At first glance, I think eldest brother is a little poor and doesn't like rich people. After all, I have no money, so I don't have many rich friends around me. Then who else can I play with? Sounds like I've thought a lot, but I can't figure it out after thinking about it several times. Big brother hit the nail on the head. He said: I refer to two kinds of poor people, the first is poor in pockets, and the second is poor in brains. The so-called pocket poverty does not mean that you are poor, but that you are born as an ordinary person to support your family, but you are not enterprising; Poor thoughts are empty thoughts. Without knowledge, insight and culture, I can't give you any good advice. People are not afraid of poverty for the time being. What they are afraid of is that they are not enterprising, unlearned, not good at summing up and thinking, and have no ideological accumulation. These two kinds of people will not help your life, but will only waste your time and energy.
Take a closer look at the friends around us and think about ourselves: in the course of our life, from childhood playmates to young people, to young people after 30, to middle-aged couples, our social interaction has been subtracting, that is, constantly abandoning people who can't bring you practical value and leaving friends who can bring you value. Zhang Lei of Gaoyan Capital also said: Time is the best friend, and value is reflected through time.
In recent years, there is a popular word called "social cleanliness". Simply put, you don't need to integrate into different circles. Through screening, we can get rid of ineffective social interaction and spend our time on more valuable interpersonal communication. Nowadays, with the rapid development of society and the pressure of competition, we don't have much time to chat with useless people, because such people are basically useless except Zhang's parents and Li's short stories. The essence of social communication is the exchange of values, especially between friends and even relatives. You are useless, and no one wants to take care of you. You are useful, and relatives thousands of miles away will come to you with bags. That is the reality.
A good friend of mine couldn't afford a house when he got married six years ago. She rented a house and married a daughter-in-law, not to mention the bride price. In a rage, mothers, sisters and other parents ignored their daughter-in-law or even broke off relations. She felt that her daughter had found a poor son-in-law and made a fool of herself in the village, but the girl also recognized me as a poor friend and insisted on being together. As a result, after marriage, my friends and a group of friends with ideas and money learned to do business and accumulated experience. Finally, they went it alone. Three years ago, their careers all developed. Now they have bought several suites, driven a Land Rover Range Rover of more than 2 million yuan and bought a small sports car for their daughter-in-law. What happened? The family members who broke off the relationship before ran to their son-in-law's house every day, either local products or game in the mountains, saying that their daughter had a good eye.
Maybe this is just an example that doesn't mean anything, but it is enough to illustrate a problem, that is, your value determines your status, and your circle determines your value. The so-called "the poor talk about leisure and the rich talk about money". There is an average income law in economics: your income is 15 of the average income of your best friends. I don't believe you can calculate whether you are like this.
The pool of social wealth centers is fixed. The reason why the rich are rich must be that their cognitive ability is 80% higher than that of the average person, so wealth will flow from the pool to the pockets of the rich, not because the rich plunder by disgraceful means, but because of cognitive differences.
In fact, the deep meaning of this big brother's saying that he doesn't play poor means that it doesn't matter if a friend has money or not, but at least he has to have ideas. Such a friend can let you see the bigger world, let you know what you don't know, and open your mind and provide advice from many angles. At the same time, your vision will be broadened, your ability to seize opportunities will be improved, and it will be easier to succeed, instead of being too poor and loving the rich in the literal sense.
I think: As we are just over 30 years old, we don't play poor. This is the underlying logic that we should consider when making friends in the future!
Do you have any other different views on this?