If you ask me, who are my friends? I would answer: "Friends are people who create memories with me."

Past events are vivid and vivid, and friends are indispensable in every scene; those who are close to each other now will also be preserved deep in memory in the future. 01 In the end, all that is left is nostalgia

Is all this just brought about by fate, or do we also have the ability to actively arrange it? Fate may be deep or shallow.

Think about the friends you have contacted frequently in the past year. How many have you just met? How many have you known for five, ten, twenty, or even thirty years?

If the number ratio decreases sequentially, it means that your circle is developing, just like a businessman with a prosperous business. His career is prosperous, but he may not have a solid foundation.

Plato answered a young man: "If you want to choose the best partner, do this! You walk along the wheat field and find the largest ear of wheat. You can only walk forward and don't look back. . ”

The young man walked around and looked around, thinking that there must be bigger ears of wheat ahead. Finally, when he reached the end of the wheat field, his hands were empty and he found nothing.

Are we following this young man’s old path?

Or, we can't help it, just like classmates who have been together for many years, we must wave goodbye after graduation and go our separate ways.

I don’t think that old friends are necessarily better than new ones, but I believe that friendship is like fine wine, which gets better as it ages;

The bits and pieces of memories may be mixed with joy and anger at the time. I can't tell the difference between sadness and joy, but the feeling now is the same nostalgia.

Just because I am still alive, being alive itself is gratifying. 02 The Origin of Friendship

There are three ways to make friends: forming a relationship, cherishing the relationship and letting it go. In ancient times, it was considered a great fate to ride in the same boat; however, forming relationships was more proactive. Nowadays, few people regard people they meet at a casual meeting and dinner as friends.

Opportunity does not mean fate. You must also find the same focus, such as interests, hobbies, concepts, and ideals.

Next, it depends on who signals first that they are willing to spare time and energy for a new friendship.

Unless you spend your days idle, making friends requires considerable effort. Not only is it impressive, it’s also risky, because you can never be sure of the other person’s response.

Therefore, friendship is not a balancing pole, and giving and receiving may not be directly proportional.

I regard you as my best friend, but you have another best friend. Isn’t this a bit embarrassing?

I avoid using the word "confidant" because, let alone a friend, even I may not "know myself".

British writer Henry Adams said:

"Having one confidant in life is extremely precious; having two confidants is almost impossible. If you have three A confidant must be a fake."

What we call "a confidant" is just someone who understands my interests and ideals and has deep confidence in me. 03 Cherish the rare fate

Don’t ask “Who is my soulmate?” Instead ask “Whose soulmate am I?”

When making friends, only seek to gain and be stingy with giving. , it is impossible to produce good results.

Then, cherish the relationship out of mutual respect. Life is short, time flies, and everyone’s choices are “gone and never returned.” So, how can I bear to delay the goodwill of others?

Even if the final outcome is "waving my sleeves and not taking away a single cloud", we have no reason to ignore the "mutual light when they meet".

Life is like sailing, and the seagulls that occasionally accompany you will bring you a warm feeling, let alone friends?

The voyage comes to an end and we have to part ways. At this point, I had no choice but to let it happen. 04 Letting go is a kind of wisdom

I have a deep understanding of "let go", maybe it is the influence of my family background.

When I was a child, I moved with my father among several lighthouses in Taiwan. I rarely knew my playmates for more than three months.

Although he settled down in elementary school, his stuttering hindered his ability to make friends.

As a result, I learned to "don't force" many things, as they would all disappear in the end anyway.

The more beautiful things are, the faster they fade? The more reluctant you are to let go, the more sad it is, isn't it?

I create a new world in my heart and treasure what I love; I respond to all kinds of things in the world with a casual attitude.

The phrase "A friend in need is a friend indeed" was an intimate experience I had when I was studying in the United States.

I am extremely grateful to several of my friends. Even so, I never "promised" too many promises to keep in touch when I parted.

Because I know that I can’t do it, and others may not be able to do it either.

It seems only appropriate for friends to wish each other well:

If there is any need for my help, I will be very grateful for such a good opportunity to turn true feelings into actions;

If he does not need my help, it means that everything goes well for him and he is sailing in the sea of ??life, which is worthy of happiness.

Because I understand that it is not easy to make friends, I am careful about making friends, be willing to cherish them, and have the courage to let them go.

I don’t want my memories to be too rich, I just want them to be deeper.