Moms often report that their children like to exchange items with friends. Every time their children make new friends, they start by exchanging items. This makes it difficult for parents to understand, because for Children do not understand the value of exchanged items, so many children will exchange more expensive items for cheaper items. This gives many parents a headache, but they do not know how to educate their children.

There are also many children who like to share their toys with friends very generously, and often give their toys to friends generously. It can be seen from this that children do not measure the value of goods in their hearts, so parents must find a suitable educational method to teach their children how to deal with the behavior of exchanging friends. Children often "exchange" friendship with classmates for items, which makes Bao's mother both angry and helpless

Mo Mo is in the second grade this year. Mo Mo's mother told us about her recent troubles. Mo Mo's mother said Mo Mo is a quiet and introverted child. He doesn’t have many friends in school. It was only recently that he discovered that Mo Mo often brings items from home to school to give to other children. When his mother asked Mo Mo why, Mo Mo said that he only gave gifts to his classmates. Only then will some classmates be willing to play with her.

This way of gaining friendship is very difficult for Mo Mo’s mother to understand. Usually Mo Mo just gives some gadgets to his classmates, until one day Mo Mo takes his mother’s bracelet.

It turns out that Mo Mo’s mother had a very beautiful jade bracelet, which she kept in a drawer and rarely took with her. Mo Mo was still young and didn't understand the value of the jade bracelet, so she took the jade bracelet to school and gave it to a friend who played well with her. The friend would give Mo Mo a comb, which made Mo Mo very happy.

After returning home, Mo Mo’s mother discovered that her jade bracelet was missing. After getting to know her, she found out that Mo Mo had exchanged it with a classmate in exchange for a comb. This made Mo Mo’s mother very angry. But I don’t know how to make children understand that it is wrong to exchange items to gain friendship.

I believe many parents have discovered that they and their children exchange items to gain friendship. For children, they do not understand the value of items, but if they often do this, they will inevitably affect their future interpersonal interactions. Why can children easily exchange items with friends?

1. Children "exchange" friendship with objects

① There is no concept of money in children's eyes

Psychologists say that young children have no concept of value of objects, and in their eyes objects are only divided into interesting and boring , the concept of money contained in items is a component of adult society.

So it is not difficult to understand that children can always easily give away their own things to their friends. In the eyes of children, they just give their friends toys that they think are fun, hoping that they can Share this fun item with friends.

②For children, friendship with friends is more important

It is very important for children to have playmates. If a child does not have friends around him, he will be very eager to have them. Friendship, at this time, he will use other means to obtain companions, such as exchanging items to get friends. Therefore, the most fundamental essence of children exchanging items is to make friends and find partners to play with.

③In order to maintain longer friendships

Although the child is young, he can understand that giving the most precious toys to his playmates will lead to longer friendships, so Many children like to give their precious toys to friends in order to maintain longer friendships. Some children also like to share their toys with everyone in order to gain everyone's welcome.

Two: Reflecting some inner psychological activities of children

①Children are introverted and lack self-confidence

Although the world of children is not as complicated as the world of adults , but for a child it is unbearable to be alone. Many children are not as popular as we imagine. They do not receive much attention in the group of children, so these children lack self-confidence.

Generally speaking, such children are relatively introverted, so in order to get more playmates and maintain longer friendships, they will engage in the behavior of exchanging items to gain friendship.

②Children are induced by their friends

Although the world of children is very simple, many children have certain perceptions of good things in their eyes due to different family economic conditions. desire. Therefore, children from poor families are very eager for fun toys when faced with them, so such children are likely to induce other children to give them fun toys.

③Children have no concept of value and simply like to share

Many children lack the concept of value, so they are very generous when giving toys to their friends. They simply like to share, and they will be very happy when they make new friends. They like to share their fun toys with these friends, so that the children themselves will be very happy. Faced with the behavior of exchanging friends, parents should guide the value of friendship

1. Educate children not to regret after exchanging.

When children exchange their beloved toys, once they have regrets Psychologically, as a parent, you must educate your children that things that are exchanged and given away cannot be taken back. This can also indirectly educate children about integrity issues.

So even if the child uses expensive items at home in exchange, the parents can only generously let the child give them away. It will be a psychological blow to the child to get the things given away.

2. Encourage children to share, but let them understand property sovereignty

I believe that when educating children to interact with others, many friends educate their children to become people who like to share, but many Children face sharing but don’t know the limits.

So parents must let their children understand that after parents give their children a toy, the child has property rights over the toy, but the child does not have property rights over the parents’ things or items at home, so Children have the right to decide whether their toys can be given away to others, but they still have to ask their parents first about items at home.

3. Let children understand that objects cannot buy real friendship

Many parenting experts say that when young children first interact with playmates, they will exchange objects.

This kind of exchange behavior is normal for children. They want to share their toys with their playmates, but there are also children who want to gain friends by exchanging items because they have few playmates around them. .

But at this time, parents must let their children understand that true friendship cannot be exchanged for items, so parents should encourage their children to take the initiative to make friends instead of exchanging items for friends.

In fact, for many parents, it is not a bad thing that their children like to share. What worries parents is that their children will exchange expensive items at home. And if a child is used to exchanging items to gain friendship, it will also affect his future values.

So when faced with children’s friend-making behavior, parents must pay attention to whether their children have developed a habit of exchanging items to gain friendship. If the child has accepted this behavior, then parents must help their children get out of this behavior. Misunderstandings about making friends, so that children can grow up healthier.