Four elements of making friends:
(1) Honest and reliable. When you meet a stranger, you will "leave half a sentence in your mouth, but it is not all in my heart". Because you instinctively want to protect yourself and worry about being "hurt". And once the other party is found reliable. We'll talk forever. People treat you the same way. Only when you know that you won't betray him for your own benefit, and you won't break your word, will you be regarded as a good friend.
(2) Honesty, not hypocrisy. Weak personality does not affect making friends, and strong people may like you very much. But both the strong and the weak hate hypocrisy. Hypocrisy always opens half a window for others. Whoever tells him the truth will feel cheated afterwards.
(3) be reasonable. An unreasonable person has two qualities. First, I am too self-centered, unwilling and unwilling to understand and sympathize with others. Only individuals feel first; Second, self-indulgence in behavior, and friends are worried about poor academic performance. He came to complain why his friend didn't go dancing with him yesterday. He also pestered his friend about a trifle. Who wants to be with such a friend?
(4) Optimism without inferiority. People with low self-esteem can learn how to look at things and themselves with a "wide-angle lens" from confident friends, but too low self-esteem will make the other person lose the happy atmosphere of making friends, because no one wants to be with you endlessly. On the contrary, optimistic people can always bring spring to their circle of friends. Optimism itself is psychological support for people. In real life, optimists have more friends than ordinary people, while depressed people can only talk to individual confidants. Therefore, people who are good at making friends should pay attention to overcoming some bad personalities: I would rather tell my friends that I can't do it than lie; Would rather be indifferent than hypocritical; I would rather be clumsy than dishonest; I'd rather Ma Daha was not harsh at all; Would rather be slow than too clever; I would rather be angry than evil.
Five taboos for making friends:
(1) Arrogant and careless. Advantages in appearance, talent, family and position can promote others to get close to you. Everyone seems to have these advantages with you, which may give you a faint sense of superiority in your circle of friends. But be careful, once this sense of superiority is out of control, you may inadvertently put on an arrogant posture in front of your friends, show off yourself everywhere and look down on others, thus losing the equality and reciprocity of friendship. Because no one wants to sell their self-esteem for friendship.
2 regardless of each other, informal. Some people think they are generous and open-minded, and friends never cherish what they lend them, even if they don't return it for a long time. They just go through their friends' things and never say hello in advance. In the long run, friends will think your behavior is too rude and even think you are greedy. Young people often regard each other as a sign of profound friendship, but the maintenance and development of friendship still need to cherish, protect and abide by credit. A friend gives you something, which is a manifestation of emotional materialization, but on weekdays, you should cherish what you borrow, otherwise people will think you are unreliable.
(3) haggle over every ounce, too stingy. Friendship is gained by exchanging hearts for hearts. If you are afraid of losing everything and taking advantage of it, you will take it for granted. You love money like life. Of course, it is better for others to stay away from you.
(4) If you don't know the status quo, go your own way. No matter whether a friend is busy at work or idle, in a good mood or in a bad mood, no matter what occasion, he only cares about his own boasting, and others are obsessed with urgent matters. Doing so will be considered shallow and uneducated. There are also people who insist on others' submission. Both attitudes reflect the immaturity of understanding. I can't be considerate and understand people, and I can't adjust my behavior with the changes of the situation. Of course, this is not good for friends.
(5) Break your word and keep your word. This kind of person is generous on the surface, and it is not unpleasant to agree to other people's demands, but after agreeing, he forgets and forgets. Next time a friend urges you, just prevaricate. Maybe you think this is a trivial matter in life, but for others, breaking promises and contracts means destroying others' work arrangements and teasing others' feelings. Such people take part in accidental amusement, perfunctory, and can't be trusted friends.