To introduce topics when chatting for the first time, you can start with your circle of friends, or you can talk about horoscopes, clothing, news, food, etc. For example, "The horoscope book says that we are suitable to chat today", which can create curiosity. effect, but it must be justified.

1 The most classic 3 types of chatting techniques

1. Chat with Zi Lai Shu

When you first add a girl to WeChat, Zi Lai Shu can let you Your chat will take a lot less detours, and you can eliminate the strangeness with the girl as quickly as possible. When the strangeness is eliminated and the girl puts down her guard against you, won't it be much easier to chat with the girl again?

When communicating with unfamiliar girls, many boys will subconsciously ask the girl: "How old are you?" "Where are you from?" "What do you do?" What's your name?" There are no technical questions. Such boys are straightforward, have low emotional intelligence, and generally have little love experience.

You must know that asking questions is only done between strangers. This kind of chat can easily put your chat into an unfamiliar situation. "Strange" girls will develop psychological defense against you. So what about girls? Maybe have a nice chat with you?

Look at the following chatting techniques:

1. "Looking at the photos in your circle of friends, I think of my elementary school classmates and feel like I am back to my childhood" (praise)< /p>

2. “With your wavy hair and your velvet jacket, you look so elegant” (detailed compliments)

3. “Why aren’t you sleeping, little night owl?” ( Nicknames, applicable at night)

4. "The horoscope book says that today is a good day for us to chat" (creating curiosity)

5. "Your dress is very T-stage style" "Son, I think your clothes are very good" (cold reading)

2. Show high value

Love itself is a game of value. Men pursue white skin, good looks, Women with long legs, women like men who are confident, smart, high EQ, and capable, so we must know how to show our high value during chats and gradually increase the girl's liking for you.

What veterans need to note here is that showing high value does not mean showing off. For example, "I drive a BMW and have a duplex house in the city." "Look, the watch I'm wearing is a Baoge watch." "Li" "I just negotiated a 5 million project." This will only make the girl think you have low emotional intelligence.

What is the correct way to display value? It is narrated in an indirect way through storytelling.

Look at the following chat words:

1. "I feel full of strength now. I just exercised in the gym for an hour and now I go home to take a shower." (Show that you like Fitness, a healthy lifestyle)

2. “I went out to eat with my friends, but the food hasn’t been served yet, and I feel like I’m going to collapse from hunger (there’s a high-end restaurant photo)” (Showing one’s own taste in life)

3. “Our company has several projects to do recently, and we are extremely busy every day” (Showing one’s ambition)

4 , "Every time our company has a gathering, they push me to sing on stage" (showing my good character and singing skills)

5. "I like this free and unrestrained feeling (lose A travel photo)" (show that you love traveling and have a rich life)

3. Emotional chat

We all know that girls are more emotional than rational animals, and being emotional is what makes them The biggest characteristic is that he will be happy when he says he is happy, and he will get angry when he says he is angry. He is basically dominated by his emotions.

Why many boys cannot arouse girls’ desire to chat is because their chats only focus on literal meanings and do not pay deep attention to girls’ emotions. If there is no emotional interaction when chatting with girls, then the chat will naturally be It was difficult to proceed.

So we must seize the girls' points of interest and have more emotional interactions with girls, so that we can continue to chat with girls in depth.

Look at the following chatting techniques:

1. "Based on my 20-year fortune-telling intuition, I feel that your personality is very cat-like"

2. "You women's sixth sense is so accurate, we men seem to have no clothes on in front of you"

3. "Are you going to become as thin as lightning and make all the women in the world jealous of you?"

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4. "Although you look very well-behaved, there is a heart that does not give up easily hidden behind your well-behaved appearance."

5. "Looking at your photos gives me a very artistic feeling." feeling, and artistic girls are generally more romantic, are you like this?"

2. Chat skills with girls

Exaggerate and admit your mistakes. When a girl points out your shortcomings, don't Justify, don’t lie, don’t deny. Acknowledge it, and exaggerate it.

For example, a girl asks: "Do you often strike up conversations with girls like this?"

You answer: "Yes, you are the 100th person I struck up a conversation with today."

Identify false questions and bypass non-answers

Not all questions require answers. Sometimes she just asks out of curiosity and does not really want to know. For example, a girl asks you: "Do you like children?"

The easiest way to deal with it is to pretend not to hear.

Admit first, deny later

It is the opposite of the exaggerated admission method above. First pretending to admit the girl's accusation, and then introducing a new explanation, making the girl realize that she is stupid.

The girl asked: "Are you chasing girls?"

You replied: "Yes, I am picking up a lot of girls... I am soaking in the swimming pool, There are a lot of girls here."

The girl asked: "Do you want to chase me?"

You replied: "Yes. I am training for the Olympics recently, and I am missing. A sparring partner."

Rhetorical questions

Rhetorical questions are a common tactic to escape the opponent's trap. Politicians like to play this old trick during the US presidential election.

In fact, the essence is still "breaking the frame". The other party designs a framework and you don’t jump into it, but instead throw her a new framework.

Some questions appear to give you two options, but in fact they don’t give you a choice. Whichever answer you choose is a trap.

Just like the two-choice question in marketing: "Do you want one tea egg or two?"

The embarrassing question asked by the girl: "What if your mother and I both If you fall into the water, which one will you save first?"

You can ask: "If your father and I both fall into the water, which one will you save first?"

Use " You..." instead of "I..."

Any question that makes you feel awkward is because you are trying to answer it with "I..." If you step out of the circle and turn "my question" into "your question," you won't feel awkward or difficult to answer.

"I" refers to oneself and is defensive. Answering questions with "I..." is just an excuse, looks weak, and becomes darker and darker.

"You" refers to the other party and is an attack. Use "you..." to answer questions, full of aggression, tit-for-tat, strong and confident!

For example, if you talk to a girl and say you want to get to know her, she asks "Why?"

If you answer with "I...", the answer you can think of is "I think you are beautiful..." "I fell in love with you the first time I saw you..." "I'm not a bad person, what does it matter if we get to know each other." None of these answers were strong.

Do you remember the devil’s answer: “Because you don’t look like a bad person.”