Because there will be some secrets between friends, and there will be betrayal between friends, so no matter how good the relationship is, we must keep a certain distance. When making friends, we should also give each other some space and the right to hide secrets. After all, everyone is an individual, and not everything has to be told to each other. Even the best friends will betray and quarrel, so no matter how good friends are, they should keep a certain distance, because they may hide some unknown secrets or tell others the secrets you told them. This kind of thing is very bad for the relationship between friends and is also a betrayal. Friends make room for each other. In the process of being friends, we should also leave some space for our friends to do what they want. This doesn't mean that this is our own friend, so we can't let our friends do things we don't like. This is terrible. Keep a distance between friends No matter how good the relationship between friends is, keep a certain distance, because some friends will have some barriers, for example, he will tell others the secret you told him, which is very bad. This is a bad habit, and you must keep a certain distance from him afterwards. Friends need some trust, and friends also need some trust. After giving him enough trust, the relationship between friends will also heat up. Trust between friends is also very important. If there is no trust between friends, the relationship between friends will get worse and worse, which is very unfavorable to the relationship. So trust is necessary. When making friends, we must carefully consider whether this person's three views are correct and how his moral quality and personality are. Making friends must have good habits, which is good for both sides. We can learn from each other and make progress together. Even a good friend should have a sense of distance. As the saying goes, "everything is learned when the world is clear, and human cultivation is an article." Being a man is a subject that we have to study all our lives. No matter who you associate with, you should be careful. Because defeating a relationship is never a big deal, it's all about getting along with each other. If you cherish a relationship, then no matter how good it is, don't ignore the following three hidden rules. Don't be mean. Colleague vivi broke up with the so-called "best friend" because this best friend likes to "joke" with her. "Vivian, what are you wearing? Too corny. " "Vivian, why are you still so fat? Don't you lose weight? " "Wei Wei, the circle of friends you sent yesterday looks so low!" Every time she speaks, Vivian feels ashamed. But if Weiwei gets angry, the other party will exaggerate and say, "We have known each other for so many years, don't you know me?" I just like joking. "After she once again mocked Vivian in front of the boy Vivian liked, Vivian finally made up her mind to break up with each other. No one likes to be friends with people who have been beating themselves up. The kindness of adults is to know how to give each other a step and take care of each other's face. Many people regard meanness as fun, and think that the closer they are, the more outspoken they should be, but no matter how close they are to the leader, they will not say anything that offends people. As the saying goes, "You can spit roses or thorns. "Fate decides who comes into your life, but your mouth decides who can stay in your life. Talking less and doing more is the wisdom of life. The better the relationship, the more compassionate it is. Mouth is an axe that hurts, but words are a knife that cuts the tongue. Only by talking with your feet and mastering proper limit can a relationship go far. Don't easily have a good friend with financial debts. When it comes to money, friendship is greatly reduced. No matter how good the relationship is, we must insist on: "Brother, settle accounts clearly. "The other party please have a meal, you go back to see a movie. Only by giving and taking can a relationship be stable. Never think that "the other person has money" and "it doesn't matter if you eat two meals", because no one's money is blown by the wind, and reciprocity is the way to get along. I remember when I was a child, my aunt opened a small restaurant. I want to be fired and do some business. As a result, it won't open in less than three months. Today, friend A goes to eat and keep accounts, and tomorrow, friend B gives you a discount. It's a good name to come here to eat and give you face ... but restaurants in small counties are small businesses, and my aunt naturally can't make money. Such friends naturally don't want to associate anymore, because they are just friends in the name of friendship. Ji Bolun once said, "Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, not an opportunity. And too many people create free opportunities for themselves in the name of friendship. "People who take advantage seem to get it, but in fact they have lost something more precious: the trust of their friends. Those seemingly unnecessary gains will be rewarded in another way. Friendship between friends is like a credit card. Please do not overdraw at any time. Free food is not very delicious, and free labor is not necessarily easy to use. No matter how good the relationship is, please take into account the discretion between friends. " Small things look at the pattern, and details look at the character. "Never lose friends because of petty gain. Don't have a sense of boundaries. The better the relationship, the easier it is to know some information about each other. This is also a kind of trust between friends. But don't betray others' trust and spread others' privacy for the second time. What's the marital status, salary, how to get along with in-laws ... There is a kind of friend, like an invisible horn, who can't wait to tell the world that he knows about it the next second. He also likes to ask around. If you don't tell him, he thinks you don't consider yourself a friend. Privacy has no boundaries and will push friends further. There are also friends of the opposite sex. If the other person has the other half, those who avoid suspicion must avoid suspicion. Many people have no scruples about each other because they are friends, but they don't know how deep this is in the eyes of the other half. Love is possessive. Don't make green tea without knowing it. I once saw a media person share it, because my good friend kept contacting my boyfriend, and finally they broke up. Although the other party innocently said that we were really just good friends, would a really good friend call her boyfriend in the middle of the night to say that she was sad? Relationships have no boundaries and will only make you rolling in the deep. Zhou said, "Even good friends should have a distance. Too lively friendship is often empty. "No matter how good the relationship is, we must also maintain friendship with our hearts. No relationship has no reason to end, but there are too many disappointments. Feelings, shades are best; Far away, far away, peace is the most beautiful. If you want a long-term relationship, you must pay attention to three words: appropriate limits. * * * Encourage. Even a good friend should have a sense of distance. In life, too much disappointment comes from overestimating yourself, perhaps underestimating others and expecting too much from others. As the saying goes, "it is good to eat seven points full, but it is only seven points good for people." You can expect something from people, but don't expect too much, which will make you more disappointed. Don't overestimate your position in other people's minds. No matter how good you are, some people despise you, and no matter how good you are, some people say that you are not good. Not everyone will put themselves in your shoes, and not everyone will like you and keep you in mind. After a long time and more experience, you will understand that human feelings are as thin as paper. Turn over when you say it, change when you say it, and disperse when you say it. People often expect too much and there will be more disappointment. Times are changing, people's hearts are changing, the world is cold and human feelings are indifferent, which has become a normal state in the world. Friends need to make friends and get along slowly; Feelings need to be tasted and savored; No matter how good the relationship is, you need to keep your distance. There is no need to be too enthusiastic and too serious about people. If you are kind to others, others may not appreciate you. If you take others too seriously and pay too much, others may not appreciate you. Perhaps you are stupid. A person is more interested in others than himself, and as a result, he is hurting himself. Love a person, be sober, don't lose your mind, you can love to the bone, but you can't love to the dust. Love is not everything to you. There are many things to do besides love. In feelings, it is good to love another person for seven points and love yourself for three points. Between friends, even the best feelings should be clearly divided, twisted and overzealous, which is by no means a good way to maintain feelings. No matter how good your feelings are, don't wronged yourself and please anyone; No matter how good the relationship is, we should keep a certain distance. Being too close to others is a disaster. When getting along with others, I always ask others for help and don't know how to refuse, which makes me suffer a lot, suffer a lot of grievances and lead a humbled and tired life. We all have our own lives, and there is no need to please anyone. Instead of trying to maintain an unworthy circle, it is better to leave more time for yourself and live yourself well. A good circle is not sought after by others, but won by your own ability. A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and a long-term relationship needs a touch of friendship. It's not annoying to come out for a while, but also deepen our intimate relationship and give ourselves and others some private space. Remember, no matter how good the relationship is, you can't get too close.