The most obvious feature of childhood children in making friends is the gang phenomenon in making friends, which shows that 6 or 7 children often associate and play together. In this communication, children feel free and happy physically and mentally. Therefore, as far as the way of making friends is concerned, primary school is the age of cliques. In the senior grade of primary school, this form of making friends reached its peak, and then it gradually disintegrated and was replaced by new forms of communication. After entering adolescence, junior high school students show a lot of psychological anxiety and anxiety. They need a place where they can talk about their troubles, exchange ideas and keep secrets, but the gang form of making friends does not have this function. Therefore, the range of their friends is gradually narrowing, and the best friends of junior high school students are generally only one or two. Their criteria for choosing friends mainly include the following aspects: ① having the same interests and pursuits; 2 have the same pain and trouble; ③ Have similar personalities; 4 can understand each other in many ways. Friends of junior high school students are generally of the same sex. At this stage, the relationship between friends is also very close, and the established friendship is relatively stable and lasting.

Friendship is becoming more and more important in junior high school students' life.

The friendship between friends in junior high school is more straightforward and easier to observe than that between friends of all ages in the future. The friendship between boys is stronger, while the friendship between girls is softer and more delicate. The friendship of junior high school students is very important for developing their psychological level and emotional stability. With friends, they will show more enthusiasm, enthusiasm, confidence and courage, and better develop various social skills.

Relationship with friends of the opposite sex

In infancy and childhood, children's communication is generally neutral, and boys and girls often play together. Even sometimes gender separation is not caused by gender consciousness itself, but by differences in interests.

After entering junior high school, the relationship between boys and girls presents new characteristics. Both sides began to realize the gender problem and gradually became interested in each other. But in the initial stage, their interest in the opposite sex is in the opposite way, or they show an indifferent attitude in front of the opposite sex students; Or show contempt for students of the opposite sex in words and deeds; Or attack each other in an unfriendly way. In short, on the surface, they are not close, but mutually exclusive. By junior high school, boys and girls gradually began to get along well. Moreover, in the hearts of some boys and girls, there will be a friend of the opposite sex whom they like. The survey shows that girls are generally more likely to have a good impression on natural, friendly, not rude and energetic boys; Boys are generally attracted to good-looking, elegant and lively girls. But boys and girls generally don't disclose this kind of emotion. In many cases, this is just a permanent secret. Because, with the passage of time, with their development and maturity in all aspects, with the constant change and adjustment of values, this emotion generated in junior high school is likely to gradually fade away or even disappear completely. Therefore, the love between boys and girls in junior high school is very immature, has no solid foundation, is rarely maintained, and eventually develops into love and marriage. But as long as it is handled properly and controlled within a fairly limited degree, this feeling is also meaningful. When a junior high school student likes a classmate of the opposite sex, he (she) naturally hopes that the other person can accept him (her), so that he (she) can improve himself as much as possible according to the standards of a good teenager, thus promoting all aspects of development. But if this relationship continues indefinitely, it will hinder the normal progress of junior high school students.