After reading the answers from these netizens, you find it quite heartbreaking. In fact, unless you naturally like to be alone, making friends is something you still have to fight for. How can you make friends if you just wait silently for others to take the initiative? This is like a hungry and cold person who does not take the initiative to fight for bread, but just waits for pie to fall from the sky.

So the question is, how can I make friends? This book "There Are No Strangers in the World" by Liu Xiping can help you. This book will teach you how to strike up conversations with strangers, meet great people, and become good friends with them.

The author Liu Xiping, whose English name is David, is the managing director of Weber Shandwick China and the most popular guest on China Education Television's "Jobs and Jobs" program. Make friends across the entertainment, fashion, sports, professional and other powerful friend circles. TV host Li Xiang commented on him: It is not difficult to be a well-known person, but it is really not easy to be a person who makes everyone who knows you like you, but David did it.

Some people rarely chat in the WeChat list. As soon as it bubbles up, I either ask you to help repost the post, or ask you to help me like it. Are you bothering them more at this time?

As the saying goes, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." If you want to be friends with someone, you must pay attention to your social image and don't have a certain purpose from the beginning. For example, if someone kindly invites you to a party, and you come up and ask: "Who is attending?" This will make the other person feel that you don't trust him, or that you are not here for him at all, but for those who are opposite you. You come from useful people. As for the result of doing this, the other party will definitely not be willing to let you attend the next time there is a party.

In fact, communication without purpose will lead to unexpected gains. For example, if the other person happens to know someone in a certain industry, you can take the opportunity to ask him about something.

The author believes that when making friends, you do not need to consider his background, financial resources, status, or whether the friend is "useful". Only in this way can you avoid being excluded from friendships and make more and more friends.

Remember one sentence: "Making friends is not limited to time and occasion, and making good friends can be done anytime and anywhere." For example, the author once went to a high-end restaurant for lunch and also served as a substitute for Two poor students paid the bill. He did this not to make students appreciate him, but purely to make himself happy.

Of course, you don’t have to pay for others like the author. Go out and get to know more people, don't limit yourself to your own circle. Even if it's the security guard downstairs in the community, once you get to know him, he can sign for a courier for you.

Maybe you have social phobia. When you take the initiative to talk to strangers, your tongue will chatter with nervousness. In this case, you can think of it this way: If you don’t know the other person today, the worst result is that you will never know each other in the future. But if you can bravely take the first step today, then the probability of you two getting to know each other will be 100%. Eighty or ninety, maybe you will become friends.

As long as you take this step bravely, I believe the other person will be surprised and happy. Just imagine, how would you feel if someone took the initiative to strike up a conversation with you? Do you think you are quite attractive?

On the other hand, even if the other party ignores you, so what? At worst, you are still strangers to each other, and you have nothing to lose. The point is, you have taken this step and have more courage in interpersonal communication. Next time you take the initiative to strike up a conversation with someone, you will definitely not be as nervous as before.

1. Pay attention to your friends

Every year when a friend celebrates his birthday, David will give him a gift. What moved and impressed his friends the most was that decades later, David still remembered their birthdays and never sent them late birthday wishes. David said: "It's not just something you do a few times, but it takes many years to be remembered."

In addition, if you just met someone or want to talk to someone If you want to become a friend, then secretly record his birthday and send blessings on his birthday, you can also build a deep friendship with the other person. What matters is whether you put your heart and soul into a relationship.

2. Don’t make shallow remarks

“Hey, you’ve gained weight recently, but you were still considered a beauty in the Tang Dynasty!” “Look at your head, with Like a earthly grandson! "Have you ever said something similar to a friend? Although it is a joke, how do you know that the other person will not be angry after hearing it? Put yourself in your shoes, if someone else was teasing you like this, how would you feel inside?

Therefore, the author reminds us that whether we are dealing with acquaintances or unfamiliar people, try to use positive words to express them. This is the best communication technique. For example, replace "fat" with "not thin" and replace "lost" with "didn't win." Whether the other person is a junior or your best friend, you must remember to respect the other person. Only if you respect others will others respect you and treat you as their good friend.

3. Have a skill and let others need you.

Develop your own interests and expertise so that when others need you, you will be the first one they think of. For example, the author is a gourmet, and every time his friends come to Beijing for a business trip, they will ask him to recommend local food. Then the two of them sat in a restaurant and connected while eating, thus consolidating their friendship. Another example is when the author was serving in the military. Because his handwriting was good, every time the captain had to make a report, he would think of asking him to write it. Over time, the author developed a good relationship with the captain. Every time something good happened, the captain would think of him first.

It is said that "the more friends, the easier the road." One more friend, one more way out. However, although it is important to find a noble person, it is undoubtedly more important to be your own noble person. Your ambition and hard work will help you attract more noble people in your life. As the author said: "Rely on your parents at home and friends when you go out. There are no strangers in the world. Everyone in the world has your background. It depends on whether you can develop and master it."