When Confucius visited the temple, he saw a kind of tilting and easy-to-restore vessel, which the temple keeper said was a sitting vessel.

Confucius said, "I have heard for a long time that the sitting device is weak (inclined), right in the middle and full of covers." Mingjun is often placed on his right. "

Confucius asked his disciples to inject water, and it happened.

Confucius sighed: how can everything be full and not covered? "

Disciple asked, "Is there any way to keep it full?"

Confucius said, "Clever is wise, dull is defensive; Work is the world, keep it; Face the world bravely and keep it with fear; Rich all over the world, remain modest. This so-called loss is also a loss. "

Second, be kind to others.

Yan Ying was a contemporary politician of Confucius and was respected by Confucius. One day, Yan Ying's coachman came home and his wife filed for divorce. The coachman was very confused.

His wife said, "I saw you driving under the door today." Yan Ying is so short, he became a prime minister and a famous vassal, but he is still so unpretentious and pretentious. " And you are eight feet tall, just his servant, but full of pride and arrogance. You have no future, so I want a divorce. "

Hearing this, the coachman was modest and prudent and worked hard. After Yan Ying knew it, she also worked hard to cultivate him. Later, the coachman paid tribute to the doctor.

Confucius especially appreciated Yan Zi's way of making friends. The longer Yan Zi makes friends, the more respectful and courteous he becomes, and the more respected others are, so that he can achieve his goal from beginning to end. Therefore, Confucius said sincerely, "Yan Ping is good at making friends with people and respects them for a long time."

Third, the country of gentlemen.

Gong Sunchi, a disciple of Confucius, was sent to Qi, and Confucius in Ran Qiu gave his mother some Gu Mi.

Confucius said, "Give her six measures and four liters."

Ran Qiu is more.

Confucius said, "Give her two more buckets and four liters."

Ran Qiu thought it was too little and gave it to GongSunChi's mother.

Confucius said, "When Gong Sunchi arrived in Qi, his horse was fat and light, and he was majestic. I heard that gentlemen are just giving charcoal in the snow, not icing on the cake. "

Helping others is urgent but not rich, and helping young people is urgent but not saving the poor. This is the attitude of a gentleman.

Fourth, people slip of the tongue.

Confucius said that what you can say to others but don't say is a loss to people; Telling others what they shouldn't say is a slip of the tongue.

A wise man never loses people or words. In the countryside, Confucius was polite and behaved like a man who was not good at words; He is very good at distinguishing and answering questions when he worships ancestral temples and discusses state affairs.

When talking to the doctor, he is frank and argumentative, and dares to tell the truth; When talking with the next doctor, Kan Kan Kan Kan talked, affable and happy; Look at the DPRK respectfully, but with moderate dignity, and don't relax. Speaking according to people's personality characteristics and occasions requires benevolence, wisdom and courage.

V. Self-improvement

After Confucius left Cao for Song Dynasty, he practiced etiquette with his disciples under the big tree. Sima Huan wanted to kill Confucius, so he cut down the tree.

A disciple advised Confucius to say, "Let's go."

Confucius said, "Even if God makes me virtuous, what can Huan Xuan do to me?"

Prosperity is not greedy, adversity is rejoicing, everything is an opportunity to hone yourself, be honest, constantly strive for self-improvement and be grateful to your opponents.