The following is the complete activity (for reference only)
I. Activity objectives:
1. Communicate your troubles, tell your true feelings, know yourself, treat your growing troubles correctly and adopt a positive attitude towards life.
2. Examine your so-called troubles, reevaluate yourself, and solve problems for your friends and classmates.
3. Conduct an oral expression training to improve the expression level and overcome stage fright.
Second, the activity preparation:
1, recall one or two troubles that impressed me the most, and make a good draft; Or organize the language to write it down and prepare to speak.
2. Collect touching stories of celebrities' growth, correct treatment of troubles and overcoming setbacks. Find some ancient poems or famous sayings of Chinese and foreign celebrities related to troubles and copy them down;
3. Find some popular songs that can inspire people to live an optimistic life (the theme of the songs should be full of sunshine and hope).
Third, the activity process:
Tell me about your troubles.
1. Opening remarks to create an atmosphere:
Host A: Time flies, years are long, and youth is coming to us in a hurry ...
Moderator b: so, when the flower season comes and the rainy season comes, our worries will follow.
Moderator A: This kind of trouble may come from life, study, communication with classmates and getting along with parents ...
Host A: With anxiety, melancholy and sentimentality will hang over our hearts, and life will lose its luster. But don't be afraid when trouble comes. Talk to teachers, friends and parents, and it will be solved as soon as possible.
Moderator B: So from now on, tell your friends frankly about your troubles. Let's clean up together, get rid of it together and move towards a bright future with colorful dreams.
Moderator A: Let's put aside our worries and speak freely!
2. Talk freely about your troubles:
Students can talk about the following aspects:
(1) academic troubles
② Communication barriers.
③ It is difficult to communicate with parents.
(4) troubles in life
(5) Self-image troubles.
3. The sketch performance is lively:
(1) essay "The Trouble of a Poor Student"
Scene 1: (The atmosphere in the classroom is tense and the teacher is handing out papers)
Teacher: Zhang got 20 points.
Poor student: (to himself) Alas! I failed the exam again this time. I got 2 1 last time. Mom and dad are going to be angry again. What should I do?
Scene 2: (at home, mom is cooking)
Poor student: Mom (with her head down)
Mom: What's this? (doubt)
Poor student: I ... I ... I handed out the paper and got 20 points (prevarication)
Mom: What's the matter with you? I get up early every day to wait on you to eat and dress. You have the nerve to come back to see me after getting 20 points in the exam! (harsh voice)
Dad: What are you shouting? What are you yelling about? (impatient)
Mom: Look at your precious son. He only got 20 points (complaining).
Dad: It's all because of your improper discipline. His brain is not normal. What do you want? (Angry)
Mom: Who are you to talk about me? You are out all day and don't care about your children's study. (Angry)
Dad: If I hadn't been busy outside all day, you would have gone to drink the northwest wind! (aggressive)
Mom: "This day can't go on, let's get a divorce!" " (crying)
Dad: It's not too much to make noise all day.
Poor student: What should I do? Mom and dad made a mess of me. Who will help me? (sad and helpless)
(2) The essay "Borrowing Exercise Book"
Scene: classroom
Li: Hey, show me your homework.
Cao: How is that possible? How can you copy your homework if you don't do it yourself?
Li: Hey, please, please, don't make things so ugly. I'm just learning from it.
Cao: Wait a minute, I'll think about it.
Li: What else do you want to do to save a life and build a seven-level pagoda? Show me! Otherwise, I will go to the teacher's office for tea again tomorrow.
Cao: (to himself) What shall we do? Copying it for him will hurt him, but if you don't show it to him, your classmates will have a hard time, alas! What are we doing? Are we nervous?
Zhang (to Li) doesn't even want to give it to you. Don't wait here. How can you make such friends? (Zhang took Li and left angrily, leaving Cao at a loss ...)
(3) Sketch "Calling"
Scene: Xiaohui's family, her mother is knitting a sweater in the living room. The phone rang and her mother answered it.
Xiaohui's mother: Xiaohui, your phone.
Xiaohui: Hello! Go climbing tomorrow. The four of us will go together. Ok, I'll get ready. Goodbye. (Put down the phone and walk into your room)
Xiaohui's mother: Xiaohui, who told you to climb the mountain?
Xiaohui: My classmate.
Xiaohui's mother: Xiaohui, you are a girl. Don't associate with boys casually. Do your homework at home on Sunday.
Xiaohui: Mom, at what age are you still so feudal? Boys are smart, generous and knowledgeable. Many students in our class have boyfriends, so don't make a fuss.
Xiaohui's mother: (angrily) At this stage, you should focus on learning. You want to play all day and have a boyfriend. You don't need to go out tomorrow.
Xiaohui: Mom, how could you do this? I have a reservation. (grievance)
Xiaohui's mother: If you don't go, you won't go.
Listening to her mother's tough words and looking at her angry face, Xiaohui rushed into the room crying and slammed the door.
(4) The sketch "Family Storm"
Main characters: Michelle, Wei Qi, father and aunt.
Scene 1: (at home)
Wei Qi: Sister, I'm back! Sister Michelle is playing computer, and Vicky is busy getting together next year. )
Wei Qi: (softly asked) Hello, is our father at home?
Michelle: Don't worry about playing. Dad is not at home. Can we still play like this if he wants to be at home?
(Qi Wei sticks out his tongue happily. Just then, she heard her father go upstairs. )
Michelle: Oh, dear! This is terrible. Turn it off.
Dad: (angry) Michelle and Vicky, why are you playing computer again?
Michelle: Oh, Dad, we only played for a while.
Dad: Cut the crap and read it to me! (Angry)
Wei Qi: Why? With what? We have been studying for six days, so we can't relax at the weekend?
Dad: Well, you two girls know you quarreled with your elders. Look at your poor grades and want to play computer. Look, that guy named Xiao Wei won the first place in his grade. What about you? (Angry)
Wei Qi: Well, Dad, we won't study today. What can you do to us? Just a few "politics" classes, what's the big deal!
Dad: You, you … Get out! (Angry)
Wei Qi: Let's go. I know you don't like our sister. Isn't it because we are girls? Both you and grandma like Xiao Wei because he is a boy.
Qi Wei rushed out of the house with Snow White.
Solve difficulties and come up with a good plan.
Moderator A: Today, everyone has poured out so many troubles, but it's fun to solve them all, right? In fact, our classmates are all "resourceful". I believe that with our collective efforts, we will come up with more effective golden ideas to help students solve these troubles. Please introduce a good way and idea to relieve troubles.
For example, in fact, most of the troubles in life are self-caused, and there is no trouble at all, or no trouble at all. American psychotherapist Bill Little believes that if a person has the following psychology or practices, it will definitely make him worry about himself and make much ado about nothing:
(1) Take other people's problems on yourself. If you blame yourself for other people's problems and yourself for people who don't like you, it won't be long before you become a disease.
Have an impossible dream. The most pitiful people are those who are used to having unrealistic hopes. If a person sets his goal high, he will be annoyed that he can't achieve it.
3 stare at the negative side. Remember how many times you have been treated unfairly, or how many times others have treated you badly. If you focus on those bad things, you will create trouble for yourself with this negative way of thinking.
4 create barriers. Never praise others, and never use any encouraging words; Secondly, endlessly criticize, criticize, complain and make a mountain out of a molehill. This is a wonderful way to create estrangement and ask for trouble.
⑤ snowball the situation. Face up to the problem when it first appears, and it will easily disappear. On the contrary, if the problem continues to expand like a snowball, snowball will always follow a simple rule: "If you miss the opportunity to solve the problem, simply put it off again." This will only make the problem worse, and it will definitely lead to your anger and distress being buried in your heart for months or even years.
6. Pretend to be a martyr. Mother took on too much housework, and then said to herself, "Nobody really loves me. To our family, I am just a servant. " Fathers can also use the same method: "My skeleton is exhausted, no one takes me seriously, and everyone is using me." Thinking like this often will definitely upset you, and it will also annoy people around you and make your feelings worse.
⑦ "I knew this would happen" syndrome. If you expect some bad things to happen, they are likely to come true.
The golden rule of fools. Treat everyone else as useless. The key to applying this law is to abandon yourself first. Once you devalue yourself, you will feel that others are equally shallow, so you will despise them and alienate yourself from others.
Then, you can try the following methods to dilute and resolve your troubles:
(1). For example, it is unfortunate that a major car accident occurs and many people are killed or injured. Those who were not injured were frightened, slightly hurt by minor injuries, severely hurt by serious injuries and died miserably. Although unfortunate, it is also lucky. From the back to the front, it is a blessing in misfortune. In the world of NBA, it is really unrealistic for everyone to compare the basketball god Jordan. Many people can only look back at him, so they can only take him as the highest and be true to themselves. Otherwise it must be an extremely annoying thing.
② Time view. When you encounter something annoying, if you take the initiative to think from the perspective of time, your feelings about it may be greatly reduced. Being criticized by superiors in public is hard to face and unbearable. Imagine who will take this matter seriously in three days, a week or even a month. Why not enjoy the benefits of this period in advance?
(3) Realistic point of view. Is the courage to admit the reality, calmly face the reality, for any fait accompli fault and disaster, don't have too much regret and worry, also don't have to blame yourself or others endlessly, but should focus on trying to make up for the fault, minimize the loss, otherwise too much regret and endless blame, not only useless, will also expand the trouble, increase the trouble.
④ The viewpoint of transposition. As the saying goes, the beholder is clear, the authorities are confused, and the same is true of troubles. People in trouble are often a little persistent, even persistent in "dead ends", and it is difficult to find a clue or even control themselves. At this time, the persuasion of outsiders can often play a role in pointing out the maze and diluting troubles. If you are in trouble, you might as well be your own bystander.
Besides, we should be content. If you ask too much of yourself and never get satisfied, of course, it will be difficult to feel happy and add a lot of troubles.
⑥ In addition, self-relaxation, self-suggestion, talking, crying or singing, music therapy, exercise adjustment, reading, systematic desensitization and seeking the help of psychological counselors can also relieve troubles.
The troubles of celebrities, everyone.
Moderator A: The feeling of worry is like eating strange beans, which are sour, spicy, bitter and astringent, lingering and uninvited. Like wind and rain, like a shadow. Why can a small heart carry? We have endless troubles, but great celebrities, like small mortals, will also encounter growing pains. Let's go into the celebrity world and see how they face these troubles when they are lost and desperate. Let's invite some students to talk about the troubles of celebrities, and let's get some inspiration from their experiences!
Andersen: Andersen struggled with fate all his life and didn't integrate into that society until his death. From this point of view, he is a tragic figure, but in terms of his spirit of not bowing to fate, he left a precious wealth to future generations. Believe in truth, goodness and beauty under any circumstances, and stick to "true love" under any circumstances. At the end of his life, he said, "I went to God, and the bitterness and pain disappeared, leaving a beautiful scenery ..."
(2) Curie:
Beethoven: Beethoven is one of the greatest musicians in Germany. Born in a civilian family in Bonn, Germany, he showed his musical talent very early and began to perform at the age of 8. 1792 went to Vienna for further study, and made rapid progress in art, but his life was bumpy and he didn't get married. I began to lose my hearing at the age of 26, and I was completely deaf in my later years. I can only talk to people through a conversation book. For a musician, eyes and ears are his life. However, in the face of deaf, blind and lonely life, Beethoven did not remain silent and retired. On one occasion, Goethe and German composer Beethoven walked side by side, and passers-by kept greeting them. More often, Goethe became impatient with this frequent return and could not help complaining. Beethoven smiled and comforted him and said, "Sir, you don't have to worry. Maybe they are greeting me. " Beethoven never stopped pursuing music for a moment. In the feudal restoration era when all progressive thoughts were banned, he still adhered to the political belief of "freedom and equality". Through his speeches and works, he shouted for * * * and ideals, and wrote the immortal Ninth Symphony, which opened the way for The Romantic Period's music and played a decisive role in the development of world music. People have written one myth after another in the history of human music.
Helen Keller: Helen Keller is a weak woman who is deaf, blind and dumb. She graduated from Radcliffe College of Harvard University. Her life is full of legends. Although she was born unfortunately, she accepted the challenge of life with an indomitable heart and faced difficulties with amazing perseverance, and finally realized her own value and created a great miracle. She said, "Forgetting is happiness. Therefore, I will regard the light seen in others' eyes as my sun, the music heard in others' ears as my music, and the smile on others' lips as my happiness. " What an open-minded attitude towards life! Although her fate was more tortuous than others, she did not bow to it. She overcame the difficulties and herself. Helen reproduces her rich, vivid, true and great life with a true and natural side, warning us to cherish what we have now; Optimistic and strong to face and overcome all difficulties and other profound truth. Whenever I get into trouble, especially in my studies, I think of Helen? Keller, she is blind and deaf, but she still keeps studying and gets her degree. And I am a person with perfect limbs, and the conditions are hundreds of times better than her, but I always give up easily. By contrast, how small I am! Her spirit inspired me to face difficulties again and again and overcome them bravely. I also believe that "if you conquer a difficulty, the things behind will become much easier!" " "
⑤ Zhang Haidi: How many people can face the hardships of life with strong optimism? Two-thirds of Zhang Haidi's body lost consciousness and didn't give in to fate. "Even if she falls a hundred times, she will get up a hundred times." She traded her pain for others' happiness, shortened her life and extended others' lives. She is not afraid of being intimidated by difficulties, nor discouraged by setbacks and failures, so she has become a useful person to society. Sang Lan has won the admiration and respect of countless people, as well as Tai Lihua and Zhou Zhou ... Every disabled person can perform well, and every able-bodied person, a graduate student who is about to graduate from college or even graduate school, chooses to die to escape from setbacks. Why not let people sigh?
Thackeray: "Life is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. " You cry to it, and it cries to you. "This is a famous British writer Thackeray's famous saying. It is reported that Hilton, a giant businessman, was a poor man before he became rich, and his mother only gave him $5,000 to run a hotel. A few years later, Hilton became a business tycoon. When Hilton's mother asked him how he overcame the difficulties, Hilton replied, "Smile". It turns out that every time he encounters setbacks and unreasonable things, he immediately goes to the bathroom or takes out a mirror in a corner to practice smiling.
7 Bill Gates: After dropping out of Harvard University, Bill Gates, the world's richest man, was ridiculed by others for "thinking that he is smart" and "he can't succeed", but he resisted the pressure and ascended the throne of the world's richest man with his winning confidence, superhuman courage and keen insight. Whether Beethoven or Gates, they bravely raised their heads in the face of setbacks, challenged fate and became the ultimate winners.
What you said and what I said.
Moderator A: Please don't panic when we meet Gray unexpectedly. This is a problem that fate has given you. A wrong understanding will make you fall into a confused situation and lose your way forward.
Moderator B: But if you can understand it correctly and face it with the right attitude, it will become your whetstone. Students, walk past, the blue sky is in front of you! Out of the gray, out of the fog, there will be brilliant sunshine in front of you!
Moderator A: Did you get a new understanding of your troubles through today's activities? Next, please listen to the classmate's speech "Feeling Worried"
1 Feeling annoyed: It is inevitable that life will even encounter troubles. This is a touch of color in colorful life, and everyone can't avoid troubles.
People can't live in trouble forever. Behind the troubles is hope, just like the dark clouds overhead, which will always drift away with the wind. Things always have two sides. We have had troubles before we know how to cherish happiness, before we know how to eliminate them and treat life optimistically. The mutual transformation between worry and happiness is life itself.
No matter how busy and tight the work is, no matter how complicated the housework is, no matter how complicated the interpersonal relationship is, no matter how many bumps there are in your heart, you should treat it with a calm mind. Because no matter how we feel, no matter how we feel, objectivity is always objective, reality is still reality. They will not change with our mood, that is, they will not be transferred by people's will. In that case, why don't we treat the world and everything with a calm mind and a relaxed mood? With this attitude, you will naturally feel relaxed and not tired. Therefore, if you learn to relax, you can be open-minded and optimistic. Learning to relax can also let us break through all barriers and shackles, and our hearts will soar freely in the blue sky and white clouds like birds.
Having troubles is a kind of beauty and a kind of harvest. Just like dusk, it gives people a faint feeling of loss but trembling. It makes you realize something in an instant. Although irritable but not impetuous, I can tolerate chewing very much. If you savor it carefully, you will feel that you have a wealth and maturity when you have troubles.
Although I live in a lonely room or a lonely ocean, my heart walks in the wilderness and trudges in the eternal desert of emotion and reason. The profound understanding of life brought by the helplessness and heaviness of that step of life is obviously far from the general meaning of survival.
Having troubles will make your young mind depressed, but it can get your life out of stagnation. Having troubles and knowing troubles is a sublimation of your understanding of life. It will make you more confident, strong and open-minded. Trouble is actually a color in the vat of life and a note in the movement of life. It is its existence that regulates the color and melody of your life.
If you have troubles, you will not get carried away, you will not be lazy and silent, and you will not forget to think about life and pursue the meaning of life. Because troubles always appear in a way that binds you, you can't escape and abandon them, thus inspiring you to explore and develop yourself, cherish life and love life.
Trouble and happiness are innate, so having trouble is a kind of integrity of life and a gift of life. It is precisely because of the coexistence of sorrow and joy that life is colorful and charming. Imagine that a carefree life may be as calm as water, but a day without vitality and depth is no different from a lamp at dusk, as bleak as the morning glow and the sunset glow.
③ Forget the troubles: the complexity of the world is annoying, the noise of the world is annoying, the fatigue of work is annoying, the injuries outside life are even more annoying, and the emotional loss is the most annoying. You worry about everything you don't have, and you worry that no one really understands and has no confidant. However, worry can't change your mood and situation. That's the way it is. You can't escape. Only forget your troubles. Life will be more hopeful, easier and more indifferent; Less sadness, less trouble.
There is no need to worry about those lost dreams, there is no need to put some troubles on credit to make life unhappy, and no one can put today's happiness in the bank and take it out tomorrow. Life itself is full of flowers, sunshine, wind and frost, rain and snow. The internal joys and sorrows and the external hardships are impacting our bodies and minds. We should be able to face it calmly and not lose our foothold.
⑤ The sea of people is boundless, coming and going in a hurry, don't let troubles affect your mood. Life has its ups and downs, ups and downs. How can there be no trouble? It is important to have the confidence and courage to forget your troubles and exclude them from your life. Look on the bright side and your heart will be full of sunshine.
6. Forget your troubles. It's complicated but simple. Just play a light music in your spare time, create a free space for yourself and create a good mood. Or turn over the memories that have been yellowed but still beautiful, and relive those days that have been lost but still warm, so you will feel bored and annoyed. As long as we have experienced, worked hard and won, we will have a clear conscience. Learn to forget, learn to be chic, learn to be plain, and you will have a supercilious attitude. Don't be hard on yourself, and don't bother yourself. A free life is more chic than anything else.
⑦ Poetry reading-the source of trouble and happiness.
Why does the river of troubles never stop? Because its source will never dry up.
Why is its source never exhausted? Because its source is in everyone's heart.
Why is the river of happiness intermittent? Because its source is very unstable.
Why is its source unstable? Because its source is deeper in people's hearts, it needs to flow out of the bondage of the soul to get happiness.
Are you worried about the river being cut off? It's simple. Block the wound in your heart.
Do you want a happy river to flow? It's simple. Get rid of inner depression.
Let's open our hearts to a better life!
Please listen carefully to your classmates' suggestions and share your troubles.
Inspirational motto motto
When one happiness is shared with others, it becomes two happiness; When a trouble is shared with others, it becomes half a trouble.
Trouble is like a dark cloud in the sky. If your heart is clear, then troubles will not have any influence on you.
Although there are clouds in the sky, there is always the sun shining above the dark clouds.
If everyone trades their troubles in the market, anyone who sees other people's troubles would rather move their troubles home. "-Western philosophy
Trouble is a drop of water in the sea, but it can reflect the brilliance of the sun.
Worry is like a big stone on the way forward, we must move it to move forward.
All landowners smile, ten years old.
8 All rivers run into the sea, with great tolerance. Standing on a wall, standing upright, without desire.
Pet-name ruby selfless, the world is wide.
Pay attention to life.
You cannot change the environment, but you can change yourself;
You can't change the facts, but you can change your attitude;
You cannot change the past, but you can change the present;
You can't control others, but you can control yourself;
You can't predict tomorrow, but you can grasp today;
You can't control the weather, but you can change your mood;
You can't choose your appearance, but you can smile;
You can't do everything well, but you can do everything wholeheartedly;
You can't extend the length of life, but you can decide the width of life.
Sing the closing words of life
Moderator A: Trouble grows with us and witnesses our growth. In the process of growing up, we should face it with a calm mind, filter our troubles, drive away the haze in our hearts, and let the bright sunshine fill the fields. Because the sunshine is always after the storm. Please enjoy the song "Sunshine is always behind the storm"
Moderator B: Yesterday's troubles may have been rid of by talking, or they may still be hidden in your heart. In any case, today's troubles are inevitable, and tomorrow's troubles will continue and haunt us with growth. Please remember that trouble can neither prolong today nor buy tomorrow. Instead of spending it in trouble, let everyone see a happy you happily! Finally, let's recite Pushkin's "If Life Deceives You" together, throw our troubles out of the clouds, and let's go together with joy!
Teacher's summary:
Students, worry will consume one's energy, reduce one's ambition, weaken one's strength and damage one's health. If you spend a lot of energy and time on unnecessary troubles, it is impossible to exert his full ability. Through this activity, I think you may have mastered the best way to get rid of your troubles, that is, when you are in trouble, replace disappointment with hope, replace depression with courage, replace pessimism with optimism, and replace irritability with tranquility, so that even dark corners will be illuminated. Finally, the teacher wishes you all the best. I believe you will go into battle lightly tomorrow, full of self-confidence, and I hope you can finish your composition on the topic of Growing Pains by yourself, so that your troubles can come to a perfect end.