, because you can learn many etiquette and understand many principles of life from words. Friends who always know words can be close to you and can solve your problems, because people who understand words can solve your problems.
4. Stay close to friends who give you straightforward advice, because these people are true friends, remember they are genuine, and some people use their straightforwardness to scold others, and use their straightforwardness to criticize others. Talking about other people's faults is in itself uncultivated, because he has deviated from true straightforwardness. Real advice is called straightforwardness. Only those who treat others with sincerity can be called straightforward. Friends who give straightforward advice can be close to you because they can tell you. Mistakes, problems with the body.
5. Be close to friends who are brave and diligent. You can make friends with people who work very hard and diligently, because when you are close to such people, you can quickly achieve enlightenment. Quick results means that if you work hard, you will succeed quickly.
6. Be close to friends who care little about money and love righteousness. People who value money very lightly and are very loyal can be close to you, because friends who care little about money and love righteousness can help you get rid of stinginess.
7. Stay close to friends who are kind and loving. You can make friends with and get close to people who are kind and compassionate. Don’t waste it, people who love things can pay it forward.
——Vernacular Buddhism
8. You are straight
9. You are forgiving
10. You are knowledgeable
――The Analects of Confucius
Question 5: How do we correctly make friends online? ① Correctly understand the two sides of the Internet, use its strengths and avoid its weaknesses.
② Enhance the awareness of self-protection and learn to Self-protection.
③Improve your own security awareness, do not leak personal information easily, and do not arbitrarily agree to the requests of netizens.
④For real-life problems, try to find familiar people as much as possible Solve it with friends or teachers.
⑤Continuously improve your ability to identify and perceive, and improve your ability to resist temptation.
⑥Abide by the rules of the Internet, abide by morality, and more importantly, abide by the law. < /p>
Question 6: How should we make friends in modern society? Friends: In the 1980s, it was called mutual help, in the real world it is called mutual utilization, and some people say it is the sharing of resources. Friends who can sincerely communicate with each other without any interests are true friends! The most basic thing to become a friend The condition is: you must treat each other as friends to become friends. Being a friend does not mean that he (she) will think of you first when he (she) is in trouble, but only when you can help him (her). The first friend who thinks of you. The friend who knows you are in trouble and will try his best to help you is a true friendship. In today's real society, a good friend is a friend who has economic interests. Ordinary friends just chat together occasionally, and good friends I want to take advantage of you, close friends are ambiguous relationships, close friends and best friends are those who will try their best to help you when you are in trouble (the real way to know which is a close friend or a best friend is only when your economic environment (gets better or worse) has changed significantly) Only then did I know). People who don’t help you when you encounter difficulties are also friends! They are just fair-weather friends. (Warm reminder: This answer is only my humble opinion. I hope it will not cause you misunderstanding.) I hope my The answer will be helpful to you!
Question 7: Ideology and Morality What principles should we follow when making friends (1) Equality and reciprocity. Giving and sharing must be two-way, so that a win-win or win-win situation can be achieved.
(2) Tolerance to others. Respect differences, strengthen communication, make more interesting friends, and gain lasting friendships.
(3) Adhere to principles. True friendship is sincere, healthy, and upward, but principles must be adhered to and so-called friendship cannot be maintained at the expense of principles.
(4) Be careful when making friends. Be good at making beneficial friends, be happy to make critical friends, and avoid making harmful friends.
Question 8: Who should we make friends with? Friends in life can be roughly divided into four types. One type is those who do not think of us when they are happy and only come to us when they are in pain and helplessness. Share, such friends are often the least able to share the pain of others, and only want others to bring joy. He poured out his pain on others, but quickly forgot about it himself.
One is that he only looks for friends when he is happy, but buries the pain in his heart. Such a friend can usually understand the pain of others. When we throw away the pain, he catches it. .
One is that no matter what the mood at any time, you need others to enjoy it. You think that being happy alone is not as good as having fun with everyone, and being sad alone is not as good as being sad by everyone. When you are in love, you rush to announce it to your friends all over the world. When you are heartbroken, you should tell your relatives and friends immediately. He always has companions, but he is also very curious about good things and always hopes that his friends will confide all the most private things to him like him.
There is another kind of friend who is not particularly close to others. He has his own unique way of life. He is happy and awake alone. He has a broad mind, thoughtful thinking, verbal superiority, and some unfathomable qualities. The greatest benefit of being friends is that they are good at listening. Like the sea, they can tolerate the outpouring of joy or pain from others, but they remain unwavering. Because they know the key to solving problems, they encourage the happiness of others. , to help the suffering.
Using water as a metaphor, the first type is the river type, they flow all the garbage they create into the sea; the second type is the pond type, they are good at collecting the pain of others and themselves; the third type is the pond type. The wave type, they always come to the shore one after another, and there is never a moment of stillness; the fourth type is the sea type, they accept all rivers, but do not lose themselves.
Of course, this classification of friends is not absolute, because friends have thousands of faces, and these are just general types.
What kind of friends do we want to make? Or rather. What kind of friend do we want ourselves to be?
Carlisle Gibran has two dialogues like this in "Friendship": "Your friend is here to respond to your needs. He is your garden. You sow with love and harvest with gratitude. , He is your table and wall lamp, because you go to Him when you are hungry and to seek peace. "Give your best to your friend, and if he must know your lows, let him know you too." What's the point of finding your friend just to kill time? Find him to enjoy your life! Because he meets your needs instead of filling your emptiness. There is laughter and sharing in the sweetness! For the soul finds its morning refreshment in the dew of trivial matters.”
In the era of agricultural society, friendship was pure, because there were relatively few stakes; in boyhood, friendship was also pure, because there was more of a connection between the heart and the spirit, and there were few entanglements of desire. ; For middle-aged people in industrial society, friendship often becomes a complicated entanglement, and the word friend is also overused. It is difficult for us to walk with someone on the coast and listen to each other's souls; it is rare to talk to someone in a teahouse about pure things. Nowadays, friends have become like a group, drinking heavily in beer halls; eating meat and drinking together in restaurants; and even singing their frivolous thoughts in dark places like karaoke.
In the past, we found clarity of mind, comfort and care, wisdom and peace in a place with friendship. Many times now, friends make us confused, indifferent, lost, ignorant, and uneasy. Modern people have become "river type", "pond type", and "wave type", and there are very few people who have the mind of the sea.
In modern society, solitude and sobriety have become very important. The so-called "solitude" means that a person can be happy when alone, and have the enrichment of soul and life. It means quietly spending an afternoon You can be at peace even while sitting; the so-called "awake alone" means not to be confused by the happiness of others. The lifestyle that everyone thinks we should live is often not necessarily suitable for us. So, why not wake up alone?
Only when we can be happy and sober alone can we become sea-type people. When the river rushes in, when the pond is full of water, when the waves push by, we can tolerate it and be tolerant. Do not compromise your own purity. Kahlil Gibran said:
"Don't be sad when you break up with a friend, because the qualities you love most will be more obvious to you when he leaves you, just like a mountain climber looking from afar on the ground. The mountains look clearer. ”...>>
Question 9: How should college students make friends? As a contemporary college student, I think it should be done to have good interpersonal relationships. Pay attention to the agreeableness of the emotion. Generally speaking, people always like those who like them and have a favorable impression of people who sincerely evaluate themselves. Once you are appreciated, liked, and evaluated well by someone, your self-esteem will be satisfied by being praised, and you will have a psychological closeness and good impression of this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflicts, and achieving emotional Being happy provides the psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. Compliment others sincerely and they will, in turn, think favorably of you. Some people often pay too much attention to themselves and cannot discover the value of others. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise, and affirm and praise the strengths of others. This will give Bring benefits to itself. Be magnanimous and open-minded, learn to understand each other's psychology, and treat each other with sincerity. Our society is a pluralistic society, and the relationships between people are becoming more and more complex. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personalities, which will inevitably lead to the intensification of conflicts between individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, you must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, and have a tolerant and open-minded psychological quality, and you must think more about others. Treat each other with sincerity. In life, we have misunderstandings with the classmates we live with day and night. When you are treated unfairly or not accepted by others, you will definitely feel anxious and troubled, and it will definitely affect your study, life and social relationships. What should I do? Make a big fuss? Break off the relationship altogether? These are not the best ways. This will only put you at a disadvantage in the relationship and affect future relationships.
On the contrary, if we are magnanimous and open-minded, we may be calmer, consider issues from the other person's point of view, and understand other people's moods and feelings. Misunderstandings and grievances will often disappear, and others will readily accept you. As the saying goes: Generosity gathers friends. It is difficult to be a magnanimous and open-minded person, but we college students must pay attention to the cultivation of this quality in our daily lives and interactions in order to better adapt to life and society. Among our classmates, they are either cheerful or deep; some are reserved or frank; some are open-minded or cautious; their personalities are colorful and varied. Therefore, we must learn to be a caring person in our interactions, be good at understanding the mood of others, take the initiative to care about others, and adopt different methods to make them feel your kindness and warmth. Take roommates in the same dormitory as an example. They have frequent interactions with each other. Because they have more contacts and opportunities, it is the easiest to communicate with them, but also because they have many contacts, frictions, and conflicts, they are also the most difficult to communicate with. This requires each of us to pay attention to observation and try our best to meet the needs of others, such as frequently fetching water, sweeping the floor, fetching meals for sick or troubled classmates, tutoring homework, etc. In today's college students' interactions, there is a widespread tendency of self-centered communication. Many people only emphasize that others should recognize, understand, accept and respect themselves, but neglect to understand and respect others reciprocally; they only pay attention to the realization of their own goals, but ignore the interests and requirements of others, etc. Under the control of this tendency, they often ignore the occasion and the other person's mood and blindly interact according to their own temperament, which leads to embarrassing situations in the interaction. Just imagine when a person is at a low point, but you declare your achievements in front of him, what will be the result?! So in many cases, we need to think more about empathy. Only by empathizing with others and exchanging sincerity for sincerity can we achieve spiritual communication. And the cries of emotion. Honesty and trustworthiness are a basic principle of life. In our interactions as college students, if a friend cheats on you, your self-esteem will be hurt, and you may not be able to trust him as you used to. Similarly, we should also treat others with honesty and sincerity to gain their trust and understanding. It shows a person's self-esteem and his or her inner sense of security and dignity, which can enable people to gain the trust of others in interactions, thereby attracting people with the same excellent qualities to oneself, and establishing a relaxed, comfortable atmosphere without having to pretend to be oneself. Pleasant social circle. Making friends is a process of constant selection. Hypocrisy cannot be hidden forever. Once discovered by the other party, it will be the greatest harm to the friendship. Therefore, when we get along with others, we must be generous and open-minded, considerate of others, and treat each other with sincerity. Only in this way can we gain true friends and get along with others more friendly. Master certain social skills. Skills in communication are like the lubricant of interpersonal relationships. It can help people enhance communication and understanding with each other in communication activities, shorten the psychological distance, and establish good relationships. Many students with interpersonal barriers are... >>
Question 10: What principles should college students have for making friends? Master the principles of making friends and establish sincere friendship
Friendship is The needs of life are one of the most beautiful emotions of human beings. Human beings are not grass and trees, how can they be ruthless? Life cannot be separated from friendship, and career cannot be separated from friendship. As the saying goes: A fence has three stakes, a hero has three gangs. If a person wants to achieve a career, he cannot do without the help of his friends. Establishing sincere friendship with friends will make people energetic, energetic and happier! As a college student, this is even more true!
Principle 1 of making friends: Make good friends
Friendly friends refer to friends who can help you make progress. The help mentioned here includes aspects such as conduct and knowledge learning. We should make friends with those who can help us improve and have a good influence on ourselves in some aspects. In life, everyone hopes that they can make good friends and let the power of friendship help their progress. Then, each of us should improve ourselves at the same time and strive to become a helpful friend in the minds of others.
Principle 2 of making friends: Enjoy making friends with criticism
Critical friends refer to friends who can bluntly point out their own mistakes, criticize and help themselves. True friendship is not only manifested in being able to enjoy happiness with friends, being able to resolve worries for friends, and being able to share misfortune with friends; it is also manifested in being able to frankly criticize and sincerely advise friends' shortcomings and mistakes. To enjoy making friends requires having the forbearance to listen to harsh advice and the courage to correct mistakes. It is precisely because friends dare to criticize each other that friendship becomes more pure and precious.
Therefore, when faced with outspoken criticism from friends, we must not be angry or even resent our friends. Instead, we should accept it readily, thank our friends sincerely, and be happy to make criticism.
Principle 3 of making friends: Don’t make bad friends
Bad friends refer to friends who have a negative impact on one’s moral character. There are many types of bad friends, but the main thing they have in common is that they unknowingly use bad things to influence you, corrode you, cause you to regress in moral character, and in serious cases, even lead you to commit crimes. road, thus ruining your life. Like other emotions, friendship also has a quality issue, and there are also differences in quality, good and bad. If you associate with bad friends, that kind of friendship will be of low quality and harmful. Therefore, we must not make bad friends in life.
Being good at making beneficial friends, being willing to make negative friends, and not making harmful friends are our three principles for making friends. Only by mastering these three principles can we establish high-quality friendships, which can play a positive role in promoting our lifelong development.
On the premise of mastering these three principles, what skills should we master in making friends? There are many ways to make friends, here are a few tips:
1. Stretch out a warm hand
2. Humor wins popularity
3. Take the initiative to help others
4. Be sincere to people, don't break your promises, and let others believe in you.
5． Mostly serve the collective and classmates, be tolerant and generous.
6. He is considerate and helpful, and often chats with his classmates.
7. Open up to your friends.
If you do these, then true friendship will always be by your side!
Let friends accompany you for life