Xiao Da reorganizes the mail folder of the social networking site every three minutes. As time went by, his initial happy expression changed to a slightly anxious one. It turns out that Xiaoda is waiting for his love list to be announced.

As far as Xiaoda is concerned, he does not exclude the possibility of meeting his partner through online dating. Just through the introduction of a friend, Xiaoda and a girl named Alice started to know each other as online friends. After about fifteen days of family conversations, Xiaoda became more and more curious about Alice behind the screen, because they not only had the same topics, but also had a relaxed atmosphere of joking with each other, so he decided to type these words on the keyboard : If you are free this week, you should go out to eat together.

However, a month passed, and there was no news from Alice as if she had entered a fairyland. This made Xiaoda wonder if he had been rejected? But it was clear that the previous interaction felt good. Is this just a misunderstanding?

In an era of advanced technology, making friends online is no longer something unmentionable, but a medium for many people to find happiness. But how do you understand whether the person on the other side of the computer is interested in you? Or does the other person really just want to make friends online? Perhaps we can use the active behavior of humans when they like things as a reference for judgment.

When an online dating partner is interested in you/you, there are usually three manifestations:

Quick readback

When people are interested in the topic or object, Positive actions will be shown subconsciously. Even if they want to play the ambiguous game of push and pull, it won't last for too many days.

Care about posting

The other person is very concerned about you/your post. It is also possible that you just posted it one second and you immediately liked it the next second. In fact, this is all because the other party wants to understand the relationship between you/your lifestyle through you/your activities.

Continuously looking for new topics

Neither of us is willing to let the relationship end, so even the trivial things in life are eager to share with you through the Internet.

However, it is worth noting that in the above-mentioned behaviors, many emotional scammers are likely to perform the same behaviors. For example, on the other party’s graffiti wall, the frequency of interaction with people is very low, and the number of friends is not many, so it is likely to be his fake account, or his duplicate account; the second situation is that you have only known each other for a week and are in a hurry to make a date. You go out. If you/you feel something is wrong and the other person persists or is cajoled (e.g. it’s okay, just come out!) or asks for money, it’s best to keep a friendly distance and rethink the possibility of this relationship.

Of course, there is also a situation where the other person is not lying at all, but sincerely wants to make friends politely, but we may think too much about ourselves and think that the other person has a good impression of us. Just like Xiaoda mentioned in the previous case, Alice actually only responded to messages once every four or five days, and the content was just ordinary phone calls, and she did not want to continue to create topics. It's just that Xiaoda has too many romantic fantasies in the online dating space where he can't see real people, and he has too many expectations for Alice, whom he has never really understood.

So, in love interactions that emphasize respect and boundaries, especially in the more unknown space of online dating, we must not only protect ourselves and each other, but also respect others and ourselves. If the other person doesn't want to reply, or even doesn't reply for a long time, then we might as well let him/her go. This is tantamount to giving ourselves a new opportunity to get to know others. After all, love and acquaintance require more than just the fate of meeting, but also the gradual cultivation of feelings, which may be especially important in the era of rapid love. So don’t forget: the closer you feel to love, the more you need to keep a rational mind, especially in the world of online dating.