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People are as light as chrysanthemums, and their minds are as simple as Jane.
I'm a little ignorant. The first time I read the origin of "people are as light as chrysanthemums", it turned out to be such a wonderful essay Elegance in Si Tukong's Twenty-four Poems.

the jade pot buys spring and enjoys the rain.

Sit in the Zhong Jiashi, and trim the bamboo on the left and right.

White clouds and Chu Qing, birds are chasing each other.

the sleeping piano is green and shaded, with waterfalls on it.

when a flower falls silent, people are as pale as chrysanthemums.

when a book is old, it is readable.

people are as light as chrysanthemums, which is a calm and simple state of mind. The ancients often used "Mei Lan Zhu Ju" as a metaphor for the "proud and quiet" character. The faint fragrance of chrysanthemum and the character of Ao Shuang are the qualities that many literati persistently pursue.

people are as light as chrysanthemums, and their minds are as simple as modest gentlemen, and their contacts are as light as white water.

friends are very important and indispensable people in our lives. A good friend is like entering the room of Zhilan. "Traveling with a gentleman is like entering Lanzhi's room. If you don't smell it for a long time, you will melt with it."

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So, what kind of people can make friends?

Confucius put forward three principles of making friends: being straightforward, understanding and hearing more.

A friend is a friend who is honest and dares to point out your shortcomings.

We all hope to make such friends. Such friends are our mirrors, which can always remind us to grow up.

In the Eastern Zhou Dynasty, the story of the 23rd Sun Daisheng and He Wu, the monarch of Song Dynasty, is worthy of our future generations to follow.

In his early years, Dai Sheng and his uncle, Dade, devoted themselves to the study of etiquette, made outstanding achievements, and enjoyed high prestige in the ruling and opposition circles. However, as a representative figure of etiquette, Dai Sheng is a little proud of himself, informal, and even does something beyond the law and discipline from time to time. Because of Dai Sheng's fame and position, the former secretariat turned a blind eye to Dai Sheng's misconduct, and Dai Sheng became accustomed to nature and became more and more fierce.

Later, Dai Sheng took the post of Jiujiang satrap, while He Wu, who was only 3 years old, took the post of Yangzhou secretariat, which happened to be in charge of Jiujiang satrap. He Wu supervised Dai Sheng's misconduct without reservation according to his terms of reference. Dai Sheng doesn't give a damn about He Wu, a young man. He Wu secretly sent someone to verify his crime clearly, and then "exposed the chapter" to him, that is, deliberately revealed the evidence of the crime to him. Dai Sheng hates He Wu even more when he knows that his misconduct has been mastered by He Wu. Although He Wu didn't report Dai Sheng, Dai Sheng was worried that He Wu would report himself, so he resigned and went to Beijing to be a doctor. After arriving in Beijing, Dai Sheng was still jealous of He Wu, and lost no time to spread some bad words about He Wu in the imperial court.

Soon, Dai Sheng's son's guests colluded with outlaws to rob him, and his son was implicated in prison, captured by the government and detained in Lujiang. It was He Wu who handled this case. It's a narrow way to go. Dai Sheng thought that he would be retaliated for slandering He Wuding, and his son would definitely be sentenced to death. However, the result of the case was beyond Dai Sheng's expectation. He Wu did not care about personal grievances at all, dealt with the criminals involved in the case impartially, and acquitted Dai Sheng's son who did not participate in the case. Dai Sheng therefore admired He Wu's clear love and hatred and fair justice. As long as He Wu is in Beijing, he must visit him sincerely.

honest people deserve to make friends. Honest people are one of the necessary criteria for making friends.

Recently, a picture of a personal letter from Lu Yao was madly circulated in a circle of friends. This is a few words written by Lu Yao to his friends, and the general content is as follows:

Lu Yao not only warned his friends in this way, but also did it himself.

In addition, we should make more friends with people who are well-informed and have the same language. "If you take the law, you will get it." Friends should help each other, nourish each other, understand each other and communicate with each other to achieve the relationship of being a teacher and a friend.

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There should be boundaries between people, and so should friends. Distance makes beauty!

It is said that Chen Daoming, a famous artist, is very principled and has a sense of boundaries when interacting with friends. Once this person talks big or talks over my head in front of him, he will immediately stop and turn away.

The relationship between Wen Tianxiang, an ancient famous soldier, and his friend Li Zhi is even more "life and death, once in a thousand years."

This record says that in the first year of Xiangxing in the Southern Song Dynasty (1278), Wen Tianxiang led Song Jun to fight against Mengyuan. After his defeat, he was captured in Wupoling and escorted all the way north to Dadu (now Beijing). When Zhang Qianzai heard about it, Wen Tianxiang and his party passed through Jizhou, and asked to go to Dadu with Wen Tianxiang. After arriving in Dadu, Wen Tianxiang was put in prison, and Zhang Qianzai found a house nearby to stay. He often sent Wen Tianxiang the food he wanted to eat and served Wen Tianxiang for three years. He secretly prepared the coffin and coffin, and after being executed by Kublai Khan in Wen Tianxiang, he ventured to collect the body, and also found the skeleton of Mrs. Ouyang, who committed suicide in the captive camp, and brought it back to his hometown Jizhou and gave it to his family for burial. It is said that some poems written by Wen Tianxiang in prison were also secretly brought out by Zhang Qianzai, including the song "Zhengqi Song", which has been celebrated through the ages.

Zhang Qianzai is Wen Tianxiang's best friend and a fellow countryman of Wen Tianxiang. Wen Tianxiang was the top scholar later, and the official was the right prime minister, but Zhang Qianzai failed to get into Jinshi. Wen Tianxiang, of course, is well aware of this old classmate's talent, and has arranged for Zhang Qianzai to be an official with the qualification of a juren for many times. However, he "repeatedly made official appointments, but refused to be an official", and resolutely refused to rely on your old classmate's relationship to become an official. He has been working as a farmer in the village, and he has been living in poverty and happiness. However, when Wen Tianxiang was in trouble, Zhang Qianzai took the initiative to meet each other instead, and went to the trouble with him to make every effort to live and die. From this point of view, this thousand-year-old is not only a friend who has lived a life, but also his character is really amazing, which can be called just a thin cloud.

Zhang Qian-zai's sincere friendship with fellow villagers, classmates, and friends is really valuable in the ordinary social life where the world is cold, cronies collude and take advantage of it, often forget profit, turn against others, and throw stones when they are down, and all kinds of ordinary social life lose their moral bottom line!

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The society is complex and life is varied. You should be careful when making friends. Some people can't make friends.

Ji Xiaolan, a famous scholar in the Qing Dynasty, strictly stipulated "under the temptation" and "Four Suits" for his children in his family letters. "under the temptation" means abstaining from getting up late, laziness, luxury and pride. "Four Appropriate" means studying hard, respecting teachers, loving music groups and eating carefully. It can be described as well-intentioned.

Actually, since ancient times, fair-weather friends have been the most taboo in making friends. These people just eat, drink, and be merry, and they are unjust and honest, and they do all kinds of harm without any benefit.

Confucius said: In this world, there are three friends who benefit and three friends who lose; Friends are straightforward, friends forgive, and friends hear more, which is beneficial; Friends are biased, friendly and soft, and friends are foolish and harmful.

Therefore, we must be careful when making friends.

actually, what kind of friends you want to make, you must first become such a person. According to the law of attraction, plant a plane tree and the phoenix will fly.

people are as light as chrysanthemums, and their minds are as simple as Jane. Chrysanthemum, far considerable, near audible. Light taste, leisurely charm. I would rather hold the fragrant branches and grow old than dance with the yellow leaves in the autumn wind.

I wish you and me-people are as light as chrysanthemums and simple in mind!