1, control emotions with wisdom
Fairness, dissatisfaction and unfairness should also try to calm themselves down first. Maybe you have accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction, but at this time you can't shake it out, but you have to put the problem straight. Being too emotional will not clearly explain your reasons, and it will also make the other person mistakenly think that you are dissatisfied with him rather than with his arrangement, so you should find another way out.
Enhancing our sense of wisdom can make us think more about things, others, the results of things, take them seriously and handle them cautiously. When you want to argue with others, you can also remind yourself repeatedly: don't be angry, be calm. Only in this way can we suppress emotional impulses and avoid bad results.
2. Learn some ways to restrain bad temper.
Post warnings such as getting angry and controlling anger in your bedroom or desk to remind yourself to calm down.
When you feel excited, in order to avoid it immediately, you can change the topic or do something else to distract your attention, transfer your thoughts and feelings to other activities, and relax your panic. For example, leave the scene quickly, do other things, talk to someone, take a walk, or run outside for a few laps to let the energy aroused by anger release and calm down.
There are many things that can be handled in many ways. When things happen, you should be flexible, don't be so rigid, and sometimes you can give in and give each other a chance to change your mind and attitude. When choosing a method, we should consider the effect of things.
3. Suppress emotions through psychological transposition.
Psychological transposition means thinking from the other person's point of view and exchanging roles and positions with others. As the saying goes: Look at your heart. Through psychological transposition, playing the role of others and understanding the feelings and thoughts of others are conducive to preventing the occurrence of bad conscience and eliminating the bad conscience that has already occurred.
When a colleague offends himself, you can also think from the colleague's point of view, and you may feel that the colleague's behavior is excusable. In this way, bad conscience will weaken and disappear.
4. Learn to control your emotions through sublimation.
The so-called sublimation is to connect negative feelings with some bright spots in the mind and turn other bad feelings such as pain, worry and anxiety into positive and beneficial actions. For example, when our work performance is not satisfactory, we may feel depressed, but if we don't want to fall behind and fail, we can cheer up and catch up, thus turning negative emotions into positive actions.
5. Pay attention to what you complain about
People sometimes naturally change their views, but if someone says he is wrong in public, he will be very angry and become more stubborn, so that he will defend his views wholeheartedly. It is not how precious the insight itself is, but his self-esteem is threatened.
When you vent your emotions, you should use more informal places instead of formal places, and try to talk to your boss and colleagues in private to avoid making public comments and expressing dissatisfaction. Doing so will not only leave room for manoeuvre, even if the opinions put forward are wrong, it will not damage your image in the public mind, but also help to maintain the dignity of your boss and avoid others being passive and embarrassed.