The reason for breaking off diplomatic relations is also very simple. I was a weak character when I was a child. As long as I identify a person, I will be 100% good to that person, asking for nothing in return, regardless of gains and losses.
And that girl is very strong. She may never treat me as a friend. Maybe, she just thinks that being her friend should bow to her. It is my honor, even a privilege, for her to treat me as a friend.
She thinks I need her and care about her. I have a good temper and will never be angry with her, so she always loses her temper with me recklessly.
She likes to lose her temper for no reason, and then ignore people, forcing me to apologize to her at last and give her soft sets again and again.
Finally, after a daily temper tantrum, I never made up with her again. From then on, she and I were strangers. Although we live very close, my parents often come and go, and she tried to make up with me many times, but I never contacted her again.
Although this is a trivial matter, perhaps in the eyes of many people, it is just a fight between children, but in her, I really realized and learned a life truth for the first time.
Some people just don't like it. The more you get used to it, the more powerful she feels, and she thinks you are really afraid of him.
For you, you care about each other and want to maintain this hard-won friendship, but she is used to being unconventional. Of course, this is endless harm to herself.
Life is like this, so is marriage; Making friends is like this, and so is life partner.
Some self-righteous people, such as my childhood playmate, may think that the other person will never leave her side and will not go against her wishes.
But no one is a fool and no one is your slave. If you are in a hurry, the rabbit will bite you when you are in a hurry. At this time, it's your turn to be dumbfounded.
What unexpected and irreparable consequences have you caused? You can only enjoy the bitter fruit you have brewed. After all, you should have thought of this day before doing something unreasonable.
There are some things that you will never understand beforehand. Only when you suffer a loss afterwards and get what you deserve, will he begin to reflect on himself and regret what he did, but what's the use at that time?
Moreover, even if he is given another chance, he will still make the same mistake because he is lucky. He has never realized his mistake, but he wants to go back on his word because he can't afford the consequences, not really regret it.
Such a person, who never repents, knowingly commits a crime and learns a lesson, is not wronged.
This is the case with Zhang Qiaojia. They always feel that they are great, make unreasonable demands, ruin their daughter's marriage step by step without knowing it, and push the man's family to a dead end step by step. They also think they are bold and smart.
One wrong step, the whole game is lost, and finally I was accused by outsiders of "eating ugly", and now I end up as a rat crossing the street.
Zhang Qiao's family conditions are actually average. Her parents are poor, selling their labor and making a living in other places. Zhang Qiao has a younger brother who is old enough to get married and start a family. Zhang Qiao is not ugly, with a small face and delicate facial features. Naturally, she has no worries about getting married.
But my brother is different. When a woman marries a girl, it always depends on the conditions. Zhang Qiao's younger brother, Gungun, doesn't look like his father but his sister. He looks a lot like his mother. He is average-looking and not tall.
In addition, I don't like learning since I was a child, and my education is not very high. I found a job in my hometown, about 3 thousand a month, and my family conditions are good, that's all. So I went on a blind date several times, but nothing came of it.
For the sake of my brother's marriage, the family never thought of a way. Zhang Qiao's mother is very clever. She immediately thought of a good idea.
She found Wang Xian and prepared to work hard from here.
Explain the background. Zhang Qiao has a boyfriend. This boyfriend was talked about by Zhang Qiao in college. This man is Wang Xian.
Wang is tall and big. His father is a teacher and his mother is a kindergarten teacher. They are all compiled, and the family conditions are good.
Wang Xian and Zhang Qiao are classmates. They all graduated from normal university. However, after graduation, neither of the two young people chose to work in education. Wang Xian mainly thinks that it is difficult to do education, and the responsibility is great.
After all, I watched my parents work since I was a child and got a deeper understanding of their work, so I began to find another way out before graduation.
Later, after graduation, I was hired by a foreign company because of my outstanding foreign language achievements. Although the work is relatively idle now, the salary is quite high, and there is a lot of room for improvement in the future.
Zhang Qiao is a girl. Influenced by Wang Xian, she later went to work in an education and training institution. Although it has something to do with education, she mainly records online videos and teaches professional scientific research knowledge to some adults who want to charge, which is very different from traditional teaching and educating people.
Both of them are working in other places and there is no possibility of returning to the local area. After all, both of them are working in other places. When they return to their hometown, they can't find a professional counterpart, and they can't get such a high salary in the field.
If you don't go back to work here, you won't settle down here. Although housing prices in big cities are high, if you want to settle in your hometown for the sake of cheapness, going back three or two times a year is tantamount to insecurity and increasing your mortgage burden. It is better to save money temporarily and try to take root in big cities.
This was Wang Xian's idea, and of course Zhang Qiao agreed. After all, even if her hometown buys a house, her family can't afford it, and she has to rely on Wang Xian's family. Wang Xian wants to buy a house in a big city, so she is naturally happier and has nothing to say.
Wang Xian and Zhang Qiao are still in the struggle stage, so they are not suitable for marriage. Therefore, although they have reached marriageable age, the specific implementation schedule of marriage has not yet fallen. I plan to wait for a while and save more than two years before getting married.
Both Zhang Qiao and Wang Xian's parents know about it. Wang Xian's parents have always supported their son. Although their family also has some family background, it is still not enough compared with the cost of buying a house in a big city. In addition, there is such a useless in-laws. Although they are somewhat dissatisfied, they still support their son's ideas and don't interfere in their relationship.
In a word, Wang Xian's parents are more open-minded. Although they don't have much ability, they will try their best to help as long as their son speaks. Although Zhang Qiao's parents couldn't help, they didn't hold them back, that is, they did nothing.
But for the sake of her son, Zhang Qiao's mother temporarily changed her mind and prepared to do something.
Originally, Zhang Qiao's marriage was undecided. Naturally, the two families didn't talk much about bride price and so on. It is for this reason that Zhang Qiao's mother found Wang Xian this time.
Zhang Qiao's mother made a detour with Wang Xian, exchanged a few commonplaces and got down to business.
"Wang, you have talked with my daughter for several years. I think it's time to get married. If you don't consider it, get married first. You know that girls are not as good as boys, and time waits for no one. I'm also thinking about my daughter's future. Can you understand?
I know you are going to wait two years before getting married, but you can't wait now. Zhang Qiao shouldn't tell you There is a custom in our family. The boss must get married first. My son is married now. They are getting married, so your marriage can't be delayed. It must be finished before them. I can't help it, so I'm begging you. "
It's no use crying over spilt milk. Wang Xian can't shirk it, so she has to promise her future mother-in-law that she will discuss it with Zhang Qiao and her family before making a decision.
In fact, Zhang Qiao's mother had already passed away with her daughter. Where is my brother going to get married? However, the conditions are not good. Now she can't find a marriage partner. Zhang Qiao's mother thinks that when her daughter gets married, she needs a large amount of bride price and other expenses to buy her son a decent house and a car, so that she can easily find a wife.
She and Zhang Qiao also said again: "Daughter, I am also helping you. You say you are old, and you do what other boys say. Are you stupid? Finding a date for my brother is part of the reason. The bigger reason is not because you are worried. He delayed you for another two years and kicked you again. Do you think you can find another good man?
Listen to your mother and get married now. Anyway, neither you nor he can afford a house now. Just buy a house for your brother in his hometown first, and it's not too late to buy it after you get married. But your brother is different. You are his sister, and you ignore him. Even if he will be single for most of his life, our family will be gone.
If you listen to me, you will break up with him. You will get married sooner or later anyway. He refuses to go now, but there is a problem. He is willing to marry you at any time, and he will take the opportunity to test him well. "
I don't know whether Zhang Qiao's mother is too strong or whether the girl is stupid and unfilial. Anyway, after listening to her mother's words, Zhang Qiao turned the tables and made Wang Xian want to get married, otherwise he would break up if he didn't get married.
Wang Xian was helpless. Even though the timing was wrong, he agreed with Zhang Qiao.
Zhang Qiaojia doesn't ask much about the specifications of the wedding, but the bride price is 340 thousand, at a price, not a penny.
Wang Xian's family had problems, of course, but in the end, he agreed. He kept his promise and gave it quickly.
The marriage between the two families was particularly sudden, and before we could say anything else, we arrived at the scheduled wedding day. However, even if it is a little hasty, as newcomers, we should be happy. But on that day, except in the early days of marriage, Wang Xian was not happy for a moment.
On the wedding day, Wang Xian got up in the middle of the night in order to get to Zhang Qiao's house in time, but after arriving at Zhang Qiao's house, a series of bad things happened.
He had hoped to block the door with a red envelope, but it was not enough. My mother-in-law has to pay an opening fee of 20 thousand when she goes out in person
Although Wang Xian was not happy, he gave it to her in order not to dawdle and delay the auspicious time.
But after entering the door, when she was ready to carry the bride into the car, Zhang Qiao spoke again, saying that it was the custom there to give her mother-in-law a stomachache fee of 10 thousand.
Wang Xian was even more unhappy. He has never heard of any stomachache, but the relatives of the women around him think it should be given. Wang Xian didn't want to give it, but he did.
I finally got the bride back to her husband's house. Out of the car, Wang Qiao and ask for the fare, and ten thousand.
At that time, Wang Xian's mood had reached a critical point, but he still gave it because his relatives and friends were watching.
It was not until they arrived at the wedding scene that Wang Qiaocai spoke again under the hint of her mother's eyes. When she asked her in-laws for 20,000 yuan to change her mind, Wang Xian finally broke out.
He threw away the tea cup on the spot, pointed to Wang Qiao and Wang Qiao's mother and said, "I've had enough. Since this morning, I don't know how many difficulties your family has created. I got off the bus, opened the car door, and my stomach ached, so I changed my mind. Why didn't your family rob me? " Is there anyone like you? I can see that your family is not sincere about getting married at all. It's here to get rich, shameless! "
When this was said, "the whole audience was in an uproar. Zhang Qiao's younger brother, Wang Xian's future brother-in-law, jumped up. I don't know whether he became angry from embarrassment or for his own face. He came forward and gave Wang Xian a punch. At the wedding scene, the two entangled on the spot and fought. Nobody stopped him or listened. Finally, both of them went to the hospital.
Naturally, the wedding can't be held, but Zhang didn't intend to return the bride price at all, and she also said nonsense that she hit people first. Our parents are not the kind of uneducated reckless men, and they didn't argue with Zhang Duo. It is also a result that the bride price was finally returned by force after filing a lawsuit in court.
However, Zhang Qiaojia's operation, the thief shouted to catch the thief, and he was too embarrassed to ask for all kinds of money. It has become a minor celebrity in the local area. Later, he even wanted to mediate privately and continue the wedding. Wang Xian's family ignored it and let his family eat a big one.
People's patience is always limited, but some people just think highly of themselves and have to test the bottom line of others, just like Zhang Qiao and her family. Let's just say that I can understand the so-called mother-in-law's stomachache. I really don't understand.
Maybe this custom exists in some places. You can also explain to Fang Yan what this kind of fee is and what it is necessary to exist in the comment area. I also want to know.
But in any case, these expenses are unreasonable.
I often say that there is no need to promise such unreasonable expenses. It's not stingy to refuse. On the contrary, I want to ask those people and families who demand unreasonable conditions. What are their intentions?
After seeing what happened to Wang Xian, I even felt that maybe I could make an unreasonable request. As long as it is not excessive and the attitude of the other party is acceptable, I can consider accepting it as appropriate.
After all, sometimes, harmony is the most important thing, and both sides still hope for a good result, so this unpleasant episode may not necessarily end.
But those who are ignorant and fearless and push their luck have nothing to forgive.
People repeatedly gave in and endured, but he was aggressive and forced the other side to retreat. It was the last straw. Who will take care of the overall situation? Who wants that kind of kind thing?
Anyone with a little backbone and dignity will not let anyone ride on his head without resisting. Once they fight back, they will definitely not leave it at that. Even if you break your head, you will definitely take off each other's skin and let them know what happiness is, regardless of the consequences.
To be a man, you still have to leave room and do things absolutely. Finally, you may be ugly.