When you are confused, read Sanmao’s words.

When you are confused, read Sanmao’s words. No matter what stage of life we ??are in, we always seem to feel confused. It may be the pressure of life, the hardship of work, or the emotional twists and turns. There are too many things that bother us. Next, let’s understand what Sanmao said when we are confused. When you are confused, read San Mao’s words 1

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“A person who doesn’t appreciate himself can hardly be happy.”

San Mao’s words The words were written in a reply letter to an "unhappy girl."

The girl said that she was 29 years old, unmarried, a clerk, ordinary in appearance, with limited working ability, no member of the opposite sex was interested in her, feeling gloomy inside, and very, very low self-esteem.

She also said: For a humble person like me, I really don’t know what joy there is in living.

Perhaps many people will have this idea at some point, feeling that they are worthless and care about the opinions of others.

However, when you look at the scenery on the bridge, the people looking at the scenery are also looking at you on the bridge. In this world, everyone is unique.

You don’t have the beauty that will captivate the whole country, but you have the kindness to treat others calmly. You don't have a brilliant literary talent, but you have a gentle manner.

No one is 100% perfect. It is unfair to expect perfection from others, and it is even more unfair to expect perfection from yourself.

Only when you learn to appreciate yourself can you discover your own beauty.

"I saw how charming Qingshan was, and I expected Qingshan to see me the same way." If you like yourself from the bottom of your heart, others will naturally appreciate you.

Every one of us has imperfections, but when you really work hard, how can you be cowardly because of your own shortcomings? Just like what Sanmao said at the end of the letter:

If I were you, the first thing to do is to increase your expectations and value for yourself, and replace the strings of low self-esteem in the letter. Sweep away words from your life and never look down upon yourself again.

Unhappy girl, please take action! Next time you write me a letter, please sign it as Happy Girl and delete the word "no", okay?

　 02

"I don’t have time to be young seriously. When I understand, I can only choose to grow old seriously."

Flowers bloom and must be broken. , don't wait until there are no flowers and break branches. Many people understand this truth, but few can do it.

Mo Yan once told an experience of a friend:

A friend’s wife passed away. When packing up her belongings, she saw a silk scarf, even the label was missing. Not removed. Because this scarf is very beautiful and expensive, my wife has been reluctant to use it and wants to wait until a special occasion to use it.

As a result, I didn’t wear it until my death.

A friend said with emotion: Never save good things for special days. Every day you live is a special day.

Look, how many people live like this, turning into a bamboo basket to fetch water, all in vain.

We live in this busy city, and busyness seems to have become a standard feature. Busy with study, busy with work, busy with socializing...

And Bai Yansong in "Are You Happy?" "" book, this is how the word "busy" is interpreted. "Busy" is the combination of "heart" and "death". If you are busy, your heart will die.

Always staring at the target in the distance, rushing on the road all your life, and never paying attention to the scenery along the way.

Tian Wei said in "Half Acre of Flower Field":

Every sleep is a death, and when we wake up, it is a brand new life.

Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of my life. While the sun is shining and the breeze is gentle, go see the people you want to see and do the things you want to do. This is the greatest fulfillment in life.

　03

“It’s good to have one or two close friends, but you don’t need too many. The joy of friends lies in the solid trust.”

We have more and more friends on WeChat, but there are only a few with whom we can chat; we keep expanding our social circle, but there is still only one person when eating and shopping...

Many people complain that growing up brings What happens is that friends become fewer and fewer. But when making friends, the most important thing is not the number, but the quality of the friendship.

Whether it is friendship or love, I think it is enough to have someone who believes in you without asking for anything in return.

Life is like a train, we will meet many people on the train. The difference is that some people get off the bus in a hurry while others accompany you to the finish line.

We all know the saying, if you have a close friend in life, what else can you ask for?

I am very lucky that the world is so big that I can meet him; the days are so short that I can stay with him.

Just like the writer Liao Yimei said: Everyone is lonely. In our lives, it is not rare to encounter love or sex. What is rare is to encounter understanding.

And if you happen to meet such an understanding confidant, please cherish it.

　04

“Things that are deliberately looked for are often not found. Everything in the world comes and goes in its own time.”

All encounters are actually destined.

The Buddha said: Don’t force anything, and don’t force fate.

If you are destined, you will come uninvited. If you are not destined, asking is useless.

There are always some people we can’t keep, and some people we can’t win over. There is no need to ask for or fight for what belongs to oneself; there is no need to wait for what does not belong to oneself.

Don’t we just want to be comfortable and calm throughout our lives? Whether you gain or lose, don't stick to the past.

In the movie "To Our Dying Youth", the male protagonist said: "My life is a building that can only be built once."

In fact, each of us has only one life that cannot be repeated, and we cannot give generously to those we do not love.

Life cannot withstand so many compromises and deliberate tossing. What life wants is comfort and calmness, not caution and walking on thin ice every day.

Instead of deliberately trying to please unworthy people, it is better to please yourself and start over again after getting ready. I believe you will always find your true love.

The rest of your life is very short, just stay safe and stay warm.

　05

　"A person at least has a dream and a reason to be strong. If the heart does not have a place to rest, it will wander wherever it goes."

People often ask: Why do women insist on their dreams? Why do you have to live so hard?

Some people say: Stop talking about dreams, you won’t be able to get married no matter how old you are;

Seeing that you are so tired from work, you might as well find a rich man to marry as soon as possible. ;

As long as a woman marries well, there is no need to work so hard.

This reminds me of a line from the movie "The Pursuit of Happiness":

You must do your best to protect your dreams. Those who laugh at your dreams will definitely fail. They want to turn you into someone like them. I firmly believe that as long as I have a dream in my heart, I will be different. The same to you.

So the answer to the question is actually very simple, because the process of running hard for a dream is the most independent and confident moment for women.

And when you become better, you don’t have to rely on others. You have to choose to compromise in the family time and time again, and live in fear.

I like a lyric in "The Silence of the Lambs" very much: "I am not the Silent Lamb, I also have dreams. When the sun rises tomorrow and shines on my face, I can still shine."

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With your dreams, head towards the sunny place and move upward.

06

"The more you read, the more your appearance will change. ”

Many times, you may think that the books you have read have become a passing cloud and can no longer be remembered. In fact, they are still potential. In temperament, in conversation, in the boundless mind, of course it is possible Revealed in life and words.

Do you still remember Dong Qing at the "Poetry Conference"? There are all kinds of poems at your fingertips, and there are countless allusions.

Look at her words and deeds on the stage. , we understand what it means to be "full of poetry and calligraphy".

Some people describe her like this: A beauty should have jade as her bones, snow as her skin, hibiscus as her face, and willows as her posture. It is poetry that is the heart.

This exquisite and clear poetry heart and an unworldly temperament are all cultivated through reading day after day.

As Yang Lan said:

"Many people will ask, after studying for so long and reading so many books, will girls eventually return to an ordinary life? In this city, you can work an ordinary job, get married, wash and cook, take care of your husband and raise your children, why bother?

I think our perseverance is because even if we end up falling into tedious tasks and losing all our glory, the same job has a different mood, the same family has a different sentiment, and the same The descendants have different qualities. "

Look at Yu Feihong, Dong Qing, and Chen Shu, even if they are over forty, they are still elegant and calm.

Because reading is the best preservative for beauty.

Although reading will not bring you direct wealth, it can make you rich inside.

When you fall in love with reading, you will find that the whole world is rich. I am secretly loving you. Because you will meet the most beautiful version of yourself in the world of books. When you are confused, read Sanmao’s words 2

Classic Sanmao’s quotations

1 , there are some things that cannot be told to others, some things that do not need to be told to others, some things that there is no way to tell others at all, and there are some things that I avoid overly warm friendships when I have nothing to do, which makes me less burdened and Commitment.

2. Sometimes, I wish I could have a pair of wise eyes that could see through me and understand everything about me, including all the beauty and desolation.

Her eyes can penetrate my most essential soul and reach the true self deep in my heart. Her words can solve all my confusions or give a sharp evaluation of what I do.

　3. To those who know how to appreciate it, it is priceless; to those who do not know how to appreciate it, it is worthless.

　4. Learn to control your own life. Without your lover, You are also capable of living alone.

5. If your heart has no place to rest, it will wander wherever you go.

6. Love fire. It shouldn’t be rekindled. If it is rekindled, those beautiful memories from the past will disappear.

If we don’t reunite, maybe I will live with his deep thoughts until my body decays; However, at this moment, I hate him. All the good days are far gone.

7. It is easy to come and go, and the journey of decades is easy to divide. It is difficult to get together, the eternal sorrow of love and hate

8. A person who has been gnawed by hatred for sixteen years, but at the most critical moment, threw his life at death in exchange for it. The lives of these Sahrawi children who he had always regarded as enemies. Why? I never thought that he would die like this.

9. Ecuador is like a family, and Peru is also a harmonious place. , even more humble.

10. I look up at the sky full of colorful clouds, but the sky is silent. 11. Does it matter whose lives they are? Gone, gold remains forever.

It is a blessing to be able to appreciate these external things. It’s really troublesome to have it!

12. During the long journey, I said this sentence to a stranger for the first time. A burst of bitterness stuck in my throat, and I stopped talking.

13. In the extreme state of beauty, I have no other thoughts. I just want to die and turn this moment into eternity.

14. What is hateful and pitiable about this society is that there are too many people who are afraid of trouble like my mother, and the lessons learned time and time again after being afraid are the reasons why a person dare not speak out.

15. No one knows me in my own home.

16. Since you can’t escape this role, you can only stride out with a smile, and you can no longer struggle at this moment.

Go out and show it to yourself and others; a small grass standing in the spotlight also has its drop of dew. Tell yourself who once cried all night long: The one who stands up is not a soul overwhelmed by sorrow.

17. Come on, come on, no matter which day you go down, you will pass. There will be a day when these days will stop, and the earth will become glorious again, after endless rain. after.

18. I really want to slowly turn into a real countryman, into soil, into the earth, because this is the only aspect of life that is closest to my heart.

19. If there is an afterlife, be a bird and fly across eternity without the trouble of getting lost. There is a fiery hope in the east, a warm nest bed in the south, chase away the setting sun to the west, and wake up the fragrance to the north. If there is an afterlife, I hope that every encounter can become eternal.

20. Life doesn’t matter length, joy or sorrow, love, hate, gain or loss. Everything will pass, like those flowers and those flowing water.

21. None of my books can save you. Only you can save yourself, others cannot save you.

22. Makeup helps your complexion but does not help your temperament. Having a family fortune and having a tutor have little to do with each other.

23. What is grassland and what is a real mountain? I only came to understand it after going to the Andes highlands. If the scenery of the earth can also influence a person's soul, then I am enlightened. The one who got it.

24. Often, in the dead of night, I stare at the same decorations placed in the corner or on the shelf, but what I think about is everyone who comes into contact with the items.

Because of people, these things were accepted by life, and they became the mark of my life. Of course, the real mark of life cannot be just on an item, but the past that is engraved in my thoughts, behavior, temperament and conversation.

25. People work in a big box every day, and have to wait for the small box to take people home after get off work. Home is another kind of space with small square grids. The bed is just a flat square, and the TV is called a three-dimensional Square, when you take a breath of relief at noon, you can taste the sadness of sweat turning into food.

Still facing a lunch box - this makes it clear why people buy T-shirts and small flower umbrellas in a mess when they are not facing a coffin subconsciously. Don’t buy boxy books.

26. The rectangular concrete room of the slaughterhouse, in the thin darkness, looks like a giant hand in the sky gently placing a large coffin on the sand from the clouds, projecting it diagonally. On the sand, it was so terrifying that one dared not look at it.

27. Thank you, friends who have never met. I hope that people will live long and travel thousands of miles to meet Chanjuan. I wish you peace and joy. The flowers are gone, and what is exposed in the sun is a piece of yellow dry dust. Under this dazzling piece of land, which I have seen a thousand times and ten thousand times, lies the most beloved husband in my life.