Frustration is of course not something you can just look at. When did I say this, please don’t take it out of context, okay? We want to solve it and overcome it, but after all your talk, you still haven’t answered my two questions:
1) Is the word setback the same concept as overcoming setback?
2) You said that to be successful, you must have the courage to face various challenges. From this sentence, I would like to ask you to deduce that the key to success is setbacks or the mentality of facing setbacks?
My point of view is: setbacks are not conducive to success, and a positive attitude in the face of setbacks is conducive to success: lol
Although I am embarrassed to say it, I still have to say that you seem to A bit lacking in analytical skills. What I say about getting rid of is overcoming, not escaping. Only when we turn setbacks into non-frustrations can we become successful. You said that the world's richest people encounter setbacks. When I say getting rid of them, I mean that we must use our own strength to change and get rid of adversity. This kind of getting rid of The other party also said that is called escaping? If we don’t get rid of setbacks, are you telling us that we can only become successful if we are always in adversity and setbacks? Your last sentence -----> If he faces setbacks calmly, then he will definitely become a successful person -----> In fact, it does not prove your point of view at all. On the contrary, there are loopholes. Your position today is based on the previous Facing setbacks with a positive attitude is conducive to success, rather than the setbacks themselves. So what is the key to success? It's your mentality, your mentality when facing setbacks. When a positive or negative mentality determines whether you can become a talent, you still want to tell me that setbacks themselves are conducive to success?
p/s: I have made it clear in so many posts that we have to face setbacks. Why do you refuse to watch it? Is it because you only choose to watch what you like and what you don’t like? If you can see it, just pretend that you can't see it. Is the other party's attitude towards arguing the topic correct?
(3) Our view is: setbacks are not conducive to growth.
Human growth refers to the process of people transforming from natural people to social people and being fully socialized. The two indicators of healthy physical and mental development and the maturation of social roles show that although good times and bad times are inevitable life situations that people must face in the process of growing up, comparatively speaking, good times are more conducive to people's growth.
First of all, from the perspective of human physical and mental development, on the one hand, scientific nutrition supply and a sound public health system are more important than insufficient material security and insufficient public health services. Conducive to human physiological growth. On the other hand, good times are more conducive to the growth of people's minds, which includes the improvement of cognitive abilities, the cultivation of temperament, and the development of character. In adversity, the learning environment is repressive and allows for cognitive development, but in good times, an encouraging educational atmosphere is provided, which is more conducive to the systematic development of cognition. In adversity, we can recognize the hardships of life, but it can also easily produce anxiety and pain, and even a sense of alienation and distrust towards others. In good times, we can appreciate the warmth of family, the care of society, and the value of friendship, so that we can have a tolerant, open, and healthy mentality. In adversity, the cultivation of human character is conditional, and it is easy to exceed the basic psychological pressure range, causing personality distortion. In good times, the cultivation of human character is subtle. Through positive educational methods and good temperament cultivation, a more sound personality is forged.
Secondly, from the perspective of human socialization process, on the one hand, good times are more conducive to meeting the growth needs of each stage of life. When we were children, the care of our families in good times gave us self-confidence. and a sense of autonomy, while children who grow up in broken families are prone to low self-esteem and suspicion. When we are teenagers, a good education in good times can make us successful in our studies and make a good living. However, if we lack education, we will temporarily lose the support for growth and lose the direction of life. When we reach adulthood or even old age, good times enable people to gain motivation for lifelong growth through self-affirmation, while the impact of adversity can easily make people depressed and self-denial. On the other hand, good times are more conducive to the maturity of people's social roles, because people's growth is always marked by their independent assumption of appropriate social roles. Difficulties in adversity can easily lead to frustration and interrupt people's lifelong growth. The process of continuous social development in good times, sound institutional arrangements, and harmonious daily life provide a more benign space for people's social roles to mature.
The good wind helps me to reach the blue clouds with its power.
With the good wind of good times, we can spread the wings of growth and fly higher and further in the sky of life. If people are often worried, their physical and mental health will be affected, which will naturally affect their work, and there will be no growth. It is true that a person's life cannot always be "smooth sailing" and will encounter setbacks, but people are born with a certain ability to withstand adversity and will not be "without the slightest ability to resist". Therefore, even in good circumstances, People will adjust themselves when encountering some minor setbacks. In the face of suffering, everyone's ability to adjust is different, which does not mean that "there is no ability to resist setbacks". The ability to withstand is related to a person's personality, quality and other factors. Some are innate and some are acquired. Training, most people have the ability to self-regulate in the face of setbacks. Since adversity is bearable, good times are even more powerful. In adversity, it may be difficult to have the opportunity to do things down-to-earth, and it is also difficult to have the opportunity to grow. If there are no opportunities, can it be conducive to human growth? Times create heroes! If you are in a good situation and can provide a good development environment for great people, you may be able to achieve greater results.
Let us take a look at a true story about the adverse factors in the growth of teenagers.
In 2001, the People’s Procuratorate of Xixia County handled an intentional injury case. They are all under the age of 18. They are typical juvenile violent crimes, and the motives, means and consequences of their crimes are worth pondering.
(4) 2 Frustration is not conducive to growth (1)
The case is as follows: Ren Moumou (female, 16 years old) learned that her uncle and the victim were fooling around, causing family discord. At about 10 o'clock in the night on October 21, 2001, he made an appointment with Zhang (female, 17 years old), Aku (16 years old), Du (15 years old), Liu (15 years old), and Jin (16 years old) after drinking. , Wang (15 years old), seven people went to the victim's residence. Ren, Zhang and others punched and kicked the victim. During the beating, Ren handed the kitchen knife to Zhang, and Zhang held the kitchen knife towards the victim's head. The victim was stabbed randomly on the shoulders and legs, causing serious injuries.
The above criminal suspects are all minors. There are many reasons why they embarked on the road of crime, among which the main ones are the following:
1. Bad influence on the family. Three of the seven people's families have been divorced, and several other families have also neglected discipline. Some teenagers' parents have poor marriage foundations or even distortions, and their children have prematurely suffered the adverse experiences of family civil war. Children from single-parent families lack family affinity, which casts a shadow on their souls. They are prone to inferiority complex and withdrawn personality. Most of them are introverted and precocious. Coupled with some negative influences from society, it is very likely that people will develop bad habits and anti-social consciousness and go astray. But other families dote on their children, causing them to become spoiled and disobedient to discipline. Others use rough education, often scolding, insulting, and corporally punishing children to develop a rebellious mentality.
2. The school education is too one-sided, paying too much attention to the level of academic performance and ignoring the ideological and moral education of young people. The development of young people educated in this way is unbalanced.
3. Adverse social effects. "In the beginning, human beings are inherently good." Minors are like a blank sheet of paper, and society is the painter. Children's growth often depends on the social environment. Various undesirable phenomena in society have caused many negative impacts on children. Because minors are not yet completely mentally stable and mentally mature, they lack the ability of adults to analyze, judge, and distinguish right from wrong on those negative and unhealthy things. They are full of fantasy, like stimulation, blind imitation, copy. This causes them to have distorted world views, outlook on life and values, and then produce various anti-social behaviors. Coupled with the weak concept of legality and the influence of concepts such as money and pleasure, people have strong vanity and poor control, and are prone to go to extremes and even commit crimes.
4. Minors’ own weaknesses.
From their own perspective, minors’ ignorance and weak legal awareness are an important reason for them to go into the abyss. First, physical development and psychological development are not coordinated. With the improvement of material living standards, the physical development of adolescents has accelerated, but their psychological development and formation are lagging behind. They generally show weak self-control ability and low ability to withstand setbacks. The second is low cognitive ability and poor discrimination ability. Adolescents have active minds and are good at imitating, but their ability to understand and distinguish things is relatively poor, they have a weak sense of right and wrong, and the boundaries between illegal and criminal activities are unclear. It is easy for them to violate regulations or even commit illegal crimes. The third is to make friends randomly and go astray.
Many minors become complicit because of careless friendships, are dragged into the trap by bad guys, and become co-complicit in committing crimes, endangering society.
With the progress of society and economic development, children's life now becomes more advantageous. However, while these favorable conditions benefit children, they may also have adverse effects on them. If used improperly, children who grow up under such conditions may lack certain psychological qualities that are extremely important for their lifelong development. We can first look at some examples below.
A girl from a certain university committed suicide by jumping off a building that night because she sang out of tune at a gala, causing the audience to burst into laughter!
In September 1995, a 15-year-old girl from a key middle school in Beijing was criticized for commenting on her teacher's "fatness" and attempted suicide, resulting in lifelong disability.
In 1996, the joint investigation team of the National Youth Working Committee, China Youth Daily and the Children's Research Institute of the China Youth Research Center conducted a large-scale questionnaire survey among primary and secondary school students across the country. In the "Your main shortcomings" In a survey, 31.2% of the 16,350 primary school students surveyed chose "timidity" as the number one shortcoming; among the 5,560 middle school students, 28.2% chose "timidity" as the number one shortcoming. The third shortcoming. Recently, some surveys have shown that the suicide rate of children and adolescents in our country is on the rise; when answering "What should I do if I encounter difficulties?", 97% of primary and secondary school students thought of asking their parents or teachers instead of finding a solution themselves. Solve and so on.
In view of this, the author calls on the whole society to pay attention to children's legal and moral education issues and provide children with a healthy growth environment
(5) This is my response to the debate competition a few days ago. The questions prepared for the attack and defense session, because I feel that this question that took me some brains to come up with is indeed not bad, so I specially put it out in the hope that it will be helpful to everyone's thinking expansion. If you have good opinions and views, you are welcome to discuss them, but please do not attack others or be too aggressive.
Our rules are: During the attack and defense phase, the attacker can only ask questions and is not allowed to express his or her own views. The defender can only answer questions and is not allowed to ask questions in reverse or ignore the other party's questions. Other rules are the same as the general debate competition.
Our argument: Frustration is not conducive to success
The opponent’s argument: Frustration is conducive to success
The following are our defense questions:
For a musician, the greatest disaster is hearing impairment. Even the great music icon, Beethoven, had hearing problems that became more and more serious when he was 32 years old. Coupled with his troubles in love, he even had the idea of ??committing suicide and wrote a will. But this dual spiritual crisis eventually evaporated under the burning fire of music in his heart.
① So, I would like to ask the other debater, is deafness a setback for musicians?
(First of all, regardless of any question, only allow the other party to answer "yes" or "no". For this question, as long as the other party does not answer directly, or wants to When expressing your opinion on the example I just gave, you should immediately interrupt the other party and say, "Please answer my question directly. Is deafness a setback for a musician? Please The answer is 'it doesn't count' or 'it doesn't count'." I asked this question very trickyly, and the other party could only answer "it doesn't count". If the other party insists on answering "it doesn't count", it will first give a bad impression to the audience and the judges, because This is an obvious question. )
(If the other party answers “Not really”, that’s great. You can then ask, “So, may I ask my fellow debater, what is frustration?”. Since the other party has previously said It means "Deafness is not a setback for a musician". At this time, the other party's definition of "frustration" is untenable. This answer will undoubtedly ruin the entire game for them. Therefore, no matter what the other party thinks, he can only answer "Forget it")
②So, is deafness conducive to music creation?
(This question is as tricky as the previous one. If the other party insists on answering "favorable", that's fine. 1. You can make fun of him. "So, may I ask the other party's debate partner, a deaf person is better than a normal person?" Is your hearing better?"; 2. "Since the other debater thinks so, I think there is no need for me to ask further.
"In this way, no matter you use any of the above two methods to deal with it, there is no need to be wordy with the other party, because the judges and the audience will boo him. Same as above, no matter what the other party thinks, he can only answer "Unfavorable" ".)
③ So, let me ask my fellow debater, if we want to become talented, must we continue to experience setbacks?
(Although this question is not as common as the previous two, But from the other party's standpoint, you basically have no choice. If the other party insists on answering "No" or if the other party answers "No, I will explain it immediately." You can interrupt the other party immediately and say, "Thank you fellow debater." Answer, thank you for your affirmation of our point of view. My question is over. "From the other party's point of view, I can basically only answer "yes".)
④ Ask the other party's debate friends, everyone encountered it. Can you get back up despite setbacks?
(The obvious answer is, of course, "can't". If he dares to answer "can", he will be risking the same as the second question. This At the same time, criticize the other party's definition of "frustration" in the same manner as ①) ⑤ Then, for those who get up, the key to their success is "their mentality when facing setbacks." and methods" or "frustration itself"?
(If the other party answers "it is the frustration itself", then he is contradicting the previous answer. Just use ② questions to attack.)
⑥ Ask the other debater, are "frustration itself" and "a person's mentality and method when facing setbacks" the same concept?
By the 6th question, your purpose is already there? Basically, it doesn’t matter what the other person’s answer is, because you have used the other person’s answer to prove that “frustration itself” is detrimental to our success and growth. Secondly, you raised another question. The concept of "frustration itself" is not the same as "a person's mentality and method when facing a team's setbacks". Moreover, judging from the previous series of questions, the other party has been trapped in this designed "cage" by you. . Regardless of whether the other party is completely convinced, at least in this round of defense, you have the audience and judges on your side.
If the other party answers "No" at this time. ". Very good, you can end it." Thank you fellow debater for your answer. My question is over. ”
If the other party answers “Yes. ". Then, he was contradicting himself as before. "I find it very strange. The other debater replied before that what makes people get up from setbacks is 'a person's mentality and method when facing setbacks' rather than ' Frustration itself'. Now we are told that the two are the same concept. The other debater contradicted himself in this way, and I felt there was no need for me to ask any more questions. ”
The question ends here. But in the free debate stage, you can also extend the other party’s answer to prove your own argument. For the entire competition. The ingenious design of this concept is definitely very exciting.
This example of asking a question is just to show you an idea and method of asking questions. Don’t ask questions that are unreasonable or irrelevant in the debate. It's best to be able to connect everything and give the other party no choice but to follow your lead. For some cases of the other party, don't blindly follow the other party's point of view. You should look at it from another perspective. Things are often not just the same. It's absolutely one-sided. You should also be careful with the examples you use to prove your point of view, and don't let the other party take advantage of it. Just like the "Beethoven" thing mentioned in this example, it may seem to be beneficial to the other party, but change it. From a different perspective, the impact on others is completely different.
(6) In terms of the circumstances in which talents grow, they can be divided into those who develop talents in good times and those who develop in adversity. It is conducive to the growth of talents, but adversity is often a setback that talents often encounter and must face correctly in their growth. Many thinkers in ancient my country believed that "it is difficult to develop talents." The Wei School even said: "Adverse conditions lead to growth, and smooth conditions lead to success." It's too late; if it goes against the grain, it's holy; if it goes along, it's crazy; if the grass and trees don't have frost and snow, then business won't be strong; if people don't worry, then wisdom won't be achieved. "He believes that only adversity can lead to success, which is very one-sided. However, the phenomenon of success in adversity embodies a certain regularity in a broader sense, which is an indisputable fact.
1. Analysis of the causes of talent growth and reverse construction
(1) Due to specific historical conditions and social and political systems
The times can create heroes, or they can kill peace and harmony. Block the progress and emergence of certain specific talents, causing adversity in the growth of talents. Insufficient demand for military talents in peaceful and prosperous times is not conducive to the development of people's military talents. This is a social "adversity" for the growth of military talents. However, in times of social revolution, armed struggle, or the disintegration of the world, people with military talents emerge as the times require. Students want to show their ambitions, but in this era, for talents with scientific and technological talents and literary and artistic talents, they often face the unfavorable situation of having no way to study and no way to serve the country. It can be seen that the "current situation" also has an adverse side to the growth of specific talents.
From the five social forms experienced by human beings, the feudal system and theocratic rule are the most unfavorable to the growth of talents and the most serious destruction of talents. In the European Middle Ages, the military personnel system was centered on feudal family status, and officer status was a hereditary privilege for a small number of nobles. This blocked the channels for a large number of civilians and their children to become officers and display and develop their military talents. It was implemented after the Sui and Tang Dynasties in my country. The imperial examination system was actually a trap that restricted people from displaying their talents. The vast majority of workers lost the opportunity to study due to life constraints, and it was impossible for them to participate in the imperial examination and pursue an official career. During the Ming and Qing Dynasties, eight-legged essays were used to select scholars. Candidates could only follow the gourd's drawings and make suggestions for the ancients. They were not allowed to have independent thoughts. The imperial examination system became a shackle that restricted people's success. This systemic adversity has buried so many talents.
(2) Due to backward outdated concepts and old habits
Some outdated concepts and old habits in our country’s history have created various adversities and still constrain the growth of talents. progress. The first is the habitual adversity of seniority. Whether a person with high moral integrity and talent can enter the position must be ranked in order of qualifications. "Everyone who is stupid and wise must be qualified." Promotion and promotion must be "ranked downwards according to qualifications, one after another." . ． Those with junior qualifications have no choice but to obey the arrangements, endure hardships for many years, or even be buried in the ground for a long time. The second is the interpersonal adversity of jealousy of talents. In an environment full of jealousy, it is difficult for talents to get ahead. Even if they achieve success, they will not feel a sense of accomplishment. Instead, they will feel restricted. Some people cannot allow talents to stand out, and even individual leaders lack the due magnanimity. They would rather have talented people go to waste than allow them to "come to the fore" and "show their faces", resulting in potential talents being "taken by dragons." The tiger must lie down." The third is the social, cultural and psychological adversity of a closed and conservative society. Traditional Chinese culture regards the conservative and introverted psychological character as a virtue of self-esteem. Philosophies of life such as "it is better to hide your clumsiness than to be clever" and "never try to do whatever you want". Out of so-called "self-esteem" needs. For example, young talents have suggestions and ideas for work, are academically researched and insightful, and even have doubts about some authoritative conclusions, but they do not show the slightest trace, because once they "do what they do best" and make a joke, wouldn't it be embarrassing? Being scorned by others and losing "self-esteem"... In this way, how many insights have been brought to naught, and how many creations have been aborted? Improper emphasis on self-esteem is tantamount to creating mental shackles and psychological adversity for oneself.
(3) Imbalance in talent development
In long-distance running competitions, those in front often bear greater wind resistance or headwind force. The same principle applies to the development and progress of talents. Once someone becomes famous, or even becomes a public figure, society and people around him will pay more attention to him, have higher expectations for him, and the requirements for him will be more demanding. This creates a kind of pressure invisibly, which can also be called a "happy adversity".
There is also an adversity caused by the "Matthew Effect": due to the different growth rates of talents, outstanding talents in the front are easily recognized by the organization and society, and receive honors and rewards; Talents are difficult to be recognized and often fall into the troubles and adversity of the "Matthew Effect". The "Matthew Effect" often promotes the development of apparent talents at the expense of the development of potential talents, thereby depriving potential talents of their development opportunities and possibilities. The "Matthew Effect" creates artificial adversities and obstacles to the growth of potential talents through this "deprivation" mechanism, which not only suppresses talents, but also buries talents.
(7) (4) Talents are determined by their personality traits
The British philosopher John Mill said in "On Liberty": "A person with genius is destined by the meaning of the word. He who has more individuality than anyone else, and who is, therefore, less able than anyone else to fit without feeling the harmful constraints of those few molds which society has prepared to save its members the trouble of forming individual characters. "The distinctive personality of talents is often not tolerated by old traditional concepts, decadent social systems and backward habits. The more outstanding the talents, the more resistance they have to withstand from all aspects of society. Therefore, talents with distinctive personalities often face the severe test of social adversity, especially those thinkers and politicians who are determined to destroy the old world and build a new world. They want to rebel against the decadent social system, and their personalities must be in line with the society at that time. Not tolerated. And if the ideological giants and political giants in history were so content and obeyed orders, then the social system environment in which they lived would not pose an adversity to them. But if that were the case, they would not be historical giants. At the same time, those talents with distinctive personalities and sharp edges will inevitably hurt some people with whom they have contact intentionally or unintentionally, and can easily make enemies and grudges. In addition, because of their outstanding talents and popularity, they are often hated by others. If there are some stubbornness and If you are stubborn, you will have difficulty coordinating with the surrounding environment. The unique personality of talents often plays a certain role in the formation of adversity in which they find themselves.
(5) Objective conditions and the status of talents
Adversity is often caused by objective social conditions, the conditions of talents themselves, the status of talents in their growth, etc.*** same decision. The family comes from a poor background and has poor living and living conditions, which are caused by the social status of the parents and cannot be changed; natural disasters and man-made disasters occur suddenly, leaving people helpless and irresistible; serious illness, accidental disability, congenital deficiencies, and physical defects are a part of life. This kind of misfortune, no one can do anything about; people talk lightly, and talents are not recognized, so they can only wait silently for the opportunity; they are new to the country, the environment is unfavorable, the interpersonal relationship is unfamiliar, and the work cannot open up the situation, so they can only start from scratch... The adversity caused by all kinds of dangers, disasters, poverty, hardship, and misfortunes cannot be diverted by human will. Sometimes people really cannot choose their own status and situation. This is exactly the embodiment of human passivity in the objective world.
2. Comprehensive understanding and dialectical analysis of the role of adversity in the growth of talents
Under certain conditions, adversity does have an important motivating effect on the growth of certain talents, but it does not Anyone can become successful in adversity, and the phenomenon of success in adversity cannot be used to deny the positive effect of good times on talent growth. There is a bottom line for people's psychological endurance. More setbacks will reduce people's self-confidence and increase disappointment. In severe cases, you may even suffer from depression, and some may even go to extremes, such as self-harm, suicide, etc. On the contrary, if you have a strong sense of accomplishment, your self-confidence will increase, you will work harder, you will be full of hope for life, and your good emotions will also affect the people around you.
Prosperity is a good situation, and adversity is the opposite. Human growth refers to the process of people transforming from natural persons to social persons and being fully socialized. The two indicators of healthy physical and mental development and the maturation of social roles show that although good times and bad times are inevitable life situations that people must face in the process of growing up, comparatively speaking, good times are more conducive to people's growth.
First of all, from the perspective of human physical and mental development, on the one hand, scientific nutrition supply and a sound public health system are more important than insufficient material security and insufficient public health services. Conducive to human physiological growth. On the other hand, good times are more conducive to the growth of people's minds, which includes the improvement of cognitive abilities, the cultivation of temperament, and the development of character. In adversity, the learning environment is repressive and allows for cognitive development, but in good times, an encouraging educational atmosphere is provided, which is more conducive to the systematic development of cognition. In adversity, we can recognize the hardships of life, but it can also easily produce anxiety and pain, and even a sense of alienation and distrust towards others. In good times, we can appreciate the warmth of family, the care of society, and the value of friendship, so that we can have a tolerant, open, and healthy mentality. In adversity, the cultivation of human character is conditional, and it is easy to exceed the basic psychological pressure range, causing personality distortion. In good times, the cultivation of human character is subtle. Through positive educational methods and good temperament cultivation, a more sound personality is forged.
Secondly, from the perspective of human socialization process, on the one hand, good times are more conducive to meeting the growth needs of all stages of life. When we were children, the care of our families in good times gave us self-confidence. and a sense of autonomy, while children who grow up in broken families are prone to low self-esteem and suspicion. When we are teenagers, a good education in good times can make us successful in our studies and make a good living. However, if we lack education, we will temporarily lose the support for growth and lose the direction of life. When we reach adulthood or even old age, good times enable people to gain motivation for lifelong growth through self-affirmation, while the impact of adversity can easily make people depressed and self-denial. On the other hand, good times are more conducive to the maturation of people's social roles, because people's growth is always marked by their independent assumption of appropriate social roles. Difficulties in adversity can easily lead to frustration and interrupt life-long growth. The process of continuous social development in good times, sound institutional arrangements, and harmonious daily life provide a more benign space for people's social roles to mature.
Encountering setbacks will require double the time and energy, increase the cost of doing things, or change the development direction of things
It depends on the degree of the setback. If the setback is excessive, it will A blow to a person's self-confidence. If it is not handled well, he may never be able to muster the courage again
It depends on the person who encounters setbacks. If the person is very fragile, it may be his end
1. Now the financial tsunami is sweeping the world, and the whole world has fallen into a huge financial setback. The United States, the United Kingdom, Japan, and even China have suffered a huge impact. Companies have laid off employees, businesses have gone bankrupt, and there has been a depression. A large number of people have lost their jobs and even Bankruptcy, can you say that such a setback is a good thing for us and even society as a whole?
2. There are still 10 years of catastrophe, which has caused huge disasters to the motherland and people. The national economic and cultural undertakings have made great strides in retrogression. At this time, we will suffer setbacks in the construction of socialist society. Such setbacks are easy to cause. It makes people lose their self-confidence and their enthusiasm for pursuing new things.
3 His test scores were disastrous and he gave up on himself. (Loss of self-confidence)
4 It is difficult to get over grief after losing love. (The passion for pursuing new things)
5 Not being reused at work makes people doubt their own abilities, leading to a lack of enthusiasm for progress. Do you want to experience it a second time?
If a person who has never encountered setbacks in his life has always been successful, and suddenly a very important thing fails, do you think he will accept it? On the contrary, if a frustrated person fails, he will be very happy. Because he knows that nothing can always be successful. I don’t think there will be any results from the debate, because life itself is contradictory. But debate increases our ability to express ourselves in many ways. With every advantage there must be a disadvantage. A contradictory life is a fact that no one can escape. ...
People's survival and development are inseparable from setbacks
In the process of people's life and work, the long road of life, no matter how you design and arrange it, will encounter failures and setbacks. Always by your side. This is determined by being a "person", this special social existence, and by himself and the various different environments in which he lives. Which historical figure at home and abroad in ancient and modern times has not experienced ups and downs, from failure to success until he has completed his life? Practice has proved that everyone is an aggregation of failure and success. Napoleon said: "The life of a great man is bound to be unfortunate."
If the grass feels painful because there is no majesty of trees, then we will not see the vast grassland.
If a shell feels pain because of a grain of sand in its heart, it will never be able to give birth to a pearl.
If the flowing water feels painful because of the remaining cliff in front, then we will never witness the spectacular flow of the flowing water.
If growth is painful because of setbacks, then there will be no success, happiness, or hope in life.
Frustration is an inevitable fork in the road to growth. If a person does not have the support of setbacks, he will never face a choice to decide the next step of his journey. If Zhang Haidi had not experienced setbacks, she would never have achieved her great career. If Marx had not experienced poverty, he would never have become a leader of the revolution.
Frustration is the light behind pain. If you think that setbacks are a stumbling block for you, stuck in your throat, and clotted in your blood, then you are wrong.
Frustration contains huge wealth. If you dig into it, it will give you the key to success and lead you to open every door that is in front of you. If you ignore it, what it will report to you will be endless darkness.
Frustration inhibits the path that the thorn bird is looking for, and it constantly gives the thorn bird strong winds, heavy rain, and waves. The thorn bird was not afraid of this. After passing through the dark clouds, it was delighted to see the thorns shining brightly in the sunshine! It worked! What makes it successful is that people never think of setbacks.
Many people lament their meager wealth, and frustration is wealth. We need frustration and it brings us endless thoughts. Because setbacks have also inhibited our way forward. We fell when we were young, why don’t we fall again when we are older? Because we stood up, we overcame the first setback that life brought to us. We have failed at times. Why do some people stop at failure? Because they are afraid of experiencing another setback.
As we grow, we all need setbacks to temper ourselves. Because a life that has experienced setbacks is that brilliant rainbow.