But after a relationship has passed the initial passionate period, how should we deal with feelings whose freshness is gradually fading and tends to be dull?
explore the novelty from the inside rather than the outside
farewell wins new love, and distance produces beauty
awaken feelings through recalling events
*** Learning and growth
l Explore the novelty from the inside rather than the outside
There is a particularly good saying about love:
"Love is not about experiencing the same thing with all kinds of people, but with the same person.
Everyone has a period of burnout. When one day you find that being dull with people around you is like touching your right hand, don't go outside to look for freshness from others, but explore freshness from within your relationship.
The reason why most people are dull is that they live a constant life at 3.1 every day, not to mention ordinary people. Would you feel bored if you replaced your partner with Lin Chi-ling Eddie Peng Yuyan?
So, break the routine and do something you haven't done or visited.
For example, when two people are free, they can go to the newly opened interesting shops in the city together, attend some underground concerts and interesting exhibitions, hold a photo contest with only two people in the garden near their home, discover the beauty of life together, or exchange identities, play each other, talk from each other's point of view and get along with each other in a weekend.
Don't stay at home just because you are lazy, and live an ordinary life just like usual. Don't put off making changes, just do what you think, and you will get results.
You will find that even if you break the unchangeable life rule only once a week, there will be unspeakable and wonderful changes in your feelings for both of you.
l a little parting wins a new love, and distance produces beauty.
after a pair of lovers' feelings are stable, if they choose to live together, the sense of distance and mystery between them will suddenly disappear, and all the disguises at the beginning of the previous relationship will be broken in a short time.
Two people will quickly set foot on the old couple's life group at the speed of light, and insipid and boring is often the biggest characteristic theme of this life group.
When you wake up one morning and look at the person around you, you feel a sense of fatigue as if you have been married for more than ten years, you should actually take the initiative to create some mystery and distance.
One of the two people can stay at a trusted friend's house, or go back to his own house for a period of time, which can be about 7 days.
During these seven days, two people can send messages and communicate by phone as if they were just beginning to fall in love, but they should also leave enough private space for each other, so that it is meaningful to live separately for a short time.
When the separation time is over, two people can go to a romantic restaurant to have dinner together on the same day, and then they can stay in a hotel without going home. This process will definitely make their feelings look brand-new.
l awaken feelings by recalling events
this method is more suitable for couples who have been together for more than two years to try.
When two people first get together, the feeling of ambiguity and heartache between them is very beautiful, but after a long time together, daily necessities have filled their lives and hearts, and they often forget how romantic and exciting the other person used to be.
Therefore, to return to the early stage of love is to awaken the feelings once by recalling events and re-color the current emotional relationship.
Two people can recall in detail the places they first saw, the scenes of the first date, the clothes they wore on the first date, what they said, the topics they talked about, the songs they sang for the first time ... Find a day off and reproduce these elements of memory, although at first you will feel that everything is known. Will it be a bit boring?
But after doing it, our mood and feelings for each other at that time will be awakened, and the feeling of freshness and heartbeat will come back a lot. This is the operation of awakening feelings by recalling events.
l *** is the same as learning and growing
both emotional benefits and growth benefits are particularly great for two people.
One of the important factors for the loss of novelty in love is that * * * the same topic becomes less.
two people have been together for too long, and they have talked about everything they need to talk about. Life doesn't have a story worth talking about every day like a TV series, so of course it will feel nothing new.
So, if time permits, two people can learn a new knowledge and skill together.