I'm glad someone saw through my true colors. I was too tired to pretend.
On the surface, it seems that the protagonist is a little disappointed and helpless because he was seen through by everyone, but my feeling at that time was that the protagonist had an unprecedented ease!
When I read that sentence, I suddenly felt a sense of awakening the dreamer.
We may encounter this kind of person-flattery in our daily life or work.
In their eyes, this may be a very effective social way, but people other than you really seldom "cherish" this "low-profile humility".
Just like those words that are said against one's will every time we meet, only to please each other, it makes us feel very uncomfortable.
or deliberately do something out of place in order to get closer to each other.
and those who try to make the other person accept themselves quickly and then smoothly integrate into the other person's circle without sacrificing their dignity to please each other.
In others' eyes, you may be regarded as a "clown" who plays a role of pleasing the audience on a stage that does not belong to him.
I think.
making friends is nothing more than finding someone who appreciates each other, makes progress together and makes each other extremely comfortable.
But if you take the so-called appreciation, habitual subtle form of flattery that makes the other party extremely uncomfortable.
congratulations, you have lost your original self. Nor does it reflect my own value.
tell me about my own personal feelings.
my usual personality belongs to that kind of quiet. But just before I was going to practice, I began to look at myself silently in my heart.
should I go to work to make myself more lively in order to get in touch with my colleagues more easily?
Because a person's personality is gradually formed according to his long-term living environment, it also takes time to change, so I am trying to "disguise".
But before the flame trying to "disguise" lit, I silently doused it.
at the moment when I tried to "disguise", I seemed to want to be the real me more.
So, I gave up pretending to be myself.
don't please others in the world, let yourself live in compromise!
after I came to work, I was still very quiet.
But the fact is not as bad as I feared before. My quiet personality did not affect my contact and communication with my colleagues, but we got along very comfortably during that time.
that comfort comes from the fact that I finally became the truest myself. .
So, whenever we are, we should be our truest selves, and we can really learn to make progress while appreciating others correctly. Instead of losing your original unique self to please others.
I remember a fable I learned before-"Walking in Handan":
There was a teenager in Shouling, Yan State, who heard that people in Handan walked beautifully, so he rushed to Handan to learn the walking method from others.
However, after years of tossing, he not only failed to master the unique walking skills of Handan people, but also forgot his original walking steps, so he had to crawl home.
This fable tells us:
We shouldn't blindly copy mechanically and deliberately imitate others. Doing things that don't suit us will only backfire and even lose our original skills.
It is worthy of recognition to be diligent in learning from others, but learning must proceed from reality, absorb the advantages of others and make up for your own shortcomings, instead of flattering others just to please them blindly.
Just like the silent confession.
"All my life is to get rid of the expectations of others and find my true self"? .
There is a poem by Li Bai, which is circulated by future generations: "since heaven gave the talent, let it be employed!, spin a thousand pieces of silver, all of them come back!." As long as you are born in this world, you must have a role.
It is because the young eagle is the truest self that it can become an eagle that flies for nine days and fights the sky. It is precisely because the saplings are their truest selves that they can become magnificent and tall, with a thousand-year-old trees covered with green trees.
If you compare a person to a tree that always bows to others and flatters others, it will form a crooked "low-key", which will do harm to yourself, make you drift with the flow and make it difficult to achieve yourself.
Living in this vast world, everyone is ordinary, but it is important that we have the courage to live.
face yourself bravely instead of pretending to be what others like every day.
Don't be a clown, please be yourself.
* * with you.
above, good night.