Since then, its days have been under siege, and people at home will ask for debts every once in a while. He is depressed and his wife is unhappy every day. It is never uncommon to be used, cheated and cheated by a damaged friend. The loss of interests is light, and the separation of wife and children is heavy.
"Caigen Tan" has a cloud: making friends is not suitable for abuse, and abusers will come. If a person doesn't know how to choose a teacher carefully, he will be surrounded by people with ulterior motives. To make friends, you can distinguish between high and low, and don't look at the difference between rich and poor, but you must look at each other's integrity. Good popularity, not so many * * * down is your blessing; If you have a bad character, life will inevitably be wasted.
In fact, it is not difficult to see a person clearly. From the other person's usual mentality, as well as his speech and handling of affairs, you can understand. Whether a person is worthy of deep friendship depends on the following "three points". If you understand, you won't know bad friends.
0 1 keeping promise: keeping promise, but not keeping promise. Trustworthiness not only reflects a person's honesty and trustworthiness, but also shows that he is responsible for his own speech and behavior. In my life, I don't know if you have ever had such an experience: I met a friend who agreed to several aspects, but I couldn't find any reason at will to stand you up. With a classmate who has a good relationship, we agreed to work hard together outside so that everyone can even plan a good future. But just when everyone was going to travel, the other party stopped, saying that he had other plans.
A broken word, on the surface, is a "trivial matter" in which a word has not been fulfilled. On a deeper level, it criticizes the identity between two people and the use value of this friendship. Between friends, I am afraid that one party will treat each other sincerely and the other party will care nothing. In the long run, the relationship between you will become cheaper and cheaper. The unity of mind and the consistency of words and deeds are extremely noble qualities of a person.
People who keep their word and do things reliably will not easily let you promise to serve, but once you promise, it will be 100% reliable. Get along with such people, not afraid of improper handling, not afraid of being cheated, my heart is very practical.
Put yourself in others' shoes: selfish people can think for you when things happen, and always look at everything only for their own thoughts and interests. Not only will he not care too much about each other's worries and grievances, but he will continue to subjectively think that having such a mentality is too concerned.
A friend I know once shared such a thing with me: he said that a relative and friend in my family had nothing to do. As we all know, he was really bad for a while, so he borrowed 20 thousand yuan from him. After careful consideration, he decided to borrow money, hoping that the other party would write an IOU. This rule is very common, but his friends and relatives are now turning against each other. He confidently said, "You can't point at me, because I owe you so much, and I always feel that I can't."
Of course, the ending was very unhappy. From then on, this friend never wants to associate with that person again. People who can't put themselves in others' shoes will never understand their friends' difficulties. Let a friend do whatever he wants, but don't allow others to be dissatisfied at all To make friends, you must make sympathetic people. Such a person can understand you, understand you, and even if you refuse, understand your helplessness. This prevents the possibility of being kidnapped by morality.
Keep your mouth shut: if you don't disclose your private affairs, there will always be security risks with you. Besides family, friends are people who have access to everyone's private life, which is why it is very important to keep your mouth shut. Several of them revealed their past in front of their friends, but later they were spread out by others, attracting all kinds of gossip. How many people expose others in front of their friends, but they blame themselves before the words get cold and reach my ears.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying of years of modesty and prudence. A perfect person should understand that he should grasp the scale of his speech. After listening to a friend's truth, you can keep it in your heart, and you can't get other people's secrets for it; The love life of friends can be understood, but you can't tell everyone, let alone add your own comments. A tight-lipped person, who does not gossip or make irresponsible remarks, is also a very valuable noble character. Trust is the most important thing when friends meet. Never betray a person who asks you to reveal a secret on a sensitive occasion.
04 emotional message A bosom friend in life is enough to comfort the wind and dust. Travel around the world, if you can have three or two like-minded friends, life will be more attractive. When we say "best friends", we mean reliable speech and reliable work. * * *, understand each other, also can hear each other's voice. It is a great blessing to have a gentle and elegant friend. When you meet someone, you must cherish them and sincerely respect them.
Zhang Ailing said: A bosom friend is like a mirror, reflecting the most beautiful part of everyone's nature. Better friends can certainly encourage each other and achieve each other. In the turbulent years, accompanied by close friends, quietly watching the clouds roll and grow old together. In the time you spend, there are stories that belong to you everywhere. That life must be rich.