Intimacy is the core component of friendship, and intimacy is also known as an important indicator to measure the degree of friendship.
Rogers (1985) summed up this intimate relationship from three aspects:
(1) Be able to reveal your thoughts, feelings and inner secrets to friends.
(2) Fully trust friends and be sure that their "confessions" will be respected by friends and will not be easily leaked or used against themselves.
(3) friendship relations limited to special evaluation, that is, limited to a few close friends or confidants. Everyone needs it.
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Common sense of successful communication with friends:
1. Listen to your friend.
As a friend, you should learn to listen. When your friend encounters setbacks and troubles, he will find someone to vent his emotions. As a friend, you can listen to each other sincerely and patiently, which opens an emotional outlet for your friend.
When a friend tells you something, you should not only listen patiently, but also insert one or two words of emotional comfort from time to time, or give your friend some ideas and methods, so that his feelings will get out of the swamp, and he will feel that having a friend like you is the real reliance, and his feelings will be deeper and his friendship will increase day by day.
A lady was extremely depressed because of her marriage accident, so she called her female friend to talk about her troubles. However, these days, just as this girlfriend was busy with her work, she couldn't find time to listen to her friends. As a result, this lady finally ended her life in anger because she couldn't bear the emotional repression for a while. If I had taken the time to listen to that friend's story and made some comforts, my friend would not have hit the wall.
2. Friends should also be divided into relatives and friends.
Although friends are the friendliest or most reliable communication objects in social circles, they have complicated human nature. When communicating with friends, you should also think carefully and make friends carefully. By nature, most people who become friends have similar interests and personalities, similar interests, similar educational level, lofty personality, empathy and so on.
In terms of communication reasons, there are embarrassing friends, friends who never turn their faces, friends who are in need, friends who are friends of gentlemen, friends who have forgotten the past, friends who have met once, friends who live in the market, friends who live in the past and friends who have old friends. No matter what the reason is, friends, after contact for a period of time, should have a choice, should have relatives and friends. For example, some friends are sincere and pure, and naturally they can be sincere and caring;
However, some of them are invested in you for some utilitarian purpose. Once the benefits are not achieved or you are too poor to be useful to him, he will leave you Such friends can't be close. What's more, it is better to keep a certain distance.
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