Appearance and Soul

There are very few people in the world who don’t care about their appearance at all.

Generally speaking, young people care more than older people. Young people are still new to the world, so they inevitably value the shallower aspects of interpersonal relationships and pay attention to other people's superficial impressions of themselves, so they are also more sensitive to appearance. Compared with caring about reputation, caring about appearance is more of a kind of vanity, because appearance is further away from a person's true value than reputation.

Modern plastic surgery can transform one face into another, but underneath the new skin is still the same old person. Without a mirror, a person cannot see his own appearance, and often cannot remember his own appearance, but this does not prevent him from doing anything. The mirror represents the eyes of others. When a person looks in the mirror, he is looking at himself through the eyes of others. Therefore, what he actually cares about is what others think of him. Vanity is inevitable. It is easy to grow old in life, but beauty is difficult to last. This is a law that no one can escape. Fortunately, most people will gradually adjust their psychology as they age and overcome their vanity in appearance. In fact, at different ages, the content of appearance is changing, and people's feelings and evaluations of appearance are also changing accordingly.

For example, all dolls in the world are equally cute, with a beauty similar to that of small animals, with childish expressions, delicate skin, and naive movements. The beauty of boys and girls is filled with the same youthful vitality, but we can already find that some of them are more attractive because of the excellent personalities they are developing. Regarding the appearance of an adult, we generally do not give high evaluation to the structure of the facial features and the texture of the skin, but pay more attention to the spiritual connotation displayed. Schopenhauer said: "A person's appearance is a picture of the inner heart, and the appearance expresses and reveals the person's entire character."

Over a long period of time, a person's usual mental state and behavior It is always accompanied by expressions that he is not aware of. After countless repetitions, these expressions will be engraved on his face and even leave special wrinkles. What is even more difficult to hide is the eyes. A person with an empty heart will never be able to pretend to be wise. We've all probably met people like that, whose vulgarity is immediately apparent, as if it's written on their faces. Similarly, when we face Einstein's portrait, even if we have not read his works, we can judge that he is a wise man from his tolerance, humor, and slightly sad expression. Interestingly, the Chinese sage Confucius and the Western sage Socrates were both extremely strange-looking people, but history has not left any record of people thinking they were ugly.

You will find that what is truly attractive about a person’s appearance are those factors that reveal spiritual qualities such as wisdom, virtue, education, and personality. Therefore, wise people choose to follow the arrangements of nature and harvest different fruits in different seasons.

On Appearance Text / tutu

A person’s appearance is always innate. Even if you are dissatisfied with your appearance, it is difficult to change it. Despite this, many people still try to change their appearance, probably because the quality of a person's appearance, the so-called beauty and ugliness, affects our own and other people's lives to a greater or lesser extent.

When a person is born, he cannot choose whether he looks beautiful or ugly. However, in the eyes of the world, appearance is the first rule to gain an impression of the other person. The so-called judging people by appearance, the most important thing is appearance. When two people meet, the first thing they look at is the appearance of the other person. If they are more beautiful, they will naturally have more favorable impressions in their hearts. If they are uglier, they will unconsciously lose their favorable impressions of the other person. Chinese people often say, "Don't hurt someone's face by hitting them, don't expose their shortcomings by scolding them." This shows that Chinese people attach great importance to appearance. Although we always say not to judge a book by its cover, first impression is always important. Judging people by their appearance is also a subconscious ability in everyone. It is unconscious and comes from the heart, and requires efforts to overcome it.

In fact, the beauty or ugliness of a person's appearance itself has its own serious unfairness. When emperors in ancient China selected beauties, they first selected the so-called beauties who looked like gods, and then looked at other factors. The so-called "sinking fish and falling geese" beauties must have very outstanding looks, right? How else could it make countless emperors obsessed with it? During the Qianlong reign, He Shen was said to be a "beautiful man" with excellent looks, and thus he was favored by Qianlong. To the point of overwhelming power. There are also examples of people being turned away or even thousands of miles away because of their appearance.

Didn't the famous Wang Zhaojun of the Han Dynasty fail to enter the palace because he offended the painter and had a mole randomly painted on him for no reason? The most famous one is Pang Tong, the "phoenix child" during the Three Kingdoms period. Although he is as famous as Zhuge Liang, due to his serious congenital deficiencies and ugly appearance, when Zhuge Liang recommended him to Liu Bei, Liu Bei only made him a small county magistrate.

Throughout ancient Chinese history, from the emperor’s queens and concubines to Wu Zetian’s male favorites, although there are many people who look like gods, there are also those who harm the country and the people. Daji in the Shang Dynasty ruined the country, and later Xi Shi, Diao Chan, etc. even made the heroes on the battlefield bow. There were more such examples after the Tang and Song Dynasties. The most famous example was Li Shishi in the late Ming Dynasty, who made the "Chuang King" Li Zicheng lose his mind. Wu Sangui, who commanded hundreds of thousands of elite soldiers, was even more successful. He "turned into a beauty in anger" and introduced Qing soldiers into the pass. It accelerated the demise of the Ming Dynasty.

It can be seen that one cannot fully "understand" a person from his appearance. The words of Zhang Wuji's mother in the movie "The Legend of Heaven and the Dragon Slayer" are still fresh in my memory: "The more beautiful a woman is, the less trustworthy she is. Even men who seem to be loyal and good cannot be trusted." It can be seen that appearance can be confusing. To truly understand a person, you still have to see through the phenomena to see the essence, which is the so-called "heart-to-heart communication", right?

Recently, I read in the newspaper that a girl in Beijing wants to be China's first "artificial" beauty, and I can't help but sigh. It can be seen from this that from ancient times to the present, people's emphasis on appearance has not only not decreased, but has become more and more serious. But, I don’t know if this girl will recognize herself when she sees herself in the mirror after undergoing countless surgeries? What kind of mentality will it be? A person suddenly changes his appearance. Although he becomes beautiful, it really requires a strong psychological quality to be suitable immediately. I think the nouveau riche in the 1980s had this kind of mentality, right?

What I worry about is whether people will lose themselves while transforming themselves? !

Saturday, December 20, 2003

Appearance Phrases

People who are naturally beautiful tend to be troubled by nature. Because she was admired by others, thousands of eyes were loaded with bullets, shooting straight at her, making her feel good about herself and feeling embarrassed all the time. She often has to endure extra trouble and entanglement because she was born beautiful without her own efforts. People feel that it is unfair and will use other means to equalize. If she gets married according to traditional requirements, her beauty and beauty will be objectively monopolized by a man and will be protected by the law. Some people are bound to be jealous of this monopoly and attack it. Jealous people will say that it is not our fault because you are naturally beautiful and have not fulfilled the responsibilities of your talents. The attacker will say that beauty belongs to all human beings and you cannot devote yourself to just one person. Your man only has priority and should not have a monopoly. The so-called beauty has a bad life is due to this rule.

Due to the effect of beauty, the vanity of beautiful women will be enhanced. Too much vanity will occupy the place where "talent" is stored, so some people say that it is difficult for beautiful women to become talents. How many female movie stars in modern times can write well? Vanity will also make a beautiful woman's feelings very fragile and unable to withstand the wind and rain. In the event of setbacks and devastation, everyone is familiar with the story of a famous female star committing suicide. Some characters are prone to the danger of abnormality, and are often aggrieved by being bullied. They often feel that they cannot find anyone who pleases them, and they often feel that their talents are not appreciated and their beauty is not tolerated. At this time, she became withdrawn, and she even tended to regard other people's concern as deliberate ridicule. She was most afraid of falling from her beautiful vantage point, which would be extremely painful. The accumulation of talents caused by beauty is insufficient. Once beauty, which is a special skill, fails, she will have nothing to do. There are also beauties who are imaginative. They can also live a free and easy life and have their way in society. But then people say that you have turned bad, which is another heavy pressure. It will make her feel tragic and feel that society is unfair to her. But who can tell whether this kind of gain and loss is natural fairness?

People who are born ugly are often born with pain. Because she was unnoticed, she often had to endure more loss and loneliness. Only by giving more and being a better person can she gain people's attention and respect. Her feet are on the ground, and even if she falls, she can easily get up without any harm.

So ugliness cultivates resilience. She is strong-willed, down-to-earth, hard-working, and can withstand wind and waves, so there are many ugly women among talented women. The so-called "too many ugly women" is relative to beautiful women, which means that beautiful women are not without talents. People say that without virtue is talent. This lack of virtue is related to lack of appearance. If you don’t believe me, just look at it. With beauty, her every move will be attractive and flirtatious, and she will win praises if she smiles a little. If she helps others a little, she will be grateful, for fear of offending her beautiful body. If she does a little good, she will think that she is a gift from God and a goddess descended to earth. Therefore, "virtue" will appear in the mountains and dews, so if you have virtue, you will lack talent. She is unsmiling, she is not willing to help others, and she does not want to make a difference. That is because she does not know how to use her "virtue". And if you have no appearance, and you try your best to laugh with others, they will say you are being sentimental and disgusting; if you actively help others, people will take it for granted; if you make a difference, people will say you are helpless and forced. Then what kind of "virtue" is there? And usually there are always people who think so, so what can you do? Hence the famous saying "No virtue is talent", which has some comforting elements.

Only people at the middle level live a free and easy life, have both left and right sides, are flexible up and down, and can advance and retreat freely. When people tell you that you are beautiful, just say casually, "Don't laugh at me. I am very ordinary. In fact, you feel very comfortable in your heart." When people say you are ugly, you have the confidence in your heart and there is no need to worry about your appearance. If you work hard at the middle level, dress up a little, and your beauty will show up, even if you don't get a higher return rate, there will be no problem in being steady and medium-sized. But when people go to higher places, water flows to lower places. There are also some people who always feel that they should be born beautiful, but they just can’t compare to others? I feel that it is not beautiful to have an imitation of the Eastern frown, but I am not a Easterner; indeed, it is beautiful to have a Western frown. We do not have high requirements for beauty, we just want to look good. So he spent a lot of money on beauty treatments. He was beautiful for a while, and his heart was at ease, but he also thought that Xi Shi was reincarnated. When I spent enough money and my face was satisfied, I suddenly realized that beauty is like taking drugs. This drug is very enjoyable, but there is no financial support. Once you stop smoking, you will be accompanied by snot and saliva. And this beauty treatment all depends on economic exchange. Once it stops, the black spots of "capitalism" will be restored. If she is a beauty, she is beautiful in nature, and with a little more "appearance", her beauty will shine out. Even if you stop beautifying and return to your true nature at best, your beauty will still be real. If you are not beautiful in nature, you have worked hard in a circle and become tired, your original appearance is not preserved, and your good looks are not retained, you will only be further away from beauty. A woman with a good figure wears thin cicada wings, which makes her look elegant and graceful; while a plump and plump man also wears this dress, where is the beauty? Dong Shi Xiaoqian is so embarrassing, and there is nothing that can be done about it. Ordinary people, fellow ugly women, please pay close attention to skin care, don't believe in beauty, and don't imitate red clothing. Otherwise, your wallet will be flat, your mood will be depressed, and no one in the world will sympathize with your kindness.

Only the beauty and the commonness set off the beauty and delicacy. Without generalized ordinary, there would be no specialized beauty. Although beautiful people are naturally troubled, if beautiful people take care of themselves and do not use their beauty as capital, but treat ordinary people with an equal attitude, then normality will bring you peace, humility will bring you respect, and no talent will be the same. It can show your virtue. The suffering of ugly people is also natural, but if ugly people clearly understand their own talents and virtues, and do not feel inferior because of their ugliness, but actively exchange for gains, then if nature does not gift you, you will enrich yourself, and the beauty of your talents will also be Unmatched by others.

The appearance and the principles are similar, and the principles of life are similar. There must be a contrast in the operation of life between high and low social status; in good times and bad times in life, the emotions and psychology are very different. People in high positions are coveted, while low positions are looked down upon by others; people are proud of themselves in good times, but bumpy in times of adversity. But there is a difference between being a human being and being beautiful. Beauty is natural, but the emperor and general Xiang Ning have the kind? Beauty is given from nature and cannot be refreshed the day after tomorrow; status is an acquired variable, but everyone should make progress. However, those who are afraid of heights are not allowed to join, those with evil intentions are not allowed to join, and those who are lazy are not included in this category. Otherwise, if a person without talent or virtue falls down, he or she will suffer a bruised nose and swollen face, or his body will suddenly die. When you are in a high position, you should not be arrogant; when you are in a low position, you should "never forget to worry about the country." You should not be arrogant in good times and not discouraged in adversity.

The word "natural" mentioned in this article takes its regular meaning. A common phrase, "appearance" touches all the upper, middle and lower levels, and the big topic of "being a human being" is also mentioned. Of course, it does not reach the true meaning of the law. However, the golden mean, made in China, is omnipotent and has been tested in everything. Please understand it for yourself.

Author Xie Longyan

Editor Zhu Ruqun