Since the reform and opening up, great changes have taken place in the marriage form in Nanyang. Backward marriage forms such as arranged marriage, buying and selling, consanguineous marriage, changing relatives, early marriage, child bride and finger marriage have been basically eliminated, and marriage through introduction and free love has dominated. ?
The richness of economic life also provides more opportunities for young men and women to communicate freely, making more colleagues, friends and classmates become lovers and partners. Marriage seekers, matchmakers and marriage agencies also came into being. Wedding ceremonies in rural areas are slightly different from those in towns, but they basically no longer follow the old "six rituals" (that is, winning the lottery, asking names, being lucky, recruiting relatives, inviting marriage, etc. ), according to the family and personal situation, there are simple and complicated. Most of the men should prepare basic living facilities such as houses and furniture, and the women should bring household appliances or other daily necessities with them. ?
(a) rural wedding etiquette?
In rural areas, free love is also very common. Even if you are free to fall in love, you should find a "matchmaker" as a witness to discuss the house, pay off debts and support the elderly face to face to prevent trouble after marriage. Generally, people who are introduced need to know each other for a period of time, and some of them have to look at their animal sign and age to see if they have offended others. When everything is satisfactory, they can hold an engagement ceremony. ?
During the engagement ceremony, the man should buy gifts, bride price, banquets, etc. And most of the people who are engaged with the woman are her mother, aunt, sister-in-law and other relatives, and the wedding date is to be determined. After the engagement, the man will also prepare gifts to invite the woman to participate in the festival. During the engagement period, if the man proposes to dissolve the engagement, the gift money, engagement money and clothes paid by him are not needed, and the woman proposes to return them in full. ?
The night before the wedding, please ask a child to sleep in a new bed, which is called "pressing the bed"; Also ask a married sister-in-law to scatter or put peanuts, dates, chopsticks and so on. Put it on the bedside to take the meaning of "early birth". Among them, peanuts must be raw, which means that the bride is going to give birth, and it is a boy and a girl. On the wedding day, we will decorate the new house, put up couplets, please play drums and entertain friends and relatives. Relatives and friends will also send some gifts. After the wedding, the couple entered the bridal chamber. Brothers, cousins and children ask the bride for wedding candy and money. Then the wedding reception begins. During the dinner, the groom will introduce relatives and friends to the bride and pour wine to show his respect. ?
(2) city wedding etiquette?
In free love, most young men and women in cities and towns will consider many aspects, such as height and appearance, personality cultivation, family status, economic status, diploma education and so on. And get the consent of both parents according to their own conditions. You can't get engaged until you are satisfied with everything. The man wants to buy some expensive engagement gifts. ?
Marriage is usually held on May 1 day, May 4th, National Day, New Year's Day and other legal holidays. Invitations should be sent a few days before marriage to inform relatives and friends of the time and place of the wedding reception, and wedding ceremonies should be held when getting married, mostly to pay tribute to relatives and friends. ?
At present, young people in cities and towns are increasingly advocating tourism marriage, group marriage and other forms, which have become a fashion and are adopted by more and more couples. ?
(3) Wedding ceremony and the custom of "disturbing home"?
This custom is very common in rural areas and towns, but its content is simple and complicated due to different specific situations. ?
The process of rural marriage is roughly like this: on the morning of the wedding, the man sends the wedding team to the woman's house. After the woman's ceremonial reception, she took the dowry items to the wedding car. The woman's wedding team ranges from a few people to dozens of people, and walks to the man with the wedding car; When the team arrived near the man's home, the man sent a bunch of people to meet him, set off firecrackers, and withdrew his dowry, so that the "family" who saw him off could sit at the table early and avoid it; When the bride arrives at the door, the groom usually gets off her back and walks to the "Heaven and Earth Table", which is covered with red cloth or red paper, decorated with flowers, and affixed with the wedding ceremony, including setting off firecrackers, playing music, worshiping the heavens and the earth, bowing to guests, paying New Year greetings to couples, giving gifts to each other, giving speeches by witnesses, introducing the love process, and congratulating relatives and friends. After the wedding, the newlyweds went into the bridal chamber and drank a glass of wine, while the younger brothers, cousins and children crowded into the bridal chamber and asked the bride for money and candy. Then entertain relatives, entertain guests and leave at dusk. In the evening, everyone drinks and plays, commonly known as "noisy room". Nowadays, due to factors such as going out to work, there are fewer young people living at home, and because of the rich amateur cultural life in rural areas, the custom of "noisy rooms" has gradually faded. ?
In cities and towns, most marriage fights are held after the wedding ceremony, and only male colleagues or men of the same age younger than themselves have sex. The content and form are much simpler than those in rural areas.