1. Respect This is an absolute premise. The meaning of people living in the world is to gain respect. When you don’t respect a person, the result is that no one will respect you. And when you respect a person, even if he does not respect you, it is his loss, but it does not mean that your respect is useless. At least you do what you should do, so when you use any method When practicing so-called social skills, you must consider whether such behavior will disrespect the other party. For example, if you want to say humorous words or want to approach a girl when picking up girls, you must consider whether you are respecting the basis of women. On the other hand, any behavior that disrespects women is wrong. My opinion is that respect is the basis and foundation for your interactions with others. When your social value is higher than the other person's, you can be more easy-going, which will reduce the psychological pressure you put on the other person and appear approachable; when your social value is lower than the other person's, you must respect the other person and respect the other person. At the same time, you can use some humor techniques, such as self-deprecation, to express your inner value, such as optimism. Let the other person feel that you are a person with a rich spiritual world. When you already respect the other person, but she/he still doesn't respect you, then this person is not worth your friendship. This is our bottom line. 2. Confidence. I specifically went to Baidu to find out: Confidence is not directly related to success, because even if a person is very unconfident and drops a vase to the ground, it is obvious that such an action must be successful. Confidence is often not the most important thing, but having it often makes you better. What I want to tell you is the inner core self-confidence: When we are with friends who have higher social value than ourselves, I tend to care too much about the other person's feelings, and internally doubt whether my behavior disrespects the other person. , thinking about how to show high value (prove oneself), but in the end I found that the more this happens, the more entangled and nervous I will be, and then I will mess up, and the more I will appear less confident. Think about whether you will encounter such a situation, at least when facing beautiful women. Therefore, we need to cultivate our inner fundamental self-confidence. When communicating with anyone, we must be natural and comfortable, be ourselves, and do not need to worry too much about the other person's feelings (note that it is too much rather than not to worry). I have a series of ways to cultivate inner self-confidence. I will tell you in my private class. It can’t be explained in a few words here. Please pay attention to me at all times! 3. Praising social interaction seems to be contrary to some of our theories on attracting girls (suppression seems to be of high value). In fact, it is not like this. Suppressing girls also needs to be based on the situation. Only when facing arrogant girls will we suppress them. When facing ordinary women, they still need to be praised (without a sense of neediness). Everyone hopes that all aspects of themselves will be affirmed. When you are alone, do you imagine that your strengths will be known to everyone? This is human nature. If you can satisfy people's needs that they want to meet at all times, you will definitely win their hearts. Another factor is that we Chinese people rarely praise the people around us (we often talk about others). shortcomings in your body to satisfy your own vanity), which makes the scarcity of praise even more apparent, and your praise is even more important. When you praise someone, it is best to grasp some details that are not easy to detect (it requires careful observation). The person being praised will be more satisfied. Therefore, everyone should observe carefully when praising someone. . Once, when I first went to a work unit, a girl had her hair cut (it was originally short, so it was not obvious). When I saw it, I praised her for a good haircut and it suited her very well. The expression on her face was so exciting that it was hard to hide ( I was very happy), and my status in her heart improved a lot later. After I left the work unit, I asked her to help me several times, and she always agreed. This is the power of praise. I just said a few words, but later she helped me solve a lot of seemingly troublesome things. From now on, you should praise the people around you more often. It will help you solve a lot of troublesome things. This is true. of. 4. Smile: Smiling will tell people: you like him; you are optimistic; you have a good attitude (always see good things); you are kind and easy to get along with, which is also one of the characteristics of a male leader. A smile will stay in people's impressions forever. I am a person who loves to smile. Once a woman told me: "I don't remember what you are like as a person, but I always have your smile in my mind." So. , smile when you face people in the future, and people’s impression of you will be greatly deepened.

5. Initiative: To get along with others, you really need to take the initiative. The essence of getting along with others is interaction, and most Chinese people are relatively passive. For example, we should do the following: Take the initiative to contact friends whom we have not contacted for a long time (call). When we see colleagues and friends taking the initiative to say hello, we should also take the initiative to interact with friends on the Internet (like and comment). Social networks are very important in today's society. Very important. How to improve social skills 2 How to improve social skills 1. Learn to evaluate yourself correctly In interpersonal communication, the more correct your understanding of yourself is, the more natural your behavior will be, the more appropriate your performance will be, and the more positive evaluation you will get from others. , this kind of evaluation is very beneficial to help you overcome two psychological barriers of inferiority and pride that are not conducive to being gregarious. 2. Learn to care about others. If you expect to be cared for and loved by others, you must first care about and love others. Caring about others and helping others overcome difficulties can not only win the respect and love of others, but also, because your care arouses positive reactions from others, it will also bring you a sense of satisfaction and enhance your self-confidence in interacting with others. . 3. Learn some communication skills If you always fail when interacting with others, the resulting negative emotions will of course affect your gregarious personality. If you can learn more about the art of communication, it will certainly help your relationship succeed. For example, if you master a few more skills in cultural and sports activities, such as playing ball, you will find that you will become a popular person on many occasions. 4. Learn to exchange opinions with others. The formation of a gregarious character depends on good interpersonal relationships, and good interpersonal relationships begin with mutual understanding. Mutual understanding between people depends on communication in thoughts and attitudes. Therefore, it is very necessary to often find opportunities to talk and chat with others, discuss certain issues, and exchange some opinions. 5. Learn to maintain the integrity of your personality. The best way to maintain the integrity of your personality is to clearly express your principles and attitudes in your daily dealings with others, so that others can know what kind of person you are. In this way, others will know your style and won't force you to do things you don't want to do, and you won't often have to refuse other people's requests and affect your interpersonal relationships. "Don't think that I can live a good life without making friends in my life. Actual practice has proved that this view does not work." If a person does not have a single friend, he is usually fine, but if he encounters difficulties, no one can help him. In this way, it is easy to become depressed and fall into the abyss.