For a while, I fell into deep self-doubt and self-denial. In the work group, it is always easy to have some small disputes with others, which eventually ferment into unhappiness in others' hearts. So I keep asking myself, am I really doing something wrong? But as far as work is concerned, I am serious and stubborn. I have always said that nothing in this world can be done casually, and there must be differences of opinion at work. If you can't convince the other party, you can come up with your own plan for everyone to vote.
Maybe I am always bad at communication, and too straightforward language always seems to make the other person feel uncomfortable. Maybe the other person's point of view is that you should consider my feelings, while my point of view is that this is work, and you should communicate directly and efficiently to solve problems. When you think I don't care about your feelings, it's because you don't deserve me to care about your feelings at all. I naturally treat different people in different ways, but only if, what kind of person are you? If you think I'm stiff and strong, yes, then I'm hinting at you. In my eyes, you are not the person to do things.
Therefore, I will not consider your emotions, let alone the consequences. However, when this happened once, twice or three times, I began to doubt myself. Am I really wrong? Until today, when I was telling my friends about my troubles, my friends' words suddenly seemed to wake me up.
A friend asked: Are there any partners around you who have never had an argument over work? Of course I thought about it! Only a few. What kind of people are they? "Everyone is doing things! Very powerful people with high cognitive level. " So the friend said, "Yes, what else do you doubt about yourself?" There is a 28 law in this world. Everyone on your same frequency knows you. Since the people who are in tune at work are all powerful people, it certainly means that it is not your problem. Now think about what kind of people argue with you at work. ""I think they are all people who have no attitude, poor cognitive ability and don't know themselves. " So my friend smiled. So, what do you think is wrong? What matters is what you want. Do you want to make friends with them or do you want to do your work to the extreme?
Then I remembered the story of "Three Seasons" and the "upward socialization" taught by Master. Master said that the world is full of people who do things, but not many people do things. Don't affect the pattern of your career just because the people who do things are not at the same level as you. It's not your problem, but they really can't Don't doubt yourself because of incompetent people. People who are too ostentatious can't get along with others because they can't conform to others. But the flamboyant personality comes from your real ability.
As long as you do yourself well, people with the same frequency, cognition and pattern will naturally approach you, and then understand that you are moved and attracted by you.
So I suddenly let go.
The law of large numbers is the law of 28, so why don't you mind your own business and be afraid of loneliness?