It's "5·20" again. In China, because this day has a homophonic meaning with "I love you", it is sought after by young people as the "big day" for getting a marriage certificate or expressing love. However, there are also a group of singles who are worried about not being able to find a partner, and many people simply enjoy being single. So, what are the characteristics of single people? A certain dating platform recently disclosed a set of dating data in a report, analyzing the registration information of 170 million members and related questionnaires. From the survey results, we can gain some insights.

?Beijing and Guangdong have the largest distribution of singles

The report analyzed the information of all members and found that among male members, in terms of professional certification, the occupations with the largest number of people are programmers, Senior management, finance, education, administration and human resources, accounting for women.

In terms of regional distribution, the five regions with the largest number of singles among active users are Beijing, Guangdong, Sichuan, Shanghai, and Shandong. Among them, first-tier cities are the "top priority."

At the same time, among active users, the proportion of single people in East China is much higher than that in other regions. Among active male members, the proportion in East China is 26%, which is higher than the second-ranked North China region of 21.6%; among female members, this proportion is 26.4%, much higher than the 18.5% in North China.

Divorce, from the “7-year itch” to the “5-year itch”

The dating platform issued a questionnaire to divorced registered members. The survey results showed that 41% Marriages ended between 1 and 5 years after marriage. This proportion is much higher than what people usually think of as the "7-year itch."

After divorce, more than half of the people will not take the initiative to contact their ex and only communicate when something happens. So, what are the reasons for marriage failure?

Divorced men believe that weakening feelings, inconsistent living habits, and long-term quarrels are the main reasons for the end of their previous marriage. Divorced women believe that the other party's lack of responsibility, cheating during marriage, and bad living habits are the main reasons for the end of the marriage. Among the respondents, 18% of women said they were divorced due to domestic violence, including physical violence and "cold violence".

In terms of age, the proportion of divorced people born in the 1990s who chose "the other party lacks a sense of responsibility" and "flash marriage lacks consideration" is the highest among all age groups; divorced men born in the 1985s and divorced men born in the 1975s "The highest proportion of divorced women chose "lack of communication with their ex".

Among those who take the initiative to fight for child custody after divorce, 70% of women choose to actively request child custody, while only half of men will make such a request.

?"Uncle Hong" suggested: Young people should be brave enough to try

The marriage and love problems of young men and women have also attracted new attention. The "Medium and Long-term Youth Development Plan (2016-2025)" recently issued by the State Council stated: "Effectively serve young people in marriage and dating. Support the development of healthy youth dating and exchange activities, focusing on marriage services for older unmarried youth and other groups." “Give full play to the role of mass organizations and social organizations such as trade unions, the Communist Youth League, and Women’s Federation to provide the necessary basic guarantees and convenient conditions suitable for young people’s characteristics for young people’s marriage and dating.”

This dating platform A gold medalist who has been engaged in the matchmaking industry for 4 years. According to his observation, young men and women today are "not as proactive as we were in our time" when it comes to dating and making friends.

In Sun Xiaoliang’s view, on the one hand, due to the popularity of social software, people mistakenly believe that there are more opportunities to meet the opposite sex but forget the need to take the initiative; on the other hand, the increased pressure to survive in society has made people’s leisure time less At the same time, some people also consider more "hardware" criteria for their partners, narrowing the scope of mate selection.

Sun Xiaoliang said that he respects young people’s choices in choosing a spouse, and also suggests that young people try to have as much contact with the opposite sex as possible. Even if they are not in love, they can learn more about the thinking patterns and expressions of the opposite sex. Once they meet Only when you find the right person for you can you seize fate and create more opportunities for choosing a mate.