In the last issue, we talked about the characteristics of popular children. In this issue, we will continue to discuss how parents should help their children learn interpersonal communication when they enter the small kindergarten society.

In this regard, we also interviewed Sui Yuling, director of the first kindergarten affiliated to Fujian Kindergarten Teachers College. Let's listen to Sui Yuling's suggestions.

Understand the reasons

Parents need to understand and analyze the reasons for their children's difficulties in communication, whether it is timidity and lack of self-confidence, or insecurity caused by family relations, or overindulgence in upbringing and so on. Take different methods to help children for different reasons.

don't look at children from an adult's perspective

don't look at conflicts between children from an adult's perspective. Many parents are too nervous in dealing with the problem of children getting along with others, and they are eager to help their children solve it. This will easily enlarge the small contradictions between children and make them develop a haggle character.

Parents need to let go of their excessive anxiety about their children and guide them to solve interpersonal problems independently.

create more opportunities for children to communicate with children of the same age

encourage children to participate in more parties and group activities, so that children can gradually learn to make friends, learn to resolve conflicts with their peers through consultation, and learn to take the initiative to initiate activities during play, or to make ideas and find ways during activities.

relatives and friends are also important contacts

during holidays or weekends, parents may wish to take their children to visit relatives and friends, or even let them stay with relatives and friends for a few days to experience different living environments.

Let children exercise and improve their communication skills in the process of adapting to the new environment.

Pay attention to the interaction between neighbors

Create a good social communication environment for children, and encourage children to visit their neighbors' homes or invite them to play at home, which is a safer and faster communication way.

Bring their children into contact with unfamiliar environments

Parents can also take their children to play in public places such as suburbs and parks, so that children can have the opportunity to observe and get in touch with different places.

Encourage children to try to play with friends they meet for the first time, and guide them to ask for directions, buy things, etc., which will help improve children's adaptability to strange environments and people.

In addition, parents should not only pay attention to the time of their children's external communication, but also pay attention to the quality of communication.

Some children are introverted, prefer to think alone, and spend a long time alone, so parents should not worry too much, as long as their children are happy in their foreign contacts.