1, sincerity. Sincerity is the basis of getting along with others and an important principle in social etiquette.
2. respect. Everyone wants others to respect themselves. First of all, you should respect others. The ancients said that those who respect others will always respect others. Respect and love each other, the relationship between people can be harmonious and happy, and there will be no disputes.
3. sympathy. Around us, not everyone is always in good times. Many people have suffered one misfortune or another, some are trapped by money, some suffer from illness, some fail in marriage, some fail in career, some fail in exams, and some fail in job hunting. When your friend encounters this situation, you should sincerely care about his pain, comfort him with compassion, share his sorrow and pain, and try your best to help him. In this way, friends will not only appreciate you, but also enhance your friendship.
4. care. A person who doesn't care about others will never have real friends and friendship. Some people think: if he doesn't care about me, why should I care about him? If this kind of person can change his attitude and take the initiative to care about the people around him, then the people around him will definitely reciprocate and care about you. A psychologist once said: People who refuse to care about others will feel lonely. Most of the losers of ancient and modern human beings are such people.
Common sense of women's social etiquette II
First, we should know the characteristics and advantages of women. In today's ballroom dancing stage, there are more and more striking public relations ladies and sisters-in-law. They won the respect of others with their rich connotations and polite and elegant manners, got sincere friendship and help, and realized their lofty life value. Science and reality have proved to people that women have unique advantages and infinite charm in social communication. Their feelings are delicate and soft, and they are more likely to feel guilty and put themselves in others' shoes. This makes it difficult for women to hurt others' feelings or dignity in social communication, so it is easy to gain each other's goodwill and trust; Their language expression is mild, euphemistic and easy to accept; They are more sensitive, which makes them better at coordinating and contacting each other in interpersonal relationships and prevents them from dragging their feet. Therefore, as women, we should base ourselves on our own advantages, master social art, and pursue employment freely and happily on the social dance stage.
Secondly, we should overcome the timidity and inferiority in the first social interaction. Everything is difficult at the beginning, and so is socializing. Many women who are new to social occasions will feel great psychological pressure. They dare not take the initiative to talk to people, and they don't know how to talk to people. They are often isolated and miss the precious opportunity to make friends. This is very regrettable.
Generally speaking, the following principles are extremely beneficial to friends who are new to social occasions:
(1) communicate on an equal footing. The first people to socialize are friends from all corners of the country. Many of them are strangers to each other, so there is no need to be afraid. At this time, confident and generous people are often treated differently. Even if you are too nervous to make a mistake, it doesn't matter. You can say: I am a stranger and can't speak. I'm sorry! Then give a simple and honest smile, so that the other person will not laugh at you, but will take the initiative to comfort you and even make friends with you. In any case, you can't escape because you are shy, because it will confuse those friends who only listened to your half sentence, and even think you are naive and ridiculous.
(2) choose appropriate. It's important to choose the right communication target. You can first estimate an ideal partner who is close to you through people's expressions, costumes, decorations and actions, and then look at each other with your eyes, or take the initiative to run over and show them that you are interested in getting to know them. At this time, if the other party is interested in getting to know you, they will take the initiative to come over, and your chances of success will be much greater. For the first time, it is best to make friends with the same sex first, and then make friends with the opposite sex when you are more comfortable.
(3) Say the first sentence. The first sentence in social situations is very important, because a good topic can lead to a series of stories, which can quickly attract the other party's approval. The best choice depends on the object, such as praising the other person's clothes. Talk about children with middle-aged women and study and work with young friends. A heartfelt compliment and a suitable topic will often bring you closer together at once and leave a good impression on your communication.
(4) Pay attention to manners. When you make friends with people for the first time, you should be polite, but don't go too far. Inappropriate excessive politeness and western-style Chinese etiquette regardless of the object will disgust the other party. Don't be arrogant or coy, but try to behave appropriately and politely.
5] Pay attention to consolidating the achievements. After the talk, if you have the desire for further communication, you should introduce yourself to the other party. Let's keep in touch in the future, ok? Then introduce yourself first. In this way, the other party will be willing to accept it. It is important that you remember each other's names from now on. An American psychology professor thinks that when the other person says his name, you might as well repeat it orally, which will help you remember and make the other person feel respected.
Common sense of women's social etiquette III
Human society is composed of men and women, and women in real life inevitably have to deal with the other half of men. However, we often meet people who seem to be taboo to associate with the opposite sex. This idea is actually a reflection of the feudal concept that men and women can't distinguish between giving and receiving, which is incorrect. We can often see this situation. If one day a female colleague comes to an office composed entirely of men, the originally chaotic environment will immediately become orderly, and the clothes that men don't notice will also become clean and tidy, and the work efficiency will be greatly improved. This can't help but say that the opposite sex effect is at work. When women communicate with the opposite sex, it is not important to worry about whether they will have a good impression and sex, but to master the degree of external performance and inner feelings.
Grasp the emotional gate, which is the most critical. In appearance, when communicating with the opposite sex, be enthusiastic and sincere, not too much; Self-respect and self-love, keep women reserved, and don't be indifferent and lofty; It is necessary to show beauty and talent deliberately, but it is not artificial and grandstanding. If you just want to get friendship, you can't just be enthusiastic about others, but like a blacksmith, you should blend fire and water, both hot and cold, and forge friendship; If you want to persuade others to adopt your suggestion, you have to show your strength and gain the trust of the opposite sex, not just by coquetry; If you want to get help from the opposite sex, you should make them fully understand and sympathize with you, and at the same time, you should be both soft and hard, so that people will not use their weaknesses to manipulate themselves. Therefore, whether you can correctly grasp the degree of heterosexual communication is a sign of your social maturity.
Married women should pay attention to the following points when interacting with friends of the opposite sex: First, lead an honest and clean life and make friends carefully. Don't associate with the opposite sex with bad conduct, so as to avoid inviting wolves into the room. Don't be frivolous, don't be vain, don't play with other people's feelings, and don't be proud of arousing the love of the opposite sex. Don't indulge in other people's sweet words, and don't covet material benefits; Secondly, be warm and generous and behave moderately. It is necessary to sweep away the shyness and shyness of girls and face the society with a steady and generous attitude. Don't be coy, too casual, too intimate, and make some careless jokes. Otherwise, although you have no intention of planting flowers, the other party mistakenly thinks that you are interested in planting flowers, causing embarrassing trouble; Third, we should pay attention to distinguish between friendship and love. We should be good at controlling our feelings and not indulge their development, otherwise we will fall into a dilemma and find it difficult to extricate ourselves. Fourth, pay attention to the time and place when communicating with the opposite sex. The same thing, at different times and places, will have different effects and influences, such as day and night, in public places, in barren hills, in single rooms and so on. If you don't pay attention to the time and place of communication, even if you act properly, it will inevitably attract criticism and be hard to argue. Fifth, be good at introducing your heterosexual friends to your husband and let him be your friend. Never associate with the opposite sex behind your husband's back, lest you lose love because of friendship.
In a word, married women should adhere to the basic principle of communication with friends of the opposite sex: that is, only ordinary friends, and be careful not to affect the family. You must let the other person know that you are married at the beginning of the relationship. There should be no flattering or even teasing words and deeds in communication, and you should not casually tell each other about the contradictions between husband and wife in the family to avoid the opposite sex's incomprehension and misunderstanding of yourself. The opposite sex should be known to the husband to avoid misunderstanding.
Common sense of female social etiquette IV
In our daily life, besides interacting with the opposite sex, we often interact with the same sex. Same-sex social interaction also needs special attention.
Generally speaking, physiological characteristics determine that women's observation of social phenomena is more detailed and sensitive. This was originally the advantage of women, but due to the influence of traditional culture, many women are used to looking at their sisters and compatriots with old consciousness, sometimes they are very picky, like to compare with each other, and are prone to jealousy.
When we associate with the same sex, we should first think more about whether we are women and whether we have common weaknesses. For example, I like to criticize others, but I don't pay attention to my manners; Pass the buck, but be competitive; I haggle over everything, but say others are narrow-minded. Secondly, we should try to prevent women from finding meaningful topics when socializing, and have a simple chat with parents and westerners. Many crises in women's society are caused by gossip.
In a word, being kind to others and emphasizing harmony are the universal principles of modern civilized women's social communication. Mastering this general principle can make the interpersonal relationship around us more harmonious, life better and career smoother.