Fifth grade student Bai Lu said she wanted to be a pen pal with Gan Xiaohua, and Gan Xiaohua left her his mailing address.

Quzhou Daily News on December 26th The story of three children on the 5th page of the daily newspaper on the 16th tells the voice of the children in the Kurdistan area - If I have a friend who can write letters.

In just one week, this voice aroused an enthusiastic response - children in the first grade of junior high school called and said that not only would they be pen pals with them, but they would also be invited to their homes as guests; Brothers and sisters in the workplace sent text messages, saying that they would write letters to their children and accompany them to grow up together; many parents and teachers called and said they were willing to make friends with their children, and that they would listen to their children and reply to their letters no matter how busy they were... …These loving feedbacks bring warmth to this cold winter.

Peers:

Let us share the joy of learning

The first person to call the reporter’s hotline was a junior high school student from Quzhou Huamao Foreign Languages ??School (3 ) class teacher Yao. He told reporters that after reading the report, many students in the class wanted to make pen pals with children in the mountains.

On the 19th, during the evening self-study time on Sunday, the reporter met two of the students in Teacher Yao’s office. They were two girls, one named Chen Qiqi and the other named Hong Xiaochen. Both of them are tall, thin, and very quiet.

Hong Xiaochen said that Xiaozhen in the report left a deep impression on her. Her grandmother's home is in Jucun Township, and she goes there every year during the Chinese New Year. The conditions in the mountains are difficult and there are no playmates, but Xiaozhen is so sensible and loves to learn. Chen Qiqi is the class monitor. Teacher Yao praises her for being calm and sensible. She has become friends with every new classmate not long after school started. Chen Qiqi said that she once had friends with whom she wrote letters, which was one of the few among her peers. Both girls said they wanted to make pen pals with their classmates from Jucun Township, introduce each other to their studies and life, and invite them to their homes during the holidays to read and write homework together. Moreover, both of their ideas have received support from their parents. During the interview, they carefully wrote down their home addresses and reminded reporters: "If you leave the school address, you will not receive letters during the winter and summer vacations."

Teacher Yao said that in fact, in the class There are about ten students who want to make pen pals. Chen Qiqi and Hong Xiaochen are the students with the most outstanding comprehensive performance, such as communicative ability and writing proficiency. I hope that as representatives of the first grade (3) class, they will become good friends with the children in the Kurdistan area.

Newcomers in the workplace:

Let me accompany them to grow up

Yu Han, born in 1987, is a newcomer to the workplace who just started working in July this year. She said her first feeling when she saw the report was incredible, because she didn't know there were such a group of suffering children around her. But she was soon moved by the simplicity and sensibleness of the mountain children. "I think children of their age must have many questions to ask. I am willing to be their friend, listen to their stories about cats and dogs fighting, and answer their various questions." Yu Han said.

Yu Han also told reporters about her personal experience. When she was in the fourth grade of elementary school, she paired up with a girl of the same age in the countryside. They usually exchange letters, and during winter and summer vacations, their parents will take them to study and live together. The girl's grades were very good and she often sent her certificates to Yu Han. Yu Han is both happy and secretly competitive every time he receives a certificate. The two of them keep up with each other in studies. It wasn't until her senior year of high school that the girl's grades suddenly dropped and she failed to get into a good university. The family considers that the financial burden of attending a third-rate university is too great, so the girl can only go out to work.

At that time, Yu Han also had a female classmate from a poor rural family. The college entrance examination scores are about the same as Yu Han's, but also because of financial reasons, he plans to give up going to college. After Yu Han's parents learned of the situation, they paid the tuition for the female classmate. She later graduated from college and is now a teacher. "In the most critical steps of life, if there is someone who can give me the right guidance, maybe everything will be better." Yu Han said that she and this friend have maintained close contact to this day.

Parents and teachers:

Treat them as your own children

Zhang Aizhen, who works at the Qujiang District Health Bureau, said when signing up for a pen pal activity with reporters , she was also a child in the Kurdistan area.

Zhang Aizhen’s hometown is Lingyang Township, where she lived before going to college. “When I was a child, I might have suffered more than children today, but I didn’t feel it at the time.

"Zhang Aizhen said that seeing those children now makes her heart suddenly feel sour. Especially with her own children as comparison, she feels even more sorry for the children in the Kurdistan area whose parents are not around.

Zhang Aizhen said that she I want to make a little pen pal, and I also want to try my best to provide some material help to the little pen pal, and treat him or her as my own child. At the same time, I also want to find a partner and role model for my 8-year-old son. Most of the children in the mountains are. The children of the poor are parents early, but most of the children in the city are raised in honey pots, so they are inevitably squeamish.

Qujiang District Youth League Committee:

Sent the first batch of envelopes and stamps to the children.

On December 21, the reporter accompanied Gan Xiaohua, deputy secretary of the Youth League Committee of Qujiang District, to the school again. Gan Xiaohua handed the first batch of 500 envelopes and 380 stamps to the principal Xu Zhibiao.

When the reporter took out the list of enthusiastic readers, Gan Xiaohua also took out a list. She told the reporter that after reading the children's voices in the newspaper, the Qujiang District Youth League Committee was very concerned and posted the report in various work QQ groups. As a result, many people responded. One teacher has been transferred to Hangzhou and asked to leave his mailing address. "We want to make a pen pal activity." An activity of the Chunni Project in Jiang District will be carried out for a long time. "Gan Xiaohua said.

Principal Xu Zhibiao said that he will hand over the list of enthusiastic readers to the class teachers and team counselors, so that the children can choose their own pen pals.

Reporter's Notes

As of the 22nd, the reporter *** received calls and text messages from more than 20 enthusiastic readers. At 9 o'clock on the 22nd, there was also a third-year junior high school student who called the reporter after finishing his evening self-study get out of class. The reporter was asked to write down his name and address, and to ensure that it would not affect his studies. A senior high school student sent text messages to the reporter many times, asking to make pen pals with the children in the reservoir area, and said that he had prepared many books for the children as gifts.

In addition, on the Internet, many members of the Quzhou Mental Health Volunteer Association asked to sign up and gave reporters a long list...

Lots of care, There is no time to record them one by one, so I can only roughly summarize them into three groups: peers, newcomers to the workplace, parents and teachers. I would like to invite representatives to speak.

Perhaps not everyone can receive the child’s letter and become a representative. My children’s pen pal. But I still want to thank you for your enthusiastic feedback and your selfless love.

Extension of the report

Experts have something to say

Avid reader: How should I make friends with my children?

Fang Shuisheng, an enthusiastic citizen from Changshan, called the newspaper the day after he saw the report. , hoping to make friends with the children in the reservoir area.

Mr. Fang briefly introduced himself and said that he once served as a soldier and now works at the Changshan County Power Supply Bureau. His daughter is studying in college in Shanghai. He likes to write and draw, and especially wants to pair up with children in the Kurdistan area and make pen pals. After receiving the reporter’s reply to his eager expression, Mr. Fang became a little worried: “How should I communicate with my children? It’s my first time to write a letter to him (her). ) What can I say? ”

In the more than 20 enthusiastic feedbacks received by the reporter, many readers expressed such worries and doubts, fearing that they would not do it properly and make their children feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable. Readers’ concerns There are probably the following categories of concerns:

First, what should I talk to my children after the first self-introduction? Will the children be willing to listen to what I say?

Yes? Readers with this kind of doubts are basically already working, or have no children, or their children have grown up, and they lack experience in dealing with children. They worry that they cannot find the same topic as their children. Over time, both parties will become confused. Lost interest and tired of coping.

Secondly, I want to give my pen pal something, such as clothes, shoes, school supplies, is it okay to ask this kind of question? Some of the readers have children, as well as parents. For example, Chen Qiqi and Hong Xiaochen want to send school supplies and books to the children in the reservoir area, while some parents want to give their children’s surplus daily necessities, school supplies, toys, etc. to their pen pals. They are also worried that this kind of gift will be regarded as charity and make the children feel uncomfortable.

Thirdly, I want to invite my pen pal to my house during the winter and summer vacations to do this. Is it appropriate?

Most readers who have this kind of idea are children and parents.

In addition to providing a better living environment for their children, they also hope that the children in the reservoir area can become truly familiar with and close to them. They also hope that their children can learn from the children in the reservoir area and know how to cherish their own study and life. Expert advice: Make friends carefully and let love flow forever

In response to these worries and doubts of readers, the reporter consulted Zhang Jianying, an expert in the educational psychology of teenagers in our city and a national second-level psychological counselor. She gave some suggestions based on her own educational experience and readers' concerns.

First of all, material support can bring you closer to your children.

The material conditions of children in the reservoir area are relatively poor. This is a reality that cannot be avoided and does not need to be avoided deliberately. It is a child’s nature to want to eat delicious food and play fun games. So if possible, give your child some snacks, toys, even old clothes, daily and school supplies, as long as the child needs it. Moreover, this kind of loving gift and support can win the goodwill of children and easily make two parties who were originally strangers get closer.

Secondly, the same focus in books, TV shows, etc. gives communication a carrier.

Many people think of books when choosing gifts for their children. This is indeed a very good gift. It not only gives children knowledge, but also provides a carrier for mutual communication. When writing letters to your children, talk about a book you both read, a movie, a TV show, or a sport or fashion star you both like, which can make your communication more interesting. Gotta have something to say.

Of course, when children write to you to share their thoughts after reading and watching, as an adult, it is best to carefully observe the children's emotions and thoughts, and provide some positive and optimistic guidance in a timely manner.

Again, let both families become familiar with each other.

Some readers want to invite their children to play at home during winter and summer vacations. It should be said that this is a very good idea. The children in the reservoir area live in mountains and the environment is relatively closed. If we can give children the opportunity to contact and experience the outside world, it can enrich their knowledge and make their aspirations and plans for the future rich and real.

Before that, a suggestion is to ask your family members to write letters to your children as well. For example, when mothers and children make pen pals and write letters, they occasionally let fathers and children join in and write letters to the children. In this way, the children have communication with everyone in the family and become familiar with each other, so they will not feel restrained when they visit the family again.

In addition, you should also let the children's parents get to know you and your family. This will not only reassure the parents, but also help form a joint force to jointly care for and educate the children.

What needs special attention is that when some children express complaints about their parents working outside or their parents beating and scolding, we must speak for the parents and let the children understand their parents' painstaking efforts. Afterwards, you can communicate with the child's parents about the education method.

Finally, with a warm heart, let love flow.

Making friends with children requires fate, but also lasting love and patience. It cannot be based on temporary interest and enthusiasm. Letters full of warmth will be kept as treasures and recalled over and over again.

I hope that all pen pals can fill their stationery with words of encouragement, pass on the warm friendship, and let the water of love flow endlessly.