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The principle of making friends
Chapter 24

Ceng Zi said: "A gentleman makes friends with words and helps others with kindness."

Ceng Zi: Zeng Shen was born in Wucheng (now Pingyi and Jiaxiang in Shandong Province). At the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, a thinker, master of Confucianism, little Confucius was 46 years old, one of his disciples in his later years, an important representative of Confucianism, and a descendant of Yu Xia.

? His father, Ceng Dian, named Xi, was one of the seventy-two sages, and his son had studied under Confucius. The Confucian thought centered on filial piety and faithfulness advocated by Ceng Zi, with its political views of "self-cultivation, keeping the family in harmony and governing the country", self-cultivation and filial piety-oriented, still has extremely valuable social significance and practical value.

? Ceng Zi participated in the compilation of The Analects of Confucius, the writing of Daxue, The Book of Filial Piety, Ten Articles of Ceng Zi and other works.

? In the sixth year of King Gao of Zhou (435 BC), Ceng Zi died at the age of 7 1 year. Ceng Zi occupies an important position in the development history of Confucianism. Later generations honored him as "Zongsheng" and became one of the four well-deserved partners of Confucius Temple, second only to Yan Yuan, who was "restored to sainthood".

Friends: Comrades are friends. If you know each other, from the second, "you" stands for hand, and they will become friends. Oracle Bone Inscriptions and Jin Wen put their hands together, indicating that they would work with like-minded people.

? Friends can be nouns or verbs, such as Xunzi-evil nature: "Choose good and be friends." The former friend is a noun, and the latter friend is a verb, indicating making friends.

Friends will also show friendliness and intimacy. Such as "friendly" and "friendly". It also refers to "friendly relations", such as friendly troops and friends. The "friends" mentioned now can be referred to as "friends" for short.

? In ancient times, friends and friends had different meanings. There is a saying in the Book of Rites: "Friends are friends of the same family, and comrades are friends". That is, people from the same teacher are called friends, and like-minded people are called friends. In other words, classmates call friends and comrades call friends.

? The original meaning of a friend is a monetary unit, a friend is five strings of money, and later it refers to a noble person. "Friends" generally refer to friends who help each other with "friends" and belong to close friends. All the friends in The Analects of Confucius mean this.

? You is also the surname of China people. "A Survey of Surnames" says: "You is the first friend after Lu Gongzi." The "friends" in this article refer to like-minded people.

Auxiliary: people drive cars. Pictophonetic characters, sounds from cars. The original meaning of auxiliary means that in order to increase the load of automobile spokes, two straight trees are tied outside the wheel to clamp the wheel hub. Such as "Lu Chunqiu's Complete Training": if the car is supplemented.

? Auxiliary extension refers to helping, assisting from the side, etc. , such as tutoring, assisting, such as "Poetry Xiaoya Zhengmu": Although its car is loaded, it is abandoned.

? When used as a noun, it also refers to Sasuke. Such as "Sun Tzu's plan to attack": the husband will be Kuninosuke. Auxiliary also refers to places near the capital, such as Jifu.

? Auxiliary also refers to cheeks and cheekbones, such as "auxiliary car dependence" and "auxiliary car dependence", which means that cheekbones and gums are interdependent, which means that they are inseparable and interdependent, similar to "the lips are dead and the teeth are cold".

? Benevolence means assisting and helping to cultivate benevolence. Yanhe's Xieji quoted Kong Anguo as saying: "Friends learn from each other, so they help to become their own benevolent people."

? Jin Gehong's Bao Puzi Newsletter: "The marriage of good friends is the avenue to help others, and those who reach it know what it is." Now many schools and hospitals are named after "Fu Ren".

? Fu is also a Chinese surname, Fu, Ji and Jin. This Xun family is also a wise family because it eats the city and is wise. Wisdom fruit with Zhi Bo headstrong will die, its zong don't supplemented.

The full text is understood as:

? Ceng Zi said: "A gentleman takes articles and knowledge as his friends and relies on his friends to help him cultivate benevolence."

? This chapter is about making friends. Ceng Zi believes that the study and cultivation of Benevolence is mainly based on teachers, supplemented by friends. So it is important to make friends.

? Confucius said, "The loser has three friends, and the winner has three friends." A good friend helps benevolence, but a bad friend harms benevolence.

? There is a saying in the Book of Rites: "It is good to meet each other, which is called friction." Among them, "caring for each other, caring for each other" means that teachers, classmates and friends inspire each other, which can make up for the shortcomings, make up for each other's weaknesses, broaden their horizons and broaden their knowledge.

"Xue Ji" also said: "If you study alone without friends, you will be ignorant." It means that learning must interact with classmates to learn from each other and promote each other.

? Therefore, the ancients attached importance to "learning from friends." Because classmates and friends can "care for each other, care for each other", learn from each other, learn from each other, and make friends with each other.

On the contrary, it is "learning alone without friends." A person who meditates without discussing the problem will become a frog in the well over time.

Make friends to prevent "Yan Peng" and "brilliant blue", don't make improper friends casually, and don't cling to improper behavior between friends, which will violate the teacher's teaching and waste your studies.

? Zhu commented: "if you make friends by speaking, you will gain insight;" If you help others with kindness, you will advance in virtue. "

"Four Books Collection" says: This chapter is an example of Ceng Zi gaining the benefits of his friends. Mortal learning must be a prophet. When you know it, you must do it. All because of good friends.

A gentleman is a friend, not just a friend, or you can learn the ancient sage's way through poetry books, or you can learn the truth from today. If they have, they will learn from each other. If you are always kind, you will persuade each other. If you encourage the importance of your body and mind, you will learn from it and make progress in virtue.

? Zhang said, "A friend of a gentleman must read the books of the world in words, or read the books of the world, to test the achievements of sages, or to convince people by reasoning", so that every time he meets, he can make it clear and gain something, so that he will not meet in vain.

Modern people basically no longer make friends with literature, but make friends with cocktail parties, talk about Kan Kan on the wine table, call names, and forget who is who after drinking. Even after drinking, they encouraged each other to do dirty things, let alone help their friends. So sad!

light in the box

When it comes to meeting friends in Israel, the most famous thing in history is the "Lanting Gathering".

? On the third day of March in the ninth year of Yonghe in the Eastern Jin Dynasty (AD 353), Wang Xizhi, a famous scholar in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, invited many friends and younger generations to get together at the Lanting Pavilion in Huiji Mountain to enjoy the scenery, drink wine and write poems, and compiled the Preface to Lanting Collection (also known as Lanting Elegant Collection).

China once said, "On February 2nd, the dragon looked up; On March 3rd, XuanYuanSheng ". On this day every year, Chinese descendants from all over the world come to xinzheng city, the hometown of the Yellow Emperor, to seek roots and worship their ancestors.

? This day is also the third festival in ancient times, and it is the most important festival held by the ancients in the activities of "bathing" and "repairing". The ancients often washed in Donghe on the first day of the third month of the lunar calendar (the third day of March in the Three Kingdoms period) in order to wash away bad luck and seek blessing.

However, after the development, the blessing color of the "Xiuze" activity in March gradually faded, and entertainment became the main purpose. People often invite like-minded people to climb mountains and get together by the water at the beginning of late spring, which is similar to the nature of the current "outing" activities.

In The Analects of Confucius, it is recorded that "people in late spring have taken spring clothes, five or six crowns, and six or seven boys, bathing in interpretation, dancing in the wind and singing home" is this scene.

? The song "March 3" sings: "It's March 3 again, and kites are flying all over the sky."

? March 3rd is also a traditional festival for many ethnic minorities in southern China. The content is different. The Zhuang people, also called "Song Xian Festival", catch up with the Song Festival and hold a Song Festival on this day. Dong people, also known as "Fireworks Festival", are characterized by grabbing fireworks and bullfighting. In the Li nationality, in order to wish "mountain orchid" (mountain upland rice) and hunting a double harvest festival.

Wang Xizhi, known as the "book saint", was born in a famous family, but he was straightforward and free and easy. He is not interested in official affairs, but likes to live in seclusion. In his spare time, he climbs mountains and writes poems with local celebrities.

Contemporary celebrities roaming Huiji Mountain with Wang Xizhi include Xie An, Sun Chuo, Xu Xun and others. The biography of Wang Xizhi in the Book of Jin said: "Huiji has beautiful mountains and rivers, and there are many celebrities. Xie An will live without being an official. Sun Chu, Li Chong, Xu Xun, Zhi Dun, etc. They are all famous for their literary significance, and they are as good as Xi. "

? In Yonghe nine years, Lanting gathered unprecedented scale, famous artists gathered, and more than 40 participants. They expressed their love for mountains and rivers, poems and wine, and drank and wrote poems in an interesting way.

? Participants sit on both sides of the winding water, put their glasses on a small "boat" and go downstream. When they stop in front of anyone, they must take a glass of wine and improvise poems. If you can't write a poem, you will be fined three cups.

The rule of writing poetry is to treat everyone as a poem of four or five words. According to Poems of the Pre-Qin and Han Dynasties, eleven people, including Wang Xizhi, Xie An and Sun Chuo, each wrote four or five words. Tan and other fifteen people, or four words, or five words, each with one person. As for those who didn't answer the poem, they were only fined three glasses of wine.

? Thirty-seven poems were created at the party, and Wang Xizhi compiled them into Preface to Lanting Collection as a souvenir. The content of Lanting's poems is nothing more than chanting the beauty of Lingshan's beautiful water and the joy of poetry and wine.

? For example, in Wang Xizhi's five-character poem, "Although there is no silk and bamboo, the sound of Xuanquan is clear. Although there is no whistling and singing, there is a fragrance between the lines, which embodies an aesthetic pleasure of advocating nature; In his four-character poem, "I am glad this late spring, I am gentle." "Dancing for others, sharing different worlds" is to bring the entertainment of landscape into full play. "

? There are also Hyunri's poems expressed through landscapes, such as Xie An's "Everything lives together, and happiness makes you feel sad", which shows that everything is round and muddy.

? Wang Xizhi prefaced the Preface to Lanting Collection with excellent literature for this gathering, and his achievements were higher than the poetry itself. The first half of this preface summarizes the grand occasion of the party clearly, while the second half touches the scene and feels the shortness of life, which makes people think deeply.

? The gathering of Lanting profoundly influenced the life purport of China literati, and poetry paved the way for the rise of landscape poetry.

Preface to Lanting Collection:

? Yonghe nine years, aged in Guichou, will gather in Lanting to repair things in late spring and early spring. A group of smart people never miss, but some of them are long and salty.

? There are mountains, lush forests and bamboos here, and there are also clear currents, which are reflected from left to right, thinking that the flow is winding, followed by yourself. Although it is not as prosperous as the string of silk and bamboo, it is enough to love.

Today is a sunny day, sunny and sunny. Looking up at the size of the universe and overlooking the richness of categories is enough to be extremely entertaining. I believe in cola.

Ladies, lifelong pitch. Or arm in arm and realize the words of a room; Let the waves go because of the entrustment. Although the fun is different, the calmness is different. When it is happy with what it meets, it will gain something from itself for the time being and will soon be self-sufficient without knowing the coming of old age; What he is tired of is that his feelings are advancing with the times and his feelings are sentimental.

? I'm glad that between pitches, this has become a thing of the past. I still want to live happily, the situation will be very short, and finally it will be over! The ancients said, "Life and death are great." It hurts!

Every time we look at the reasons for the excitement of the ancients, if we unite, we will not be without sorrow, and we can't compare it to something in our chests. Knowing that a dead life is a false birthday and the destruction of Peng Qi is a mistake. Looking back today is still looking back on the past, sad husband! Therefore, as soon as people go public, they record what they say. Although the world is different, they are happy and they are one. Later visitors will also be impressed by Sven.