However, people's living habits will change after middle age. We should shift from Gao Daquan to fewer but better.
There is also making friends. Former friends all have their own life trajectories, their own thoughts, their own philosophies, their own lives and their own circles. They have always kept in touch and are lifelong friends. However, some friends are drifting away. Recently, I deleted all my friends I haven't contacted for 20 years. I haven't figured it out yet. Should I delete all my friends I haven't contacted in the last ten years? Maybe I will delete them, too. )
After middle age, people have different ideas, philosophies, experiences and habits, so it is difficult to make intimate friends. If you meet one occasionally, you should cherish it even more. But once you find that you have different beliefs, break up quickly to avoid falling into it. Now I choose my friends, and I am very picky. In other words, it's not easy to be my friend, hahaha.
Come to think of it, what is 40 without a wife and 50 without clothes? This is bullshit!
Live your favorite life, do what you want to do, and have fun with it, drifting with the wind.
Seeing this question really made me laugh. What age is it now? Are there still such old-fashioned people and customs?
I can't find the source of this sentence, but I want to answer this question according to my own understanding.
1 .40 don't marry, you can literally understand this old saying. If you are not married at the age of forty, it means you are a man. You shouldn't marry after forty. In ancient times, due to the limitation of living standards and medical standards, the average life expectancy of people was only over forty years old. Although the state actively encourages childbearing, men have to support their families and work hard everywhere. Compared with women, they take on more responsibilities and obligations and have a higher impact on life expectancy. For the men of that era, forty years old has entered the twilight years, and naturally there is no desire to get married? So there is an old saying called "Don't marry at forty".
2. fifty without clothes
My understanding of "fifty naked" should still refer to men. Because the old society was a patriarchal society, men lived outside and women lived inside. Men go out to make a living, women do housework at home, and it is natural for men to wear decent clothes when they go out. However, it is already very difficult for poor families to maintain their lives. If it is not a particularly important holiday, 50 is already the day of death, so there is no need to buy clothes.
Take care of your wife at the age of eighty or ninety, and take care of your clothes at the age of eighty or ninety. Now, the era we live in has entered 2 1 century. The average life expectancy in China has increased to about 75 years. People are more open-minded and have more diversified views on marriage and childbirth.
The pluralistic and inclusive social environment has given more care to the elderly. Many old people have chosen to fall in love, "marry at the age of eighty or ninety" and live a happy old age.
With the substantial improvement of living standards, the pursuit of fashion beauty is not only the patent of young people, but also the elderly can dress themselves up beautifully. The requirement of wearing clothes is not satisfied with the clothes themselves. "Taking care of clothes at the age of eighty or ninety", they have more choices in clothes. Wear home clothes at home, wear jackets and quick-drying clothes when traveling, wear suits and dresses when attending parties, and many elderly people also participate in model performances. Colorful old people are enjoying a beautiful and happy old age in their own way.
As for the old saying "don't marry at forty, don't wear at fifty", my opinion is that we should inherit and carry forward the valuable things in traditional culture; The dross must be resolutely eliminated.
What do you think of this problem?
40 without a wife 50 without clothes is 40 without a wife 50 without buying new clothes. As the old saying goes, people over 70 are old and rare, but now it's different. With the development of the times and social changes, the old saying has changed, because times are different, and now you are 40 years old and 50 years old.
This is related to the historical and cultural environment. Before liberation, people's life expectancy was generally low, and the longer time passed, the shorter it would be. This is related to the productivity at that time. After the Qing dynasty, people's life expectancy was generally around 50 or 60 years old. It was not until modern times that people's life expectancy increased a lot, reaching an average of over 75 years old. Therefore, the saying that 40 people don't get married and 50 people don't wear clothes is no longer applicable now, but it was quite reasonable before liberation.
In ancient times, people who could live to 60 years old belonged to a relatively long life. The past 60 years and the present 80 years are the same concept. The reason for short life span is related to living environment and war. In the era of low productivity, accidental injuries are related to food insecurity. It is difficult to live long in a bad living environment. Generally, 50 years old belongs to the old age stage. At this time, it has entered the end of life, and there are not many days to live. Therefore, in addition to buying shroud, new clothes are rarely made, because there are not many days to live and there are not many opportunities to wear them naturally. In the era of resource shortage, these things are precious and scarce, which are essentially different from now.
Not getting married at the age of forty means that you have reached the middle-aged and elderly stage. People are not energetic enough at this time. Even if you get married at this time, there are not many years to live, and it is still a costly thing. In ancient times, marriage was generally for carrying on the family line. At the age of forty, there are not many opportunities to carry on the family line. After all, it is unlikely that you want to have children when you are old, and your body can't bear it. You should not get married at this time.
In ancient times, the concept of forty was similar to that of sixty now. Few people get married at the age of 60 now, let alone in ancient times. Besides, at forty, you can't marry yourself unconditionally. It's almost impossible for a woman not to get married in her thirties. Even if she is divorced, no one dares to marry. Even widowed widows are basically widowed until they are old, and it is basically impossible to get married at dusk. People will gossip. What the ancients valued most was fame. Nowadays, people are interested in it.
In ancient times, people often said: stand at thirty, be confused at forty, know your destiny at fifty, be agreeable at sixty, be agreeable at seventy and be eighty.
Some old sayings and customs in rural areas are full of philosophy and have some truth in the background at that time. However, with the passage of time, we can't understand them too much? What does "40 has no wife and 50 has no clothes" mean? That is the old imperial calendar of the past, so we don't have to take it too seriously. We stand at thirty, live at seventy without being confused at forty. In the past, people's life expectancy was not as long as it is now, and very few people lived to seventy years old.
Let's start with "forty don't get married". People used to be forty, which can be said to be downhill. The original match or the separation of yin and yang means that they have never married a wife in their lives. When they got married at the age of forty, they were also halfway married. It is often said that couples who give up halfway will not last long. The emotional foundation is not guaranteed. Marrying a wife is often not a heart, not a photo of you, but a photo of your family. If you have a boy and a girl, no one can say whether it will be your last name. In that case, why not leave the property to the next generation? I am carefree and have no worries.
It's different now. Thirty is like a wolf and forty is like a tiger. Forty years old, young and strong, you can have a man and a woman when you get married. It's a pity that I don't marry at the age of forty, and I keep sending the golden cycle of my life. Living to 80 or 90 is not a problem.
Let's start with 50 naked, 50 knowing the destiny, that is to say, is God waving to you? In the past, people often said: three years old and three years old, sewing and mending again and again. No amount of clothes can be wasted. Besides buying clothes, in the past, the old man had to buy a shroud and 50 clothes before he died. No one wanted to see this scene. No one who is old enough to buy a shroud wants to see this. He is very unhappy and unlucky. Unless you are sick or old. Don't act on it.
I don't believe this now. Married at the age of seventy, the sunset is infinite. Buried by the coming night, I am the master of my life. 80 clothes, 80 clothes, that's a shroud. In ancient times, people divided deaths of different ages into early death, less mourning, short life and end of life, while people lived to 70 years old and were only 80 or 90 years old, which was called marriage, funeral and marriage. It is not uncommon to buy clothes and longevity materials. To tell the truth, I am very satisfied to see everyone around me gone.
Answer the first question first (40 don't marry).
Forty years old is the age of connecting the past with the future.
The ancients said "forty without confusion", that is, people of forty have experienced many things and have already made their own judgments. And there are children under it, parents all over the world, and the economic expenses are large. It is also the pillar of the whole family, and it is the age of connecting the past with the future. If you marry at this time, you will probably be opposed by your children and parents, and there will be great resistance. If we go our own way, in real life, many people will have many family conflicts and even lose their families. So most people don't get married.
Second, there is great social pressure.
Under normal circumstances, people of this age group have stable interpersonal relationships and wide social networks. If they get married, it will inevitably touch this fixed network and cause instability.
Third, the age is not appropriate.
If a 40-year-old man marries a wife, he is similar in age, has many children, and has a great economic and educational burden; Young people have different bodies, hobbies and ideas. And if you have children to raise in the future, it will be more troublesome.
So at this age, there are fewer wives.
Answer the second question (fifty without clothes).
First, temperament is fixed.
As the saying goes, "the beauty of birds lies in their feathers, and the beauty of people lies in their hearts." Fifty-year-old people have a lot of experience, deep experience, fixed temperament, pay attention to inner quality, and like inner beauty-spiritual beauty.
Second, do not pay attention to appearance.
As the saying goes, "young people like to wear it, and old people cook with lard." You knew your destiny at the age of fifty. People of this age prefer to eat, and it doesn't matter what they wear.
Third, I don't care much about other people's eyes.
Young people are well dressed and like to be favored by others, especially the opposite sex, and like to be praised by others. When they reach a certain age, they disappear.
To sum up, this may be the main reason why fifty people don't dress up!
Whether it's forty, fifty or sixty, it's all empty fingers.
People over 40 don't get married, which means that when they reach middle age, they don't worry about changing wives;
People over 40 who don't study art don't stop learning, but try not to change careers in middle age;
People over the age of 50 don't build houses, which means that their arms and legs are not good, and they stay honestly and try not to change their living environment;
People over 50 don't pay, and their brains are dull when they get old. Don't do things related to money, don't pursue material vanity, and don't wear clothes.
People over 60 years old don't talk, which is a cardiovascular and cerebrovascular disease. Don't be serious with people every day, be careful to die.
People over the age of 70 don't spend the night, and it is easy to fall asleep when they are older. Don't sleep in other people's homes and make trouble for others.
People over 80 don't have leftovers, and they are getting older. They choke when they drink cold water, so don't eat in other people's homes.
People born after 90 can't sit still and are not angry enough. To make a long story short, go home early when you're done.
We practice Tai Ji Chuan, and the older generation said: Practice more before forty, and raise more after forty.
Taiji preach is about Taoism. What is Taoism?
The sun is climbing before noon one day, so you can toss and turn, and it doesn't hurt to eat a little more;
In the afternoon, the sun will go to the western hills to cool off, and we will gradually calm down.
Nowadays, many people go out to exercise at night, just looking for trouble. The more they practice, the more painful it is.
Some people say that I toss and turn every night and see nothing.
If you don't know yourself, just listen to what the older generation says: Silly boys sleep in cold kang, and they all have strong firepower.
There are still many people who don't eat in the morning and have lunch at noon, pointing to the fat dinner.
We often talk about traditional culture, so let's take a look at the guidance of traditional culture on diet:
Shenshi, that is, from 3 pm to 5 pm, was called breastfeeding by the ancients.
It means don't eat after 5 pm.
It boils down to two sentences, called: work at sunrise and rest at sunset.
A year is called: spring, long summer, autumn harvest and winter storage.
Spring comes before the age of 20, and summer comes before the age of 40.
After summer, the year is over half.
People over the age of 40 are also called semi-Yin Qi by Chinese medicine.
What people should do after forty can be weighed by themselves.
It's all the same. The principle of cultivating Tao is called the principle of "Tao".
In the word "Tao", the "two points" above the "head" inside are yin, the "one horizontal" below is yang, the "self" below is oneself, and the "walking side" outside is: one yin and one yang walk by themselves.
The core of Tai Ji Chuan is to regulate yin and yang, from three aspects: regulating the body, regulating the heart and regulating the breath:
Simply put, physically, mentally and psychologically, you can't play.
It's simple to do, but it's hard to spend a day, and it's nothing more than curing diseases and keeping in good health.
This is what the older generation said: there should not be too many people over forty.
Literally, "40 don't marry, 50 don't wear" means that after 40, don't beg for a wife; Don't buy new clothes when you are fifty. This is of course an old saying, which obviously doesn't work in modern times. Modern people are all young adults in their forties and fifties. It is the prime of life, and it is normal to get married and buy clothes for three days a day.
The ancients generally lived a short life, got married early, had children at the age of 20, and it was normal to be a grandfather at the age of 40. Which wives and concubines did they marry? The ancients, especially the common people, lived to the age of 50 or 60, which was a long life and a natural death. How can ordinary people make new clothes? Leave the money saved to future generations.
Therefore, the old saying goes, in this specific era of ancient times, the specific living standard of this specific group of ordinary people does not apply to large families, nor does it match modern people.
This is a very old saying, "40 don't marry, 50 don't have clothes", which mainly talks about the relationship between people's age and living conditions. Use these two things to express what people of any age should not do.
First of all, we should understand that the definition of buying clothes at the age of 40 and 50 is influenced by the life span of people in previous years.
According to relevant data, before 2000, the average life expectancy of human beings was only about 20 years old; 18th century, growing to about 30 years old; It was not until the end of 19 that he grew to about 40 years old.
Therefore, the average life expectancy of ancient people was very short. In this context, it may be easier to understand the meaning of "forty don't marry, fifty have no clothes".
40 don't marry 1 Because of the short life span of ancient people, their life progress is generally ahead of our modern people. At that time, the girl was married at the age of fifteen, which was a prime of life; Boys 17 are adults, and marriage is also a common phenomenon; It is equivalent to what we now call the marriageable age for men and women. If you are unmarried in your early twenties and have no wife, you belong to older men and women.
2. For ancient people, when they live to 40, they have entered the old age stage, which is equivalent to 60 or 70 years old now. Because of the short life span, a 40-year-old man is already in a precarious state, and he may die one day. I don't know how long I can live. If I marry another wife, I will make people a widow. Moreover, it is not easy for those who left orphans and widows in ancient times to survive.
3. No matter from the perspective of his own life span or the future life of his family, a 40-year-old man is not suitable for marrying a wife again. Therefore, there was a saying in ancient times that "forty don't marry".
However, this statement is mainly aimed at people with average economic conditions and the poor in ancient times. Those rich and powerful men, even in their forties and fifties, can still get married and have children, just calling them concubines instead of wives. Therefore, "not marrying at forty" also has a certain relationship with economic conditions.
50 naked 1. In ancient times, due to the lack of living materials and the limitation of economic conditions, ordinary people did not easily buy clothes to wear at home, and often wore a set of clothes for a long time, even for generations. If it's broken, mend it and keep wearing it. Children have no clothes to wear, so they take the old clothes of adults and change one set into two sets. I can't afford to buy clothes often. Buying a new suit in the Year of the Monkey is also a big expense for an ordinary family.
Therefore, after the death of ancient people, all worn clothes and other articles will not be burned, only one or two of them will be symbolically burned, and the rest will be worn by living family members.
Due to the above factors, 50-year-old people will not buy clothes easily without special circumstances. Coupled with the short life span in ancient times, 50-year-old people have been buried in loess for half a head. Even if you buy new clothes and wear them for a few days, they will become the relics of the deceased after death. Everyone knows that wearing the clothes of the dead is not necessarily good for the living, and the ancients paid more attention to these aspects. So there is no special need, and it is not suitable for people aged 50 to buy new clothes. This kind of funds and materials are better used in the younger generation. That's why there is the saying "fifty without clothes".
Conclusion: Obviously, these two statements only apply to ancient times, but not to contemporary people. On the one hand, the average life expectancy of people has now increased to 70 or 80 years. On the other hand, our living materials are rich and our living conditions have been greatly improved. In terms of age, a 40-year-old man is now in his prime of life, and it is normal to marry a wife, but only later. There is no age limit for buying clothes. Whether you are 50 years old or over, you can buy clothes at will, without any pressure or restrictions. This is the difference of the times.
How to understand this?
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There are two reasons why people don't get married at this age, one is psychological and physical reasons, and the other is their own economic conditions.
These two reasons lead to the existence of many bachelors, and the existence of these two reasons is inseparable from social orientation and their own reasons.
40 don't marry, 50 don't wear. That's an old saying. Many people are still happy to have children in their sixties!
Fifty years without clothes means that a person's life is drawing to a close, there is no pursuit and ideal, and there is no need to leave anything behind. This is a kind of thinking that destroys life. People's life, no matter at what stage, should show their value, try their best, work hard and live without regrets.