Trouble 1: impetuous, unable to sit still.
Even he blames himself for "going out too much". Anxiety means that life is irregular, and he decides what to do with the change of external environment. Just like "Internal Strength" recommended by Wan Ping's sister, are we in this impetuous and anxious state now? It is precisely because of the rapid development of society that we all spend our energy on new things outside and seldom care about our inner "what do I want?" I don't want anything. "In today's impetuous society, we should pay more attention to and build our own internal engineering!
Question 2: Arrogant and ill-bred.
It is precisely because of Zeng Guofan's "miracle" that he was admitted to Jinshi that he was arrogant and often pointed at each other's nose and scolded each other. It also shows the truth of Zeng Guofan. Arrogance and self-cultivation need to be shown through external feedback.
Question 3: hypocrisy.
Hypocrisy here means that you can say some insincere compliments. To put it bluntly, you are insincere and arrogant.
Question 4: lewd.
Knowing that my friend's concubine is beautiful, I went to my friend's house and forced her to take her out to have a look. It is very funny in our modern times, and it becomes lewd in Zeng Guofan's eyes when he watches it too much.
Therefore, Zeng Guofan is not a "superman", except for his average IQ. He also has some shortcomings that normal people have. It is precisely because from Hunan, which is isolated from the world, to the capital with rich humanities that Zeng Guofan opened his eyes and his desire to study, and he began to study eagerly and carefully the classics of Neo-Confucianism.
Zeng Guofan was promoted quickly later. In addition to his accumulated knowledge and good grades, there is another reason that he has a wide range of friends and a good reputation. In fact, his initial friendship was not good. The primary reason is that he has been in rural Hunan until he was admitted to school, and he can't make good friends. When he first entered Beijing, he often offended his friends. After learning to be a saint, he always reflected on his own shortcomings and laid a good foundation for his later friends to recommend and promote him.
I think this is also the reason why we advocate going to the first-tier cities in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen when we are young, and drifting back to our hometown for three or five years to broaden our horizons. More importantly, we can make good friends. They may be lifelong friends, one more friend and one more potential friend (which can be understood by the theory of six degrees separation).
Zeng Guofan's habit of making friends was not established, and there were twists and turns in the early stage. Finally, he also reflected in time, saying that he is a person who keeps learning, and will not blindly blame others, but will first find problems from himself and then correct them. Many problems in our life now are not as big as quarrels, but just a small fuse, because everyone wants to blame each other and turn small problems into big mistakes. Otherwise, how can so many people get divorced and the divorce rate is so high?
It is precisely because of reading and making friends that Zeng Guofan's vision and knowledge have made a qualitative leap.
30 years old is a particularly important year in Zeng Guofan's life history. He decided to reinvent himself, turn over a new leaf and aspire to be a "saint". Determined to "be a saint or an animal", that is to say, I have only one choice, either to be ignorant or to be a saint, and there is no middle way to choose. Zeng Guofan is so determined because he knows what he wants, so it is either black or white, leaving no room for buffering.
Vernacular explanation "Saint" is a perfect person. Through his diligent study and practice, he understands the truth of nature and grasps the law of everything in the world. What a magnificent life ideal this is. Self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and forging ahead, Zeng Guofan raised his ideal of life to the highest level! If you want to make your thoughts sincere, you must first acquire knowledge. The way to acquire knowledge lies in the cognitive learning of everything. In other words, if you want to be in this world, you need to know everything and study everything.
Zeng Guofan's ambition is really high, but he doesn't accumulate steps, which is thousands of miles away; If you don't accumulate small streams, you won't be a river. You must start with small things. Zeng Guofan consulted and learned that the key is to keep a diary every day, which is the basis of sanctification. However, his early diary was irrelevant and he got advice. Keeping a diary is more important to reflect on yourself. Now it is called reply. So he took keeping a diary as an important event in his life, and he also wrote it in print. Diary can now be our copybook template ~
Diary plays a role in grasping the details of life and changing yourself through each detail. When we slip through a certain detail, the whole self-management project may collapse at the touch of a button, so Zeng Guofan will not only reflect on physical activities, but also reflect on every thought that flashes through his mind. What is more important to write a copy is the initial heart. What do you want to learn from the resumption? Otherwise, if you write too much, it will only be a running account. This matter is small or big, and it is also the compound interest of time!
I also have the habit of confession, but it is only the fact of confession. In fact, the concept and idea of resumption of trading is the root of tracing back to the source, just as many crimes are now caused by fleeting impulses. I also want to seize the unfulfilled idea in time, even if it is not for reflection, this idea may be the bud of a good seed. It is also worth being captured and developed into reality!
From this, we can also learn that Zeng Guofan had a habit of writing his diary and circulating it to his friends for their comments. This kind of consciousness is very strong, because now our diary is private, even if it is seen by our parents, it will be considered as an invasion of privacy, but he can make it public. He understands that external force is greater than internal force and asks his friends for advice. Things must be stimulated and forced, and our willpower is limited. Our own supervision has blind spots and it is not easy to be thorough. Through the supervision of teachers and friends who know us best, we are embarrassed to be lazy.
This is what I set for myself after listening to the live broadcast of Sophia Kao and Runyu recently. At first, the number of hair bands was very small. First, stick to hair bands, find a sense of network and your own style of hair bands, and then increase the number. This is also a record of my life, just like Zeng Guofan's diary at that time!
Zeng Guofan's first success on his way to sanctification was to quit smoking, which was said by my father. Because there is no progress in behavior, it is not easy to quit smoking. But after quitting smoking, Zeng Guofan got rid of many good habits at present, even in our nature. Zeng Guofan himself later realized that his personality defects were not as simple as getting rid of a simple hobby or removing a benign tumor. More personality weaknesses are deeply rooted in human nature, which will not be completely eliminated by "fierce cooking" for a while, but can only be slowly resolved by "slow cooking" for a lifetime.
Zeng Guofan told us that at the beginning of self-cultivation, we should be "fierce", progress should be "tough", and self-improvement will inevitably be repeated. At this time, it is necessary to "insist on not giving up." Zeng Guofan even reflected on his shortcomings and corrected his behavior in his diary before he died. How strong his self-cultivation toughness is!
The foundation laid in the early stage is solid enough. It seems foreseeable that Zeng Guofan's road to business will be a stunning personal show. This wonderful solo show is worth looking forward to ~